Don’t marry or have kids if you’re a woman. It’s a raw deal and women are waking up to it.

2 years, max! If he is not committing long term, move on. Twenties are the most valuable years, so don't waste them.

Anonymous wrote:thinking that getting married mid 30s and a baby that time is ok, no you get married in your mid to late 20s

Why?

Yeah, I'd say it's staying too long in blah relationships.

"He's just not that into you" is truly the answer to 90% of relationship issues in your 20s.

Anonymous wrote:Not compounding interest

I love you.

Not compounding interest

Anonymous wrote:Let’s say you believe that your mid-late 20s are the best time to meet a partner. You may disagree but let’s say for arguments sake. What are the most common mistakes women make that waste the “best” relationship-building years, and how would you advise Gen Z women to not repeat these mistakes? Or if this was you, what advice would you give your younger self?

I’ll start: I always wanted a relationship, but could not move on easily from rejection and breakup and wasted precious months moving over failed romances. I also wasted time trying to change the minds of men who just wanted casual sex. I had been exposed to too much online misogyny and believed that if I held out and proved that I was “not that kind of girl” and that I was the type you would marry, not just sleep with, instead of just ignoring the guys who had this mentality. The best advice to my 25 year old self would be to move on, and move on faster.

+1,000.

Also, I’d tell a younger version the point of waiting to have sex is not about some weird patriarchal control thing as so many spread the lie that it is, or playing games or anything. It’s to protect yourself from the immature, selfish guys who will feel not one pang of conscience after they waste your time and use your body and heart. The ones who say you’ll never find a man if you wait for that are the ones you’re *supposed to* weed out, and they’re trying to instill fear and scarcity into you (so you will sleep with them! Lol).

You may have a ring, but you’re not really engaged until you have a wedding date.

thinking that getting married mid 30s and a baby that time is ok, no you get married in your mid to late 20s

Life is long and full of twists and turns. I don't really like the premise here that there is a "right" way to do life and any sort of winning criteria.

That said, over all, figure out how to have healthy, functional relationships (romantic and otherwise) as early as possible. Be kind to yourself and to others, but also figure out your boundaries and enforce them.

Dont date anyone you cant see yourself marrying if that is your end goal.

Party, f&&&, travel, get new hobbies, make lots of friends, etc. But do NOT date/invest time and energy into anyone you cant see yourself with long-term. If you don't get in well with their friends and their wives/girlfriends, then it can be difficult down the road.

Have fun in spades but only date sparingly.

If you don't come from an incredibly healthy family, get into therapy so you stop seeking out the wrong people.

Don't move in with a man unless you are engaged or know that engagement is in the near future. It's much harder to leave once you're living together.

This will go well.

Let’s say you believe that your mid-late 20s are the best time to meet a partner. You may disagree but let’s say for arguments sake. What are the most common mistakes women make that waste the “best” relationship-building years, and how would you advise Gen Z women to not repeat these mistakes? Or if this was you, what advice would you give your younger self?

I’ll start: I always wanted a relationship, but could not move on easily from rejection and breakup and wasted precious months moving over failed romances. I also wasted time trying to change the minds of men who just wanted casual sex. I had been exposed to too much online misogyny and believed that if I held out and proved that I was “not that kind of girl” and that I was the type you would marry, not just sleep with, instead of just ignoring the guys who had this mentality. The best advice to my 25 year old self would be to move on, and move on faster.