Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:the issue isn't the job, it's the people. if your daughter doesn't want to be around people who smoke or cuss or aren't friendly - she needs to find a job where she knows some people she can get along with / relate to.

Does she have any friends, cousins, etc, who work somewhere she might like?

Op here. No one works unless it's an internship related to their major in her circle. She's very adamant about working and she volunteers once a week.

If she’s adamant about working she can figure this out. She can also go to her career center

What about temp office work?

Anonymous wrote:the issue isn't the job, it's the people. if your daughter doesn't want to be around people who smoke or cuss or aren't friendly - she needs to find a job where she knows some people she can get along with / relate to.

Does she have any friends, cousins, etc, who work somewhere she might like?

Op here. No one works unless it's an internship related to their major in her circle. She's very adamant about working and she volunteers once a week.

the issue isn't the job, it's the people. if your daughter doesn't want to be around people who smoke or cuss or aren't friendly - she needs to find a job where she knows some people she can get along with / relate to.

Does she have any friends, cousins, etc who work somewhere she might like?

Is she going to college to check off the box that's shes college educated so she will get more marriage proposals?

Anonymous wrote:My advice. Let her live at campus. Pay for her housing and meal plans to minimize her stress and better focus on studies. It doesn't matter if she can marry a better earner, she needs to be earning well too. She needs independence and confidence to face whatever life throws at her. God forbid you can drop dead tomorrow or her husband can become disabled. She should be able to manage on her own.

They have different priorities. The option you suggested isn't going to work until her sophomore year. You can't move in the middle of the spring semester. It's also more expensive than living at home. Op hasn't mentioned what her daughter wants. In some cultures, even the US, they expect the man to provide. It's a different way. No way is right or wrong. My cousin couldn't stand living on campus and moved out after two weeks. She loved living at home until she married and her parents were also very happy to have her. Back to the point, book store may be good, receptionist job she could do on the weekend maybe at a nursing home, gym? How about working at a gym that geared towards higher earners like lifetime fitness? Working at a salon front desk on the weekends?

There are many online tutoring sites which hire college students.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:lol let your daughter be an adult. Pull her off the teet.

Op here. She's stressed and came to me for ideas. This is a job and career forum. My question is relevant.

You made it about culture and parenting by giving unnecessary details.

For job, she can benefit more from jobs at campus next year. Freshman year is stressful, let her finish without a job.

Anonymous wrote:lol let your daughter be an adult. Pull her off the teet.

Op here. She's stressed and came to me for ideas. This is a job and career forum. My question is relevant.

My advice. Let her live at campus. Pay for her housing and meal plans to minimize her stress and better focus on studies. It doesn't matter if she can marry a better earner, she needs to be earning well too. She needs independence and confidence to face whatever life throws at her. God forbid you can drop dead tomorrow or her husband can become disabled. She should be able to manage on her own.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My daughter is in her first year. She has been working in a food service job and is unhappy. She says the employees cuss, aren't friendly, smoke, and it's not the right environment. She is looking for ideas where she will be around friendlier employees. I thought even working at the grocery store sounds better than this. Her pay is really good, though, compared to other places, like the front gym desk. We are offering her $300 a month for extras, but she says she wants to take care of her extras. She's very stressed and tired all the time. She lives with us and commutes to college. Culturally it's typical for our kids to live with us until they marry/ buy a house. My daughter has learning disabilities. It's not a problem with hourly jobs because they are straightforward. I am mentioning this because I worry about her job opportunities after college. Shes studying something more general liberal arts. I will say she's very attractive and gets a lot of attention, so I'm not worried about her marrying someone who earns enough to support a family. Culturally we are very involved in the marriage process.

Are you South Asian?

Op here. Yes, south asian and Muslim.

lol let your daughter be an adult. Pull her off the teet.

Anonymous wrote:My daughter is in her first year. She has been working in a food service job and is unhappy. She says the employees cuss, aren't friendly, smoke, and it's not the right environment. She is looking for ideas where she will be around friendlier employees. I thought even working at the grocery store sounds better than this. Her pay is really good, though, compared to other places, like the front gym desk. We are offering her $300 a month for extras, but she says she wants to take care of her extras. She's very stressed and tired all the time. She lives with us and commutes to college. Culturally it's typical for our kids to live with us until they marry/ buy a house. My daughter has learning disabilities. It's not a problem with hourly jobs because they are straightforward. I am mentioning this because I worry about her job opportunities after college. Shes studying something more general liberal arts. I will say she's very attractive and gets a lot of attention, so I'm not worried about her marrying someone who earns enough to support a family. Culturally we are very involved in the marriage process.

Are you South Asian?

My daughter is in her first year. She has been working in a food service job and is unhappy. She says the employees cuss, aren't friendly, smoke, and it's not the right environment. She is looking for ideas where she will be around friendlier employees. I thought even working at the grocery store sounds better than this. Her pay is really good, though, compared to other places, like the front gym desk. We are offering her $300 a month for extras, but she says she wants to take care of her extras. She's very stressed and tired all the time. She lives with us and commutes to college. Culturally it's typical for our kids to live with us until they marry/ buy a house. My daughter has learning disabilities. It's not a problem with hourly jobs because they are straightforward. I am mentioning this because I worry about her job opportunities after college. Shes studying something more general liberal arts. I will say she's very attractive and gets a lot of attention, so I'm not worried about her marrying someone who earns enough to support a family. Culturally we are very involved in the marriage process.