Anonymous
Post 02/17/2023 10:55     Subject: Unpopular relationship opinions
Marriage is literally contractual. It's a contract between each other until you decide to break it, or not, but this idea that two people decided to get married and it's unholy or something to decide not to be anymore is ridiculous. It's not indentured servitude, it's optional marriage.
Anonymous
Post 02/17/2023 10:48     Subject: Unpopular relationship opinions
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Way too many wives put being a mom first over their marriage and then act surprised when DH cheats or leaves or their marriage suffers otherwise.


Way too many men act like their wives should know what they want without saying what they want. Too many wives I know would have done many things with their DH, but instead DH wanted to hang with the guys or play video games or read some internet blog.


Both can be true...
Anonymous
Post 02/17/2023 10:47     Subject: Unpopular relationship opinions
Anonymous wrote:Way too many wives put being a mom first over their marriage and then act surprised when DH cheats or leaves or their marriage suffers otherwise.


Way too many men act like their wives should know what they want without saying what they want. Too many wives I know would have done many things with their DH, but instead DH wanted to hang with the guys or play video games or read some internet blog.
Anonymous
Post 02/17/2023 10:46     Subject: Unpopular relationship opinions
Your spouse can’t fill all of your emotional needs and that’s okay.
Anonymous
Post 02/17/2023 10:44     Subject: Re:Unpopular relationship opinions
I think long term monogamy is not human nature and that’s ok.
Anonymous
Post 02/17/2023 10:39     Subject: Unpopular relationship opinions
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:long-term monogamy and sexual desire are incompatible. I am not sure this is unpopular, but people certainly don't want to acknowledge that monogamy as we know it has dire, dire consequences.


Agree. It should be okay to not want sex after 20 years of a marriage.


For those who believe this, do you think it’s ok to seek sexual fulfillment outside the marriage? Or are you saying you think lack of sex is the price you pay for long-term marriage?
Anonymous
Post 02/17/2023 10:39     Subject: Unpopular relationship opinions
Anonymous wrote:Let’s all share unpopular relationship opinions we hold. I’ll go first….

My DH completes me. I know it’s out of style to say something like this but it’s the truth. After marriage a new me was created that needs him. I don’t know who I’d be without him. When death parts us it will be a sad day.


It’s not so much an unpopular opinion as a trope and cliche.

But cute. And good for you.
Anonymous
Post 02/17/2023 10:36     Subject: Unpopular relationship opinions
Way too many wives put being a mom first over their marriage and then act surprised when DH cheats or leaves or their marriage suffers otherwise.
Anonymous
Post 02/17/2023 10:33     Subject: Unpopular relationship opinions
Anonymous wrote:long-term monogamy and sexual desire are incompatible. I am not sure this is unpopular, but people certainly don't want to acknowledge that monogamy as we know it has dire, dire consequences.


Agree. It should be okay to not want sex after 20 years of a marriage.
Anonymous
Post 02/17/2023 10:32     Subject: Re:Unpopular relationship opinions
You don’t have to have a deep emotional relationship with your spouse and it’s ok to only say and do the things you have to to get what you privately want from the relationship. Symbiosis is natural and okay.
Anonymous
Post 02/17/2023 10:31     Subject: Unpopular relationship opinions
Sexual attraction isn't a reward for good behavior. It's not even well-correlated with traits that are conducive to stable, loving, long-term relationships.
Anonymous
Post 02/17/2023 10:29     Subject: Unpopular relationship opinions
Relationships are supposed to be transactional and short term now.
Anonymous
Post 02/17/2023 10:29     Subject: Unpopular relationship opinions
long-term monogamy and sexual desire are incompatible. I am not sure this is unpopular, but people certainly don't want to acknowledge that monogamy as we know it has dire, dire consequences.
Anonymous
Post 02/17/2023 10:26     Subject: Unpopular relationship opinions
Anonymous wrote:Let’s all share unpopular relationship opinions we hold. I’ll go first….

My DH completes me. I know it’s out of style to say something like this but it’s the truth. After marriage a new me was created that needs him. I don’t know who I’d be without him. When death parts us it will be a sad day.


Well, love, loyalty and co-dependence of death do us apart is a really unpopular opinion.
Anonymous
Post 02/17/2023 10:16     Subject: Unpopular relationship opinions
Let’s all share unpopular relationship opinions we hold. I’ll go first….

My DH completes me. I know it’s out of style to say something like this but it’s the truth. After marriage a new me was created that needs him. I don’t know who I’d be without him. When death parts us it will be a sad day.