Anonymous wrote:People who love music enough to play the guitar well and memorize songs are talented, empathetic, and focused on something more than just the mechanics of life—they either have soul, or at least value soul. Music is art, poetry, connection. People are drawn to all of those things.

He sounds great. You sound pretty boring. And not a little pathetic to be picking apart your own son on the internet. Are you jealous that he’s just getting into the prime of his connections with people who aren’t you and his sexuality? Try therapy to explore what your problem is.

This is OP. WTF.

I don't care about my DS personal life because he is: 1- an adult and 2- it is none of my business. I do, however, as his father, worry about his future and I am also on the hook for college tuition + room/board. He is studying Computer Science and he did ok in his first two years and on track to graduate in four years. He dropped two classes last semester so it is unlikely that he will graduate in May 2024.

I just want him to graduate on time and take care of himself financially with a CS degree. I don't care what he does with music after that because it is none of my business.

It has been this way since Apollo.

People who love music enough to play the guitar well and memorize songs are talented, empathetic, and focused on something more than just the mechanics of life—they either have soul, or at least value soul. Music is art, poetry, connection. People are drawn to all of those things.

He sounds great. You sound pretty boring. And not a little pathetic to be picking apart your own son on the internet. Are you jealous that he’s just getting into the prime of his connections with people who aren’t you and his sexuality? Try therapy to explore what your problem is.

He doesn’t sound very academic.

It's not the guitar playing, OP, it's the character of the boy who is playing. He must be a social, charming person, and the guitar helps bring that out, obviously. A guitar is a great ice-breaker, not as finicky as a violin or other instrument. It can be brought out at a party and you can sing with it.

Anonymous wrote:Maybe he’s studying the wrong thing? You have to be hard working to get good at guitar.

+1, lots of people play guitar but only some people play very well. It sounds like your son has a musical gift and that he is willing to work hard on something he enjoys. I wonder if you have pushed him into an academic field he doesn't like that much and his grades are suffering because he's feeling forced to work hard at something he doesn't enjoy.

To answer the question in your thread title -- reasons I find guitarists hot:
1. I find artistic people hot in general. (I am not artistic; even if I become technically skilled at things, I have no idea how to play to an audience and I admire people who can.)

2. Playing the guitar shows off nice hands.

3. Many guitarists are also singer -- multi-tasking is also attractive imo.


To answer the question in your actual post, which is basically unrelated to your thread title, your son's lack of focus on academics is probably related to a different group of friends/priorities, not because he's hooking up with girls swayed by his guitar playing (which can't be very good if he's only been doing it for a few months). The guitar and hook up culture may also be symptoms of whatever change has made him uninterested in academics but they're not really the cause. Figure out why he's avoiding academics at deal with that. Don't bring his musical interests into it.

Nothing quite as romantic to young girls as being serenaded. I mean, it’s a trope in movies and literature, so surely you know this.

Be happy he’s getting his dick wet on a regular basis.

Does he often play "I Gave My Love a Cherry" to woo the ladies?

Guitar represents sexy, care free and fun lifestyle. Just like cigarettes used to or expensive sports cars does.

Maybe he’s studying the wrong thing? You have to be hard working to get good at guitar.

They may be your daughters impression but it’s not just the guitar. It’s a tool in the toolkit.

Guitar strings release pheramones.

Why are you so contemptuous of your son's musical ability?

My daughter told me that her older brother has been hooking up with so many girls in college, they both attend the same school, because he plays the guitar really well. He is just getting by with classes. He is a junior and wasn't like this in his first two years. It started at the beginning of his junior year. I am trying to get him back on track with academics.

Why are people impressed by people who can play guitar? What's the allure?