I just appreciate pretty things.

Anonymous wrote:Women focused soley on financial wealth in the US are so unappealing!

You prefer the foreign ones then? Because women from my husband’s Asian country are so materialistic they would blow your mind. Like traveling to Paris to shop and only to shop.

I'm happier than you but it has nothing to do with what I own. You sound bitter and judgemental. I have expensive things and enjoy expensive experiences. I also have plenty of non expensive items. I buy what I like and sometimes thats a $3000 bag and sometimes it is $10 sandals from Target.

I don't look down on people or judge them for what they do and don't own. And no, I would never think I am better because of what I buy. I am fortunate to be able to afford what I like, that's all.

Well-designed and beautiful items bring me happiness. I have always been a visual arts person. I spent a gap year backpacking through Europe almost exclusively visiting art museums. I’ve also always loved fashion magazines and their stunning photography.

It has absolutely nothing to do with you. Manage your own feelings and stop projecting on me. If you feel jealous it’s not because I want you to feel jealous. That’s just your own baggage.

I just spent nearly 6 figures on an instrument with a great sound for my teen so they can play with more joy, and stand out in competitions and auditions.

My clothes and bags are not haute couture but I’m extremely picky about what I buy.

Actually I’m very picky about most purchases, but since my criteria are not related to acquiring the most famous brands, perhaps you would not consider me materialistic?

What is materialistic? Can you be materialistic and frugal? I don’t buy a lot, but I’m ready to spend a ton on things that matter to my family.

What do you mean by materialistic?
I collect antiques. Is that "materialistic"? Or is only materialistic to collect designer handbags? Is it more materialistic to own one Chanel purse or a hundred Coach bags? Is it about brands or is it just about buying a lot of stuff?

Anonymous wrote:Women focused soley on financial wealth in the US are so unappealing!

What do you think of men who flash $10,000 wrist watches?

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Anonymous wrote:For those of you who are super materialistic, please explain it to me as someone who values the simple things in life.

Does the bag, clothes give you happiness? Does it make you think you are better than someone else who can't afford it and that makes you happy? Or is it just collecting something? Are you happier than me who has much less and values times, experiences, etc..? Just curious.

Why are you directing this solely at women ?

Many men are equally if not more materialistic.

We do live in a capitalist society and people are Bombarded with ads promising this and that elusive form of happiness/ status/ allure if you buy whatever.

It is up to parents - moms and dads - to un-brainwash our children regarding materialistic life values.

+1000

Many men continually want the newest tech gear, home technology, new cars, watches, shoes/sneakers, etc.

There are materialistic people of both sexes.

-not a materialistic woman

Anonymous wrote:For those of you who are super materialistic, please explain it to me as someone who values the simple things in life.

Does the bag, clothes give you happiness? Does it make you think you are better than someone else who can't afford it and that makes you happy? Or is it just collecting something? Are you happier than me who has much less and values times, experiences, etc..? Just curious.

Why are you directing this solely at women ?

Many men are equally if not more materialistic.

We do live in a capitalist society and people are Bombarded with ads promising this and that elusive form of happiness/ status/ allure if you buy whatever.

It is up to parents - moms and dads - to un-brainwash our children regarding materialistic life values.

I have a few 2K+ purses but I didn’t buy any of them. All gifts from family (not DH) and frankly, not going to say no!

I think people are happier than you because they are less judgmental than you are. You assume that you value "times and experiences" more because you have less and that somehow makes you superior. Some of us enjoy nice things, meaningful experiences, and great times with the people we love.

Women focused soley on financial wealth in the US are so unappealing!

We keep the economy going.

I am materialistic and grew up extremely poor. Now I don't and won't have to ever worry about money.

What I would say is yes some expensive things do make me happy. I don't buy them because of others. I am very picky as to what I buy.

However, I buy at all price points. I recently bought a $3000 purse, because I loved the zippers and pockets and the same day I bought a $12 Target hoodie, which I will wear with that purse. Yes, both make me happy. And yes I get a $3000 purse is kind of absurd. Plenty of nice purses for less than that, but the pockets LOL

I don't buy these things because of what other people will think. I was so poor I am worried I won't have things. Yep still have the fear of no food or clothing that fits.. So this baggage from my childhood is still with me.

And I definitely do not judge others about what they can afford I get it. I really do. Except when people have kids who have money and refuse to pay for college that I do judge. Because education is the greatest gift.

And just because I am materialistic no not happier than you I have no idea what makes you happy. And none of this means I do not value experiences.

I think your first mistake is assuming that women who own nice things are universally materialistic. The long and short of it is that I love beautiful, high quality items. Yes that includes things like a Chanel CF, but it also includes many other under the radar (and moderately priced) items that you might not know of. Liking nice things isn’t materialistic. Shoving it in peoples faces, assuming it makes you better than - that’s materialistic. I’m just living my life.

The thing I find so fascinating (as I assume your question is a spin off of the B&F thread about designer items), is the hostility directed to women who buy nice items. You rarely see the same vitrol for a nice watch a man buys to mark a milestone - but if a woman buys a purse or jewelry, she’s a materialistic shrew. I encourage you to question why that dynamic exists.

Finally, I also used to be one of those self righteous people that smugly said I valued experiences other things. And while I do love experiences - travel, good meals with friends, concerts - it’s all *consumption* just the same. So I got off my high horse.

I suggest you get off yours.

For those of you who are super materialistic, please explain it to me as someone who values the simple things in life.

Does the bag, clothes give you happiness? Does it make you think you are better than someone else who can't afford it and that makes you happy? Or is it just collecting something? Are you happier than me who has much less and values times, experiences, etc..? Just curious.