I'm a center director. When parents enroll they are required to stay with the child for the first 1/2 day, sometimes longer if they think it's necessary. I would likely allow your nanny to come with the child if she had her clearances and if she understood that she could not care for the other children.

No. Illegal.

Thank you for the input, all. Health issues related to blood pressure issues, and can be set off by hysterical crying. On medications and could get doctors note if needed. We may just hold off.

Don’t feed the troll, guys

I’ve worked with many kids in preschool settings as a 1:1 and outsider- not hired by preschool. These were children with SN and instruction was pull out to work on 1:1 skills as well as addressing peer interaction/ play skills. Usually as part of EI, ISP, IEP, Private consultation, etc. for 2-4 hour increments at preschool setting.

I’m not a nanny though, so education/specialization may be the reason I’ve never had a problem doing this. IME 95% of preschools, public schools, private schools, play groups, etc didn’t have a problem with my being there. The small % that did were usually principal issues in public schools and parents fought their way around it.

Again, purpose of nanny being there likely makes a difference. I wouldn’t address it as I want my nanny to come to school with my kid. If you have legit medical reasons why your child needs additional support then I’d write those specific things out and start by asking the preschool head if they have the resources to address them.

Your nanny should also be prepared to meet preschool head, present resume if asked, show background check, fingerprinting, etc. and have enough social skills and knowledge of your child and their purpose for needing to be there to get through a 20 minute 1:1 interview. It’s a rare occasion to be placed in any place with children as an “outsider” and not have to jump through some hoops like this.

If you think your kid needs so much extra attention I’d look into IEP/EI to get nanny employed that way. Just asking Can my nanny join probably won’t cut it. If you have some legal basis to back it up you’re unlikely to be rejected.

A daycare or preschool would have to accommodate a child with special needs because of ADA. That means you can send a health aide with a sn child.

A nanny? I’m not so sure about that. What “health limitations” would disappear after than any stops attending?

This isn't a thing. Random adults aren't allowed to spend the day or even a few hours at daycare/preschool (and yes, your nanny is a random adult). Nor should they be.

No don’t do this. What are the health issues? Maybe hold off on preschool til your child is 4.

Daycares and preschools usually have a few introductory sessions where parent/nanny attends with the child. After that, it gets weird to have extra caretakers in the room who only pay attention to a single child. A 2yo might enjoy some mommy & me sessions where a parent/nanny is expected to stay with the child. These include age-appropriate music, gym, or activity classes. My local parks & rec had a ton of these that I took my kids to when they were toddlers. There were plenty of nannies with kids in the classes.

You could consider a co-op, which often come with obligations that a parent help out on certain days. They’re often cheaper too because you’re expected to help supervise the kids. I’d guess you could swap in a nanny for a parent.

Anyone have success with a daycare or preschool allowing their nanny attend class with them on a regular basis or at least for a transition period? Child is 2 and has a few health limitations that I would feel more comfortable having our nanny there.