Anonymous
04/22/2023 11:10
Subject: Re:There is still time between now and Mother’s Day to:
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Are you forgetting how much conflict comes from different generations of mothers within the same family having opposing wishes for how to spend the day? What is your practical advice for a husband whose mom wants to spend the whole day visiting with all of her children and grandchildren and have dinner at home, while his wife wants to sleep in, have an outing with her kids, and then go out to dinner?
The mother who is currently actively mothering gets priority.
I can't belive you are all serious about this. I'm embarrassed for you.
Anonymous
04/22/2023 10:59
Subject: Re:There is still time between now and Mother’s Day to:
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Are you forgetting how much conflict comes from different generations of mothers within the same family having opposing wishes for how to spend the day? What is your practical advice for a husband whose mom wants to spend the whole day visiting with all of her children and grandchildren and have dinner at home, while his wife wants to sleep in, have an outing with her kids, and then go out to dinner?
The mother who is currently actively mothering gets priority.
In your opinion — but the fact is that there will be numerous posts from women whose husbands did something thoughtful for their own mothers, but nothing for the mother of their children.
NP. Yes, that’s why this post makes the point that there is still time to sit down with your spouse and have a conversation about how you want the day to go.
Anonymous
04/22/2023 10:57
Subject: Re:There is still time between now and Mother’s Day to:
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Are you forgetting how much conflict comes from different generations of mothers within the same family having opposing wishes for how to spend the day? What is your practical advice for a husband whose mom wants to spend the whole day visiting with all of her children and grandchildren and have dinner at home, while his wife wants to sleep in, have an outing with her kids, and then go out to dinner?
The mother who is currently actively mothering gets priority.
In your opinion — but the fact is that there will be numerous posts from women whose husbands did something thoughtful for their own mothers, but nothing for the mother of their children.
Anonymous
04/22/2023 10:51
Subject: Re:There is still time between now and Mother’s Day to:
Anonymous wrote:Are you forgetting how much conflict comes from different generations of mothers within the same family having opposing wishes for how to spend the day? What is your practical advice for a husband whose mom wants to spend the whole day visiting with all of her children and grandchildren and have dinner at home, while his wife wants to sleep in, have an outing with her kids, and then go out to dinner?
Simple: since Mother’s Day is a made-up holiday anyway, celebrate your wife on the actual day of, and take your kids to see your mom either the day before or the weekend before. And if your mom grumbles, oh well. Adults can deal with the occasional disappointment, and your strongest duty is to the mother of your children, who is still in the thick of active, daily parenting.
Anonymous
04/22/2023 10:33
Subject: Re:There is still time between now and Mother’s Day to:
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Are you forgetting how much conflict comes from different generations of mothers within the same family having opposing wishes for how to spend the day? What is your practical advice for a husband whose mom wants to spend the whole day visiting with all of her children and grandchildren and have dinner at home, while his wife wants to sleep in, have an outing with her kids, and then go out to dinner?
The mother who is currently actively mothering gets priority.
+1
Anonymous
04/22/2023 10:33
Subject: Re:There is still time between now and Mother’s Day to:
Anonymous wrote:Are you forgetting how much conflict comes from different generations of mothers within the same family having opposing wishes for how to spend the day? What is your practical advice for a husband whose mom wants to spend the whole day visiting with all of her children and grandchildren and have dinner at home, while his wife wants to sleep in, have an outing with her kids, and then go out to dinner?
He can take his kids to see his mom while his wife sleeps in and has the morning free, include his Mom in lunch either out or at her home, her choice.. Then does something with the wife and kids in the afternoon and takes wife and kids out for dinner.
Anonymous
04/22/2023 10:29
Subject: Re:There is still time between now and Mother’s Day to:
Anonymous wrote:Are you forgetting how much conflict comes from different generations of mothers within the same family having opposing wishes for how to spend the day? What is your practical advice for a husband whose mom wants to spend the whole day visiting with all of her children and grandchildren and have dinner at home, while his wife wants to sleep in, have an outing with her kids, and then go out to dinner?
The mother who is currently actively mothering gets priority.
Anonymous
04/22/2023 10:20
Subject: Re:There is still time between now and Mother’s Day to:
Are you forgetting how much conflict comes from different generations of mothers within the same family having opposing wishes for how to spend the day? What is your practical advice for a husband whose mom wants to spend the whole day visiting with all of her children and grandchildren and have dinner at home, while his wife wants to sleep in, have an outing with her kids, and then go out to dinner?
Anonymous
04/22/2023 10:17
Subject: There is still time between now and Mother’s Day to:
Anonymous wrote:NO. OP this post is demanding and obnoxious! "There’s still time. No excuses, no whining." GET OUT OF HERE!
Furthermore it's offensive to assume all of this. Not all of us have a mother, a live mother, a mothers worth celebrating.
Not every post is about you or relevant to you. Do you get that?
Anonymous
04/22/2023 10:11
Subject: There is still time between now and Mother’s Day to:
I think OP was referring to your Mother’s Day not your dead or horrible moms.
Anonymous
04/22/2023 09:52
Subject: There is still time between now and Mother’s Day to:
NO. OP this post is demanding and obnoxious! "There’s still time. No excuses, no whining." GET OUT OF HERE!
Furthermore it's offensive to assume all of this. Not all of us have a mother, a live mother, a mothers worth celebrating.
Furthermore it's offensive to assume all of this. Not all of us have a mother, a live mother, a mothers worth celebrating.
Anonymous
04/22/2023 09:42
Subject: There is still time between now and Mother’s Day to:
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:1) Discuss plans with your spouse/children/other family members and make the plans you want
2) Cancel or adjust plans you don’t want to go through with
3) Ask your children and/or your spouse for a specific gift or experience
4) Tell your spouse what you will not be doing, so it’s clear that you are not buying gifts or making plans for someone else
5) Plan exactly the day you want and inform people what you are doing
There’s still time. No excuses, no whining.
Sounds like a lot of work.
OP here. I don’t have to do any of the above, but there are threads on these kind of things every year. I’m not saying any one person has to do any of these things, but I know perfectly well we are just a week or two away of the predictable whining/woe is me posts.
Anonymous
04/22/2023 09:41
Subject: There is still time between now and Mother’s Day to:
Anonymous wrote:1) Discuss plans with your spouse/children/other family members and make the plans you want
2) Cancel or adjust plans you don’t want to go through with
3) Ask your children and/or your spouse for a specific gift or experience
4) Tell your spouse what you will not be doing, so it’s clear that you are not buying gifts or making plans for someone else
5) Plan exactly the day you want and inform people what you are doing
There’s still time. No excuses, no whining.
Sounds like a lot of work.
Anonymous
04/22/2023 09:40
Subject: There is still time between now and Mother’s Day to:
mothers day sucks.
Anonymous
04/22/2023 09:37
Subject: There is still time between now and Mother’s Day to:
1) Discuss plans with your spouse/children/other family members and make the plans you want
2) Cancel or adjust plans you don’t want to go through with
3) Ask your children and/or your spouse for a specific gift or experience
4) Tell your spouse what you will not be doing, so it’s clear that you are not buying gifts or making plans for someone else
5) Plan exactly the day you want and inform people what you are doing
There’s still time. No excuses, no whining.
2) Cancel or adjust plans you don’t want to go through with
3) Ask your children and/or your spouse for a specific gift or experience
4) Tell your spouse what you will not be doing, so it’s clear that you are not buying gifts or making plans for someone else
5) Plan exactly the day you want and inform people what you are doing
There’s still time. No excuses, no whining.