Anonymous
Post 03/02/2023 20:08     Subject: Middle school kid told a teacher that he would rape her.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Do you think he would actually do it? Because I don’t think so.
That’s what HFA is: sometimes they don’t know what they are saying really.



I think he understood exactly what he was saying. Would he really do it? Hopefully not


I honestly don’t think so. Either he is bad at controlling his impulses (a typical kid could think that but not say it out loud) or he doesn’t quite understand the seriousness of saying it out loud.
If he hasn’t been violent, he needs a really good talk about how these things are really too serious to say out loud. We all have horrible thoughts, we just learned to control them (some people don’t even admit to themselves they have thoughts and feelings that are not acceptable).



So it’s cool for all the other kids in the hall to see a kid yell to a teacher that he’s going to rape her and only get one day’s suspension?
Anonymous
Post 03/02/2023 19:58     Subject: Middle school kid told a teacher that he would rape her.
Yeah one of my least favorite teaching moments was when one of my kinder boys (also autistic) told a female classmate that he was going to rape her. (Because she didn’t share a crayon)


Then the parents of the boy flipped out on ME when I had to tell them what happened. I was a very new teacher and only later realized they were lashing out because they were very embarrassed.
Anonymous
Post 03/02/2023 19:56     Subject: Middle school kid told a teacher that he would rape her.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Do you think he would actually do it? Because I don’t think so.
That’s what HFA is: sometimes they don’t know what they are saying really.



I think he understood exactly what he was saying. Would he really do it? Hopefully not


I honestly don’t think so. Either he is bad at controlling his impulses (a typical kid could think that but not say it out loud) or he doesn’t quite understand the seriousness of saying it out loud.
If he hasn’t been violent, he needs a really good talk about how these things are really too serious to say out loud. We all have horrible thoughts, we just learned to control them (some people don’t even admit to themselves they have thoughts and feelings that are not acceptable).


It is not typical to even think about raping someone.


This.

HFA lack a filter. He understood, he just didn’t stop himself from saying it aloud.
Anonymous
Post 03/02/2023 19:53     Subject: Middle school kid told a teacher that he would rape her.
Why can’t school kick him out?
Anonymous
Post 03/02/2023 19:52     Subject: Middle school kid told a teacher that he would rape her.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Do you think he would actually do it? Because I don’t think so.
That’s what HFA is: sometimes they don’t know what they are saying really.



I think he understood exactly what he was saying. Would he really do it? Hopefully not


I honestly don’t think so. Either he is bad at controlling his impulses (a typical kid could think that but not say it out loud) or he doesn’t quite understand the seriousness of saying it out loud.
If he hasn’t been violent, he needs a really good talk about how these things are really too serious to say out loud. We all have horrible thoughts, we just learned to control them (some people don’t even admit to themselves they have thoughts and feelings that are not acceptable).


It is not typical to even think about raping someone.
Anonymous
Post 03/02/2023 19:51     Subject: Middle school kid told a teacher that he would rape her.
Anonymous wrote:Today a teacher I work with got into an altercation with a kid in n the hallway and the kid threatened to hold her down and rape her. Kid got one day’s suspension. He has high functioning autism, but he is also in the gifted program and takes all Gen Ed classes.
This kind of B.S. seriously makes me want to leave the profession.


Give the kid a break. He’s autistic!
Anonymous
Post 03/02/2023 19:50     Subject: Middle school kid told a teacher that he would rape her.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Do people still wonder why teacher's quit?


Maybe because of the apostrophe issues


Autocorrect. I couldn't even see it without my glasses.
Anonymous
Post 03/02/2023 19:47     Subject: Middle school kid told a teacher that he would rape her.
Anonymous wrote:Do people still wonder why teacher's quit?


Maybe because of the apostrophe issues
Anonymous
Post 03/02/2023 19:47     Subject: Middle school kid told a teacher that he would rape her.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Do you think he would actually do it? Because I don’t think so.
That’s what HFA is: sometimes they don’t know what they are saying really.


Does it matter? Should ANYONE be allowed to behave that way, even if they "didn't mean it"? Are we allowing anyone with autism to do anything they like because they have autism? It's absurd.


Yes it does matter. I was told by a therapist that it’s ok to have any feelings; it’s not ok to act on any feeling or emotion you have.
This kid is just not mature enough to realize he needs to stop right before saying certain things.
FTR I have an NT kid who had issues in 3rd grade - thankfully he wasn’t aware of the concept of rape but he could well say out loud that maybe a the kid who called in sick that day really had cancer. He grew out of it.
I think this young man will grow out of it too. He will always be prone to saying something weird but hopefully not acting on it
Anonymous
Post 03/02/2023 19:43     Subject: Middle school kid told a teacher that he would rape her.
Do people still wonder why teacher's quit?
Anonymous
Post 03/02/2023 19:43     Subject: Middle school kid told a teacher that he would rape her.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Do you think he would actually do it? Because I don’t think so.
That’s what HFA is: sometimes they don’t know what they are saying really.



I think he understood exactly what he was saying. Would he really do it? Hopefully not


I honestly don’t think so. Either he is bad at controlling his impulses (a typical kid could think that but not say it out loud) or he doesn’t quite understand the seriousness of saying it out loud.
If he hasn’t been violent, he needs a really good talk about how these things are really too serious to say out loud. We all have horrible thoughts, we just learned to control them (some people don’t even admit to themselves they have thoughts and feelings that are not acceptable).
Anonymous
Post 03/02/2023 19:38     Subject: Middle school kid told a teacher that he would rape her.
Anonymous wrote:Do you think he would actually do it? Because I don’t think so.
That’s what HFA is: sometimes they don’t know what they are saying really.


Does it matter? Should ANYONE be allowed to behave that way, even if they "didn't mean it"? Are we allowing anyone with autism to do anything they like because they have autism? It's absurd.
Anonymous
Post 03/02/2023 19:36     Subject: Middle school kid told a teacher that he would rape her.
Anonymous wrote:Do you think he would actually do it? Because I don’t think so.
That’s what HFA is: sometimes they don’t know what they are saying really.



I think he understood exactly what he was saying. Would he really do it? Hopefully not
Anonymous
Post 03/02/2023 19:30     Subject: Middle school kid told a teacher that he would rape her.
Do you think he would actually do it? Because I don’t think so.
That’s what HFA is: sometimes they don’t know what they are saying really.
Anonymous
Post 03/02/2023 19:28     Subject: Middle school kid told a teacher that he would rape her.
Today a teacher I work with got into an altercation with a kid in n the hallway and the kid threatened to hold her down and rape her. Kid got one day’s suspension. He has high functioning autism, but he is also in the gifted program and takes all Gen Ed classes.
This kind of B.S. seriously makes me want to leave the profession.