Anonymous wrote:Not sure why people would get offended. I would look at the motive behind the gift card and just appreciate being thought of. More a token of appreciation, versus feeling like ‘paid help’.

But I agree with the baked good. Or something similar.

This. It’s odd people would feel like “the help” if they received this

I sent a gift basket (wine, charcuterie, that sort of thing) to the parents of DS' friend who have been super nice and helpful. I've never met them in person and they live out of state (he's in college) with a note saying thanks basically.

I left a gift bag with one of the small bouquets from WF and our favorite chocolates, along with a note saying how much I appreciated it and that I would pass along the good deed to another family with a teen. This was for a DW/DH we only knew tangentially, who both went out of their way in the middle of the night.

Yeah, a note card of thanks with an offer to please feel free to call on me if you ever need a favor would be great.

Not sure why people would get offended. I would look at the motive behind the gift card and just appreciate being thought of. More a token of appreciation, versus feeling like ‘paid help’.

But I agree with the baked good. Or something similar.

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Anonymous wrote:I typically do an Amazon gift card. Everyone can use it. Expected? No. But I think it shows a level of true appreciation.

Oh no, this would be super awkward. If you insist on a gift, have your DD bake them some cookies and write a thank you note. That's all you need to do.

This!! Please don't give them a gift. We had a fried do this to us and it made us feel like the paid help. You don't pay for friendship, you give your friends a heartfelt thank you and return the favor when the opportunity arises.

Anonymous wrote:I typically do an Amazon gift card. Everyone can use it. Expected? No. But I think it shows a level of true appreciation.

Oh no, this would be super awkward. If you insist on a gift, have your DD bake them some cookies and write a thank you note. That's all you need to do.

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Anonymous wrote:I go out of my way for my friends’ kids and kids’ friends all the time. DH and I strongly believe it takes a village. As long as your kid was polite and well behaved we don’t need anything beyond a thank you. We assume you would do the same for us if needed.

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Agree, no gift necessary, and I would feel awkward if you tried to give me one. I am happy you are in my village, and I am happy to be included in yours.

Anonymous wrote:I go out of my way for my friends’ kids and kids’ friends all the time. DH and I strongly believe it takes a village. As long as your kid was polite and well behaved we don’t need anything beyond a thank you. We assume you would do the same for us if needed.

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Anonymous wrote:I go out of my way for my friends’ kids and kids’ friends all the time. DH and I strongly believe it takes a village. As long as your kid was polite and well behaved we don’t need anything beyond a thank you. We assume you would do the same for us if needed.

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Anonymous wrote:I go out of my way for my friends’ kids and kids’ friends all the time. DH and I strongly believe it takes a village. As long as your kid was polite and well behaved we don’t need anything beyond a thank you. We assume you would do the same for us if needed.

I agree with this. Amazon/restaurant gift cards feel like quasi payment, and I’m not helping out to get paid. If it was above and beyond flowers or baked. Goods seem fine.

Restaurant gift card.

I typically do an Amazon gift card. Everyone can use it. Expected? No. But I think it shows a level of true appreciation.

I go out of my way for my friends’ kids and kids’ friends all the time. DH and I strongly believe it takes a village. As long as your kid was polite and well behaved we don’t need anything beyond a thank you. We assume you would do the same for us if needed.

Parents of my child’s friend went above and beyond to help out my teen when DH and I were not available. Would like to give them something as a thank you. Any suggestions beyond nice flowers or some baked goods?