Anonymous wrote:Step 1: ask them if they have decided who they will room with
Step 2: ask an open-ended question that expresses interest but give the other person an out (hey, I'm looking for a roommate so if you are interested in rooming together let me know)

NP but thank you!

Anonymous wrote:How is your kid ever going to survive college if you’re hear crowd sourcing answers for her. Let her sit with this problem. She can figure it out. You don’t have to rescue her.

This is ridiculous-op is curious and wondering how it works. Maybe she’s an insane helicopter but her post does not indicate that-it’s normal to be curious when a loved one is nervous snd trying to figure something out. You are not a cooler mom bc you put down op.

Anonymous wrote:How is your kid ever going to survive college if you’re hear crowd sourcing answers for her. Let her sit with this problem. She can figure it out. You don’t have to rescue her.

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How is your kid ever going to survive college if you’re hear crowd sourcing answers for her. Let her sit with this problem. She can figure it out. You don’t have to rescue her.

Step 1: ask them if they have decided who they will room with
Step 2: ask an open-ended question that expresses interest but give the other person an out (hey, I'm looking for a roommate so if you are interested in rooming together let me know)

My DS is having the same issue. He knows how to start the conversation - hey I like soccer or whatever too, but he's scared that if he doesn't hit it off with someone or is ghosted that the person will badmouth him or not be willing to be friends once they hit campus.

Both of my kids did it this way and they didn't need to ask me how to do it? Pretty sure you just say hi, start a conversation etc. Everyone knows the reason they are posting is to find roommates.

They reach out to the other kid on IG, as they would any other peer. This is a question your child should be asking their friends, not their parent.

And/or, they post their info and let the other kids come to them.

My child did both, but it's a large school and there are so many posts. It did work out for them - they ans a roommate just agreed to be roommates.

Our oldest went random, and is currently a college junior, living with the same other 2 randoms they were matched with, and several others, in a group house.

I’m surprised OP’s kid didn’t receive a questionnaire from housing that can be used to find potential dorm mates. For what it is worth, last year me DD rolled the dice and let housing pick her roommate. The two are as opposite as imaginable. Literally no interaction whatsoever. Totally inert wrt each other. I felt bad but they are not antagonistic toward each other.

DC said screw it and went lottery with the matchmaking questions from the college residence housing group. It worked out for them.
I’ve heard bad results with the insta stuff. 18 year olds don’t really know how or what to do to find a roommate. Go with the school sorting hat.

The school that DD is accepted to has it's own IG page and everyone is looking for roommates. DD is usually incredibly outgoing, but is stumped about how to ask people if they want to be roommates. She wanted to wait until orientation to meet people, but the housing deadline is before orientation. Any suggestions for phrases as to how to reach out to people without it being awkward? TIA.