Grandparents had DH and I at 25-30. We had kid 1 at 27 and kid 2 at 29. Both sets of my kids grandparents were in mid to late 50s when they were born. Kids are now in college and all 4 are still independent and relatively healthy in mid 70s and have been very involved with my kids.

I had my own grandmother with us until she was in her mid 90s, when ai was 45. She lived in an apartment in a retirement community, and was active until the last 6 months of her life. I’m so happy she lived to develop a relationship with my children, who were in their teens when she died.

I see this as a big upside of having kids on the younger side.

If you have kids by the time you are 25, you might have grandkids by the time you are 60.

I think 65 is the best age, because you will probably be close to retirement then.

Anonymous wrote:DCUM will tell you, 80. You have a baby at 40, and so does your child.

Where do you get that idea? I think most people want their kids to be ready but, ideally younger is better because you can do things. I would say between 60-65 but, you don't always get what you want!

Anonymous wrote:DCUM will tell you, 80. You have a baby at 40, and so does your child.

I hope I'll be dead by 80, not hoping for it all to end while stuck in a nursing home.

My own mom was very involved with kids of my older sibling, somewhat with mine but by the time my younger brother had kids, she was not in good health to get involved much, even though she lived with him, wanted to and was supported by my brother and his wife in doing so.

60ish is ideal

My parents had me when they were near 40 and I had my kids at the same age. My kids are incredibly close to my mom. She helped a lot when they were little and has stayed in touch with them. It helps that she is in incredible physical shape and was very active through her 80s.

My parents became grandparents at 54 & 55; one of my siblings had a child very young. They love it & are very involved.

Anonymous wrote:DCUM will tell you, 80. You have a baby at 40, and so does your child.

My parents had me when they were old, I made sure to have kids a lot younger than that.

My dad became a grandpa at 62. He's very close with all of my children (5) and is active in their life. He attends all their hockey games/practices, and track meets, we have lunch/dinner multiple nights a week. He drops by frequently and they spend a lot of quality time together. He even picks them up from school, occasionally. They FaceTime and talk on the phone when he's not here. When my children were still infants he would take them on long walks, car rides, or take them to the park, so I could rest/sleep. My children haven't bonded with their other set of grandparents, even though they are much younger. All this to say, I don't think your age matters much as long as the opportunity is there and you put in the time and effort to bond with your grandchildren in different ways. You'll be a good grandparent when the time comes, OP.

62-70

Having kids earlier yourself increases the likelihood that you’ll be a younger grandparent.

If you want to encourage your kids to have kids, make it known that you’ll be financially supportive of that.

DCUM will tell you, 80. You have a baby at 40, and so does your child.

This isn’t something you can control.

What age is ideal to become a grandparents. I know, its best when your kids are willing and capable to start a family but just asking what age gives you a better chance at bonding with and caring for them? I doubt I would have any before 65 which makes me wonder if I'll be able to enjoy them!