Anonymous
02/14/2023 20:35
Subject: Re:Feeling “heavy” when you are at a healthy weight
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I'm not sure what the answer is, but I relate. I feel the most attractive at about 5-10 pounds lighter than my body's preferred weight. At the lower weight I can't even look at a carb, I'm hungry all the time, my hair is thin, but I just don't like how I look with a bit more weight, even though it is within the normal range.
+1. Currently at "normal" BMI and my face looks a little gaunt but I'd still like to lose. Why do I have to lose it from my face?? I want to feel good in my clothes.
OP: To add to this, I went to the doctor for a routine check and mentioned I wanted to lose weight, so she got me information to do so. I told my mom I wanted to lose the baby weight and she gave me some tips. I told my friend and she gave me some supplements to aid in weight loss. And no one at any point was like, well you’re at a totally normal, healthy weight so you shouldn’t be losing. Isn’t that weird? I feel like everyone kind of agrees it’s better to be thinner.
Anonymous
02/14/2023 20:21
Subject: Re:Feeling “heavy” when you are at a healthy weight
Anonymous wrote:I'm not sure what the answer is, but I relate. I feel the most attractive at about 5-10 pounds lighter than my body's preferred weight. At the lower weight I can't even look at a carb, I'm hungry all the time, my hair is thin, but I just don't like how I look with a bit more weight, even though it is within the normal range.
+1. Currently at "normal" BMI and my face looks a little gaunt but I'd still like to lose. Why do I have to lose it from my face?? I want to feel good in my clothes.
Anonymous
02/14/2023 20:09
Subject: Re:Feeling “heavy” when you are at a healthy weight
I get it (but I don't use insta not judging it is just something I never got around to viewing)--I am 5'7" and any weight above 126 is not where I want to be. At 128 I start to see the exta little jiggle in my upper legs and arms and at 129.and above my thighs rub together
Anonymous
02/14/2023 20:07
Subject: Feeling “heavy” when you are at a healthy weight
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:You’re on Instagram too much and you’re setting yourself up for an eating disorder. Stop. You’re healthy. You probably weren’t when you were 26.
+1
Or, you’re learning that you can be healthy at a range of weights.
Whatever accounts you’re looking at on IG: stop it.
I thought I was looking at healthy accounts though. Like healthy foods and fitness. But they are definitely thinner, so it seems like the lower end of the BMI scale is healthier.
The only accounts of that type I follow are ones that are explicitly body positive/body neutral. The rest of them are diet-pushers masquerading as “healthy.”
I’m not saying don’t pursue health, but that means things like getting enough sleep and not obsessing over your size. One saying that has really resonated with me is that if the size you want to be requires constant attention to diet and exercise, it’s not healthy. And I work out daily - I love it - but not for hours.
That’s interesting! I follow body-positive, intuitive-eating, fit accounts, but they are all thin. So I guess I’m just feeling odd like, even though my BMI is technically totally healthy it looks from appearance larger than the healthy standard. If that makes sense.
So if I follow body-positive intuitive-eating yoga instructors who are all overweight would you then think being overweight is healthiest? No. You follow those accounts because you think thin is attractive in the sense it literally attracts your attention.
Anonymous
02/14/2023 20:05
Subject: Feeling “heavy” when you are at a healthy weight
Anonymous wrote:What is your diet and lifestyle like? If you are restricting and then overeating trying to lose weight, you have an answer. If you overeating and often eating past full, you have an answer.
If you are enjoying food, eating healthy amounts, indulging sometimes but not too often. And you are where you are. You've found where you should be and that's great.
I mostly restrict and then overeat, because I’m hungry! That’s what prompted this post. Like maybe women in history were 5’4” and 130 and that was normal and healthy and my eyes are just not adjusting.
Anonymous
02/14/2023 20:03
Subject: Feeling “heavy” when you are at a healthy weight
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:You’re on Instagram too much and you’re setting yourself up for an eating disorder. Stop. You’re healthy. You probably weren’t when you were 26.
+1
Or, you’re learning that you can be healthy at a range of weights.
Whatever accounts you’re looking at on IG: stop it.
I thought I was looking at healthy accounts though. Like healthy foods and fitness. But they are definitely thinner, so it seems like the lower end of the BMI scale is healthier.
The only accounts of that type I follow are ones that are explicitly body positive/body neutral. The rest of them are diet-pushers masquerading as “healthy.”
I’m not saying don’t pursue health, but that means things like getting enough sleep and not obsessing over your size. One saying that has really resonated with me is that if the size you want to be requires constant attention to diet and exercise, it’s not healthy. And I work out daily - I love it - but not for hours.
That’s interesting! I follow body-positive, intuitive-eating, fit accounts, but they are all thin. So I guess I’m just feeling odd like, even though my BMI is technically totally healthy it looks from appearance larger than the healthy standard. If that makes sense.
Ah - got it. It makes total sense and I understand why you’d feel that way. Now that I’m thinking about it, some of the larger intuitive eating dietitians I follow are also thin and it does bug me a bit because it still conforms to a very specific standard that most women don’t follow.
Instagram isn’t real life - even the body positive accounts. You have three kids (I do, too), we’ve been through a lot the past few years, etc. This stuff is hard, you know? Hang in there.
Anonymous
02/14/2023 19:58
Subject: Feeling “heavy” when you are at a healthy weight
What is your diet and lifestyle like? If you are restricting and then overeating trying to lose weight, you have an answer. If you overeating and often eating past full, you have an answer.
If you are enjoying food, eating healthy amounts, indulging sometimes but not too often. And you are where you are. You've found where you should be and that's great.
If you are enjoying food, eating healthy amounts, indulging sometimes but not too often. And you are where you are. You've found where you should be and that's great.
Anonymous
02/14/2023 19:58
Subject: Feeling “heavy” when you are at a healthy weight
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:You’re on Instagram too much and you’re setting yourself up for an eating disorder. Stop. You’re healthy. You probably weren’t when you were 26.
+1
Or, you’re learning that you can be healthy at a range of weights.
Whatever accounts you’re looking at on IG: stop it.
I thought I was looking at healthy accounts though. Like healthy foods and fitness. But they are definitely thinner, so it seems like the lower end of the BMI scale is healthier.
The only accounts of that type I follow are ones that are explicitly body positive/body neutral. The rest of them are diet-pushers masquerading as “healthy.”
I’m not saying don’t pursue health, but that means things like getting enough sleep and not obsessing over your size. One saying that has really resonated with me is that if the size you want to be requires constant attention to diet and exercise, it’s not healthy. And I work out daily - I love it - but not for hours.
That’s interesting! I follow body-positive, intuitive-eating, fit accounts, but they are all thin. So I guess I’m just feeling odd like, even though my BMI is technically totally healthy it looks from appearance larger than the healthy standard. If that makes sense.
Anonymous
02/14/2023 19:50
Subject: Feeling “heavy” when you are at a healthy weight
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:You’re on Instagram too much and you’re setting yourself up for an eating disorder. Stop. You’re healthy. You probably weren’t when you were 26.
+1
Or, you’re learning that you can be healthy at a range of weights.
Whatever accounts you’re looking at on IG: stop it.
I thought I was looking at healthy accounts though. Like healthy foods and fitness. But they are definitely thinner, so it seems like the lower end of the BMI scale is healthier.
The only accounts of that type I follow are ones that are explicitly body positive/body neutral. The rest of them are diet-pushers masquerading as “healthy.”
I’m not saying don’t pursue health, but that means things like getting enough sleep and not obsessing over your size. One saying that has really resonated with me is that if the size you want to be requires constant attention to diet and exercise, it’s not healthy. And I work out daily - I love it - but not for hours.
Anonymous
02/14/2023 19:46
Subject: Feeling “heavy” when you are at a healthy weight
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:You’re on Instagram too much and you’re setting yourself up for an eating disorder. Stop. You’re healthy. You probably weren’t when you were 26.
+1
Or, you’re learning that you can be healthy at a range of weights.
Whatever accounts you’re looking at on IG: stop it.
I thought I was looking at healthy accounts though. Like healthy foods and fitness. But they are definitely thinner, so it seems like the lower end of the BMI scale is healthier.
Anonymous
02/14/2023 19:46
Subject: Re:Feeling “heavy” when you are at a healthy weight
I'm not sure what the answer is, but I relate. I feel the most attractive at about 5-10 pounds lighter than my body's preferred weight. At the lower weight I can't even look at a carb, I'm hungry all the time, my hair is thin, but I just don't like how I look with a bit more weight, even though it is within the normal range.
Anonymous
02/14/2023 19:45
Subject: Feeling “heavy” when you are at a healthy weight
Yes, you're crazy. At 5'4" to be 110 lbs, you'd be underweight.
When I went to my doctor to say "We're talking about getting pregnant, anything I need to do to prep my body first?" I found out I was underweight. So after I had a baby, I did NOT try to get back to my "wedding weight" because that was unhealthy.
When I went to my doctor to say "We're talking about getting pregnant, anything I need to do to prep my body first?" I found out I was underweight. So after I had a baby, I did NOT try to get back to my "wedding weight" because that was unhealthy.
Anonymous
02/14/2023 19:43
Subject: Feeling “heavy” when you are at a healthy weight
Anonymous wrote:You’re on Instagram too much and you’re setting yourself up for an eating disorder. Stop. You’re healthy. You probably weren’t when you were 26.
+1
Or, you’re learning that you can be healthy at a range of weights.
Whatever accounts you’re looking at on IG: stop it.
Anonymous
02/14/2023 19:39
Subject: Feeling “heavy” when you are at a healthy weight
You’re on Instagram too much and you’re setting yourself up for an eating disorder. Stop. You’re healthy. You probably weren’t when you were 26.
Anonymous
02/14/2023 19:37
Subject: Feeling “heavy” when you are at a healthy weight
I am 35, 5’4” and 130 lbs, which puts me in the middle of the healthy BMI spectrum. I feel heavy, because this is about 20 lbs over my pre-3-babies weight at 26. But I’m starting to wonder if I’m totally crazy and maybe it’s normal for women to not stay the same weight all their lives. Like are most women staying at their wedding weight all their lives? Or am I on Instagram too much?