Anonymous
Post 04/26/2023 21:42     Subject: Watching this forum
Anonymous wrote:It feels a little strange as the parent of a senior finishing up HS in a month to watch this board shift from our cohort to the next without missing a beat. And I can see all of the same questions coming up again like clockwork. I really want rising senior parents to see how much the landscape has changed from what they likely think they understand about the process to ensure their kids have great options at this time next year. So, jr. parents, take a deep dive into this forum (read back starting from this time last year and check out posts that seem relevant) and happy learning. Best wishes!

I wish I had found this place earlier! Pains me to see Junior parents about to make the same mistakes we did. It’s a wild cruel world out there.
Anonymous
Post 04/26/2023 20:32     Subject: Watching this forum
My kid is done with college now, and you are very right about the same themes/trajectory each year.

Yet people think it is only hard/dramatic for their kid.

I really wish parents of younger kids could take the moderate posters to heart.

It is NOT about status/earning potential/impressing your neighbors with your bumper sticker.

It IS about helping your child navigate a stressful time with good mental health. Helping your child decide what path is best for him/her, while tuning out those who would make him/her doubt theirworth/potential.
Anonymous
Post 04/26/2023 17:49     Subject: Watching this forum
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:It feels a little strange as the parent of a senior finishing up HS in a month to watch this board shift from our cohort to the next without missing a beat. And I can see all of the same questions coming up again like clockwork. I really want rising senior parents to see how much the landscape has changed from what they likely think they understand about the process to ensure their kids have great options at this time next year. So, jr. parents, take a deep dive into this forum (read back starting from this time last year and check out posts that seem relevant) and happy learning. Best wishes!


+1 (also parent of a senior). I agree.

And maybe one of the worse parts of the entire process was explaining to my baby boomer parents how the landscape has changed and how little Larlo, with his mostly As and Bs, isn't getting into Harvard, despite his part time job and recreational sports. Meanwhile, my kid is happy and so am I.


Ha! Yes. The most anxious one in my family is my MIL who thinks my smart daughter should go to Ivy League, and if she fails to do so, it’s because I haven’t served her well. LOL!


I can SOOO relate to this - but not my MIL, rather - it's own mother.
Anonymous
Post 04/26/2023 17:40     Subject: Watching this forum
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:It feels a little strange as the parent of a senior finishing up HS in a month to watch this board shift from our cohort to the next without missing a beat. And I can see all of the same questions coming up again like clockwork. I really want rising senior parents to see how much the landscape has changed from what they likely think they understand about the process to ensure their kids have great options at this time next year. So, jr. parents, take a deep dive into this forum (read back starting from this time last year and check out posts that seem relevant) and happy learning. Best wishes!


+1 (also parent of a senior). I agree.

And maybe one of the worse parts of the entire process was explaining to my baby boomer parents how the landscape has changed and how little Larlo, with his mostly As and Bs, isn't getting into Harvard, despite his part time job and recreational sports. Meanwhile, my kid is happy and so am I.


Ha! Yes. The most anxious one in my family is my MIL who thinks my smart daughter should go to Ivy League, and if she fails to do so, it’s because I haven’t served her well. LOL!
Anonymous
Post 04/26/2023 17:33     Subject: Watching this forum
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:It feels a little strange as the parent of a senior finishing up HS in a month to watch this board shift from our cohort to the next without missing a beat. And I can see all of the same questions coming up again like clockwork. I really want rising senior parents to see how much the landscape has changed from what they likely think they understand about the process to ensure their kids have great options at this time next year. So, jr. parents, take a deep dive into this forum (read back starting from this time last year and check out posts that seem relevant) and happy learning. Best wishes!


+1 (also parent of a senior). I agree.

And maybe one of the worse parts of the entire process was explaining to my baby boomer parents how the landscape has changed and how little Larlo, with his mostly As and Bs, isn't getting into Harvard, despite his part time job and recreational sports. Meanwhile, my kid is happy and so am I.


I’m a baby boomer parent. It never occurred to me that my own kids, who had better records than you have described, were ever getting into Harvard-level colleges. Sounds like your beef is with your own parents, not a whole generation. Stop being ageist.
Anonymous
Post 04/26/2023 17:31     Subject: Watching this forum
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Immigrant parents really need to get themselves familiar with the mess of essay/ED/EA/REA/SCEA/FA/WL and blah blah


Ha, ha that's me. I'm a parent of a Junior in high school and I spend at least 1hr per day on this forum. Everyday I learn something new!

I didn't know what UMR was until I came here. Thank you DCUM, now I know my kid would have a better chance...


What is UMR??
Anonymous
Post 04/26/2023 17:28     Subject: Watching this forum
Help us out! Post your lessons here.
Anonymous
Post 04/26/2023 17:04     Subject: Re:Watching this forum
Any favorite threads?? Going back a year seems nuts…
Anonymous
Post 04/26/2023 16:51     Subject: Watching this forum
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Immigrant parents really need to get themselves familiar with the mess of essay/ED/EA/REA/SCEA/FA/WL and blah blah


Ha, ha that's me. I'm a parent of a Junior in high school and I spend at least 1hr per day on this forum. Everyday I learn something new!

I didn't know what UMR was until I came here. Thank you DCUM, now I know my kid would have a better chance...


An hour a day??? Gosh
Anonymous
Post 04/26/2023 15:56     Subject: Watching this forum
Anonymous wrote:Immigrant parents really need to get themselves familiar with the mess of essay/ED/EA/REA/SCEA/FA/WL and blah blah


Ha, ha that's me. I'm a parent of a Junior in high school and I spend at least 1hr per day on this forum. Everyday I learn something new!

I didn't know what UMR was until I came here. Thank you DCUM, now I know my kid would have a better chance...
Anonymous
Post 04/26/2023 13:40     Subject: Watching this forum
Immigrant parents really need to get themselves familiar with the mess of essay/ED/EA/REA/SCEA/FA/WL and blah blah
Anonymous
Post 04/26/2023 12:55     Subject: Watching this forum
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:It feels a little strange as the parent of a senior finishing up HS in a month to watch this board shift from our cohort to the next without missing a beat. And I can see all of the same questions coming up again like clockwork. I really want rising senior parents to see how much the landscape has changed from what they likely think they understand about the process to ensure their kids have great options at this time next year. So, jr. parents, take a deep dive into this forum (read back starting from this time last year and check out posts that seem relevant) and happy learning. Best wishes!


+1 (also parent of a senior). I agree.

And maybe one of the worse parts of the entire process was explaining to my baby boomer parents how the landscape has changed and how little Larlo, with his mostly As and Bs, isn't getting into Harvard, despite his part time job and recreational sports. Meanwhile, my kid is happy and so am I.


This sort of minimizes the current landscape - so for you new parents - kids with all As are not necessarily getting into a T25 either. AND ED for most T25 are far less likely to be your leg-up pathway. ED result was defer for so many full pay with no hook. So make a very thoughtful, broad list and BE PREPARED FOR THE LONG HAUL.
Anonymous
Post 04/26/2023 12:36     Subject: Watching this forum
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:It feels a little strange as the parent of a senior finishing up HS in a month to watch this board shift from our cohort to the next without missing a beat. And I can see all of the same questions coming up again like clockwork. I really want rising senior parents to see how much the landscape has changed from what they likely think they understand about the process to ensure their kids have great options at this time next year. So, jr. parents, take a deep dive into this forum (read back starting from this time last year and check out posts that seem relevant) and happy learning. Best wishes!


+1 (also parent of a senior). I agree.

And maybe one of the worse parts of the entire process was explaining to my baby boomer parents how the landscape has changed and how little Larlo, with his mostly As and Bs, isn't getting into Harvard, despite his part time job and recreational sports. Meanwhile, my kid is happy and so am I.



Anonymous
Post 04/26/2023 12:33     Subject: Watching this forum
Anonymous wrote:It feels a little strange as the parent of a senior finishing up HS in a month to watch this board shift from our cohort to the next without missing a beat. And I can see all of the same questions coming up again like clockwork. I really want rising senior parents to see how much the landscape has changed from what they likely think they understand about the process to ensure their kids have great options at this time next year. So, jr. parents, take a deep dive into this forum (read back starting from this time last year and check out posts that seem relevant) and happy learning. Best wishes!


+1 (also parent of a senior). I agree.

And maybe one of the worse parts of the entire process was explaining to my baby boomer parents how the landscape has changed and how little Larlo, with his mostly As and Bs, isn't getting into Harvard, despite his part time job and recreational sports. Meanwhile, my kid is happy and so am I.
Anonymous
Post 04/26/2023 12:28     Subject: Watching this forum
It feels a little strange as the parent of a senior finishing up HS in a month to watch this board shift from our cohort to the next without missing a beat. And I can see all of the same questions coming up again like clockwork. I really want rising senior parents to see how much the landscape has changed from what they likely think they understand about the process to ensure their kids have great options at this time next year. So, jr. parents, take a deep dive into this forum (read back starting from this time last year and check out posts that seem relevant) and happy learning. Best wishes!