I think you need a family reset personally. Are your older kids watching their K age sibling every day ? That’s not fair. Can either of you do anything to go into work earlier and get home earlier?

Do you have a dog that she can walk? Or if she likes dogs, can she walk dogs for money?

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Anonymous wrote:You are late, but encourage a no cut sport with year round practicing. Swim team clubs and tennis are good sports that don’t really have a beginning or end season and are life long sports. If they won’t do that they need to pick a school sport every season they can’t be cut from. Cross country, track?

My spouse hates sports, so making my DD do a sport she doesn’t like isn’t going to go well. We need at home inspiration

Well that really makes no sense given your stated limitations.

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Anonymous wrote:Who is with them after school? It sounds to me me like you could all do with going for a walk after school/work. Hike on the weekends? Take them ice skating?

We don’t get back to work until 6. Kids are on their own. We could drop them off somewhere. But couldn’t participate since have work and meetings.

Is your high schooler watching your kindergartener after school?

Weekend family hike every single weekend. Pick a day (say - Sunday at 9:30) and make it a priority for everyone. Treat it like an adventure, let your kids pick the places your explore, and pack fun (healthy ish) snacks.

Anonymous wrote:Who is with them after school? It sounds to me me like you could all do with going for a walk after school/work. Hike on the weekends? Take them ice skating?

We don’t get back to work until 6. Kids are on their own. We could drop them off somewhere. But couldn’t participate since have work and meetings.

Anonymous wrote:Instill. If it was install, I’d have purchased 3 already.

Oh yeah. That was what I intended but prob typed wrong and autocorrected

Who is with them after school? It sounds to me me like you could all do with going for a walk after school/work. Hike on the weekends? Take them ice skating?

We insist our kids do one thing for their bodies and one for their brains. Either they pick or we pick for them.

Instill. If it was install, I’d have purchased 3 already.

Anonymous wrote:You are late, but encourage a no cut sport with year round practicing. Swim team clubs and tennis are good sports that don’t really have a beginning or end season and are life long sports. If they won’t do that they need to pick a school sport every season they can’t be cut from. Cross country, track?

My spouse hates sports, so making my DD do a sport she doesn’t like isn’t going to go well. We need at home inspiration

You are late, but encourage a no cut sport with year round practicing. Swim team clubs and tennis are good sports that don’t really have a beginning or end season and are life long sports. If they won’t do that they need to pick a school sport every season they can’t be cut from. Cross country, track?

Anonymous wrote:How old are the kids?

What childcare do you have?

What financial resources can you put towards this?

Kinder, middle school, high school. No bus to school.

How old are the kids?

What childcare do you have?

What financial resources can you put towards this?

Sure you can say model behavior, and we’ll try but as working parents if 3 kids without local family we spend a LOT of time cooking, cleaning, and transporting for kids on top of long demanding jobs with commutes.

DD is naturally sedative, low key likes to just stay in room and read, but we want to make sure is active every day. She used to have after school sport but now upper grade she was cut from team and there are no other sports she’s interested in. A rec sport might be fun, but that’s once a week for practice and game.

I would love to just get her out walking after school for 45 min, biking, shooting hoops in our yard — but we have no neighborhood friends so this is something she would do solo and on her own initiative as we are busy working.

Since sport has ended, every afternoon she is just hanging out in her room doing homework and talking to friends etc.

How do we encourage her? Get a gym membership and encourage her to go? Kick her out of the house? Take off time from work and toss baseball around?

We worry too about triggering eating disorder too, but we are not a fit family to begin with but want better for our kids. My family has rich history of BED.