Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nope. There might be a diagnosis somewhere in the mix, but not from what you’ve described, especially if he’s content with his life. I’d go with healthy, authentic, and self-actualized — in ways that most people chasing superficial external validations can only imagine.

ok. so the failure to work towards home ownership, retirement, and having at least a life partner isn't something shameful? not asking rhetorically.

You really think that single people who rent apartments are shameful?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nope. There might be a diagnosis somewhere in the mix, but not from what you’ve described, especially if he’s content with his life. I’d go with healthy, authentic, and self-actualized — in ways that most people chasing superficial external validations can only imagine.

ok. so the failure to work towards home ownership, retirement, and having at least a life partner isn't something shameful? not asking rhetorically.

Not everyone wants or needs to own a home.
Many people look for a life partner for decades and never find one.

And what exactly does this guy need to retire from?


I think judging people whose lives aren't exactly like yours is shameful.

I know someone like this, more or less. He spends a lot of time sucking money out of his widowed mother's bank account, credit cards, etc., totaled her car, spends a lot of money getting high, and he's about 50 years old. I think he was in the military for a few years in his early 20s but that's it job wise other than a few attempts here and there that lasted a month or two per job. When family can pry him out of his mother's life to help her he couch surfs at friend's houses until he can worm his way back into her life.

Anonymous wrote:Nope. There might be a diagnosis somewhere in the mix, but not from what you’ve described, especially if he’s content with his life. I’d go with healthy, authentic, and self-actualized — in ways that most people chasing superficial external validations can only imagine.

ok. so the failure to work towards home ownership, retirement, and having at least a life partner isn't something shameful? not asking rhetorically.

I live a bit like this and know a lot of people who do as well.
Generally, we don't see life as a competition and don't care much what others think.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There doesn't need to be an official diagnosis for someone who lives differently from you.
He obviously gets by and he's fine with his life.
The fact that he's a man means he probably feels that he can marry and start a family whenever he feels like it.

what if they are in their 60s though.

Same thing.
They get by and are fine with life.

Nope. There might be a diagnosis somewhere in the mix, but not from what you’ve described, especially if he’s content with his life. I’d go with healthy, authentic, and self-actualized — in ways that most people chasing superficial external validations can only imagine.

What you describe is a lot of married women. But society tells us to see them differently.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There doesn't need to be an official diagnosis for someone who lives differently from you.
He obviously gets by and he's fine with his life.
The fact that he's a man means he probably feels that he can marry and start a family whenever he feels like it.

what if they are in their 60s though.

A total success

Anonymous wrote:Let's say an adult male has never had a real job, as an employee, for 30-40 years, but finds odds and ends to earn a little money here and there, maybe earning under 20k per year in a low cost of living area with no family - no wife or kids, no live in girlfriend. They are very positive, dreamer type, conversationalist, enjoy traveling to visit friends, hobbies. Very carefree, zero responsibilities. What do you call this type of person? Is there a diagnosis?

A free-spirit, lucky.

Anonymous wrote:There doesn't need to be an official diagnosis for someone who lives differently from you.
He obviously gets by and he's fine with his life.
The fact that he's a man means he probably feels that he can marry and start a family whenever he feels like it.

what if they are in their 60s though.

Happy.

ASD

There doesn't need to be an official diagnosis for someone who lives differently from you.
He obviously gets by and he's fine with his life.
The fact that he's a man means he probably feels that he can marry and start a family whenever he feels like it.

Let's say an adult male has never had a real job, as an employee, for 30-40 years, but finds odds and ends to earn a little money here and there, maybe earning under 20k per year in a low cost of living area with no family - no wife or kids, no live in girlfriend. They are very positive, dreamer type, conversationalist, enjoy traveling to visit friends, hobbies. Very carefree, zero responsibilities. What do you call this type of person? Is there a diagnosis?