Anonymous
Post 02/22/2023 11:23     Subject: Mommy competitiveness
Anonymous wrote:The most successful AND happy people I know did not become that way because of parental pressure.

The ones who had intense parental pressure are miserable, even if from the outside their jobs look great.

If your kid is gonna do amazing things, the best thing you can do is support and get out of their way. But if you think knowing algebra in 1st grade or playing on the top travel soccer team at age 8 makes ANY difference in the long term, you aren’t paying attention.

Also, go read the threads about the teen mental health crisis we have. Adolescent suicide is way up. Parent accordingly.


I'm not over here advocating for pressure, 1st grade algebra, etc., but, really, how do you know that info you claim to about the people around you? I have basically no idea whether what level of "parental pressure" the vast majority of adults in my life experienced.
Anonymous
Post 02/22/2023 11:23     Subject: Re:Mommy competitiveness
Anonymous wrote:I try not to compare. My mom did that my entire life and still does. It is so annoying.

Dh and I did well academically and professionally. We have high standards for our children. I want my kids to be happy. This is most important.


np This is interesting to me because I hear everyone say it but, no one really knows how to achieve it. In the Washington post they had an article that this goal is virtually impossilbe becasue you can't be happy all the time. So I want to say recognize when you are happy and appreciate the times more. This isn't the article but, one that makes a similar point.

https://www.washingtonpost.com/business/dont-worry-about-being-happy/2022/12/21/d82210ea-80f4-11ed-8738-ed7217de2775_story.html
Anonymous
Post 02/22/2023 11:11     Subject: Mommy competitiveness
If you’re focusing on your own children and their development, that’s fine. If you’re focusing on how they compare to their peers, you’re competitive.
Anonymous
Post 02/21/2023 21:36     Subject: Re:Mommy competitiveness
Anonymous wrote:Are you all serious? I've been around moms since my kid was born who have began teaching their children all sorts of things and "pushing" them academically...getting tutors in preschool, researching curriculum to supplement at home, etc.. Why are you all acting surprised?


Because I always assumed they knew they were competitive and embraced it. I honestly never imagined that they wondered if it was “competitive” to get tutors for NT kids to get them ahead.
Anonymous
Post 02/21/2023 21:31     Subject: Re:Mommy competitiveness
I try not to compare. My mom did that my entire life and still does. It is so annoying.

Dh and I did well academically and professionally. We have high standards for our children. I want my kids to be happy. This is most important.
Anonymous
Post 02/21/2023 21:04     Subject: Re:Mommy competitiveness
iF you ask other parents how their kids did in tests or keep asking what activities they do..and then brag what your kids do. I don't care what your kids do.
Anonymous
Post 02/21/2023 20:44     Subject: Re:Mommy competitiveness
Anonymous wrote:Are you all serious? I've been around moms since my kid was born who have began teaching their children all sorts of things and "pushing" them academically...getting tutors in preschool, researching curriculum to supplement at home, etc.. Why are you all acting surprised?


You are surrounding yourself with ridiculous people and now you’re asking ridiculous questions.
Anonymous
Post 02/21/2023 20:43     Subject: Mommy competitiveness
The most successful AND happy people I know did not become that way because of parental pressure.

The ones who had intense parental pressure are miserable, even if from the outside their jobs look great.

If your kid is gonna do amazing things, the best thing you can do is support and get out of their way. But if you think knowing algebra in 1st grade or playing on the top travel soccer team at age 8 makes ANY difference in the long term, you aren’t paying attention.

Also, go read the threads about the teen mental health crisis we have. Adolescent suicide is way up. Parent accordingly.
Anonymous
Post 02/21/2023 20:35     Subject: Re:Mommy competitiveness
Are you all serious? I've been around moms since my kid was born who have began teaching their children all sorts of things and "pushing" them academically...getting tutors in preschool, researching curriculum to supplement at home, etc.. Why are you all acting surprised?
Anonymous
Post 02/21/2023 19:54     Subject: Mommy competitiveness
Anonymous wrote:Vs. pushing yourself and your kid to do their best? I'm trying to figure out if I'm competitive or just pushing myself/my kid to do their best in school. How can you tell where you lie on the spectrum?


You sound like you have low self esteem
Anonymous
Post 02/21/2023 19:46     Subject: Mommy competitiveness
Think of K-12 as your kid running their own race. Learn to pick your battles, narrow it to the few things that truly matter in the long run.
Anonymous
Post 02/21/2023 19:42     Subject: Mommy competitiveness
The title of your post is so cringe
Anonymous
Post 02/21/2023 19:41     Subject: Mommy competitiveness
How are you pushing “yourself” to do your best in school? In theory you’re long since graduated. If you’re having problems differentiating your child’s academic achievement from your own accomplishments, you are way, way too competitive (if that’s the word you prefer to use).
Anonymous
Post 02/21/2023 19:36     Subject: Mommy competitiveness
If you are rack and stacking you are competitive and need a life

Also for the love of god don’t call yourself mommy
Anonymous
Post 02/21/2023 18:20     Subject: Mommy competitiveness
Vs. pushing yourself and your kid to do their best? I'm trying to figure out if I'm competitive or just pushing myself/my kid to do their best in school. How can you tell where you lie on the spectrum?