You move up when someone does, but when you have kids you move back down to sit by them.

When my grandmother was alive and hosting holidays, you stayed at the kids table until a place opened by death at the main table.

The result was that as a 34 year old mother of three I was still at the kids table.

Anonymous wrote:When they have kids.

+1

When they have kids.

Egg hunt stuff? Usually the teens kind of opt out on their own but they are welcome to participate if they want to!

Stockings for everyone in the house on Xmas day. If there is a "kid table", usually there are adults who prefer to sit there.

Oldest is 22 and still treated like a child...waiting.

Everyone gets a stocking. Our Congregation has the middle and high school youth groups run the egg hunt. We never did an egg hunt at home. I stopped getting chocolate bunnies for them when they went to college. OTOH. My sister still does egg hunts for her college aged children.

It can be wherever age you want.

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Anonymous wrote:You can't move up to the adults' Thanksgiving table until someone does. Then the oldest cousin gets their seat.

Ha. In our family, we stayed at the "kids table" until we were in our 20s, because it was more fun.

I am 42 and I still have to sit there. The youngest cousin is 35 and is an accountant.

Lol, we were just talking about this at a seder - should the 23 yr old get to search for the afikomen or nah. (We voted yes.)

There's no hard and fast rule.

Anonymous wrote:You can't move up to the adults' Thanksgiving table until someone does. Then the oldest cousin gets their seat.

Ha. In our family, we stayed at the "kids table" until we were in our 20s, because it was more fun.

You can't move up to the adults' Thanksgiving table until someone does. Then the oldest cousin gets their seat.

Everyone gets a stocking. Egg hunts, I think we did them until we went off to college/turned 18, but generally the teens actually helped the little kids, rather than just getting their own eggs.

We have adult stockings and easter egg hunting. It just gets more difficult.

Teenager and up

If you have traditions in your extended family that distinguish between children and adults, where's the line? I'm thinking of things like stockings or Easter egg hunting?

Mostly thinking of families with large age gaps between kids. We've got 20+ years between the oldest and youngest cousin.