Anonymous wrote:Rec teams are no longer for learning the sport and having fun. They are filled with competitive parents who are screaming from the sidelines constantly. I ran into a mom the other day at basketball game and she told me she can’t watch the game because it causes too much stress. .. this is rec basketball

The kids are terrible too but I digress

Rec teams are no longer for learning the sport and having fun. They are filled with competitive parents who are screaming from the sidelines constantly. I ran into a mom the other day at basketball game and she told me she can’t watch the game because it causes too much stress. .. this is rec basketball

Anybody can pick up lacrosse later in life spare us the secrecy

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Anonymous wrote:At the rec level, they should be doing what they can to make sure the teams are roughly level in terms of skill, so that when the teams play each other, it is fun for all the teams.

What usually happens is that the stronger teams try to stay together. Some leagues are better at preventing this than others. Usually though, the coaches have some sort of "draft" and if the friend's coach doesn't think your DC is good, they won't draft them.

OP here- you are right. But it’s not just the coaches, its the parents too who don’t want to share their teams registration code. It’s just sad to see your kid looking forward to playing a sport with his friends only to find out he can’t because the team is too good and he is a beginner..

Yes, this is what the US has come to in terms of intensity of extra-curriculars and unavailability of "walk-on" groups. My daughter is an advanced orchestral player, started her instrument really young, and I had to find compassionate words to tell another parent that no, their late-elementary beginner would probably not be accepted into the same youth orchestra as my daughter. You can't expect kids who have worked hard to attain a certain level to be lumped in with others who will play a ton of wrong notes and can't sight-read. Same for sports, I imagine.

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Anonymous wrote:My DS’s rec soccer team is really good, but they add players if there is space on the team. Maybe the friend’s team’s roster is full with the kids from previous seasons.

Nope roster is not full, registration just opened.

Registration may have nothing to do with it. Priority on a rec team is given to those who have been on in the season(s) prior. If all players are returning the roster will be full.

For soccer, at older levels our club tries to field a rec team to win in the suburban friendship league. After that team forms, the rest of the kids are put onto other rec teams

That's super annoying. Similar thing happened to us in another city, DS wanted to try soccer but his friend's team was super competitive. They were only 8 at the time.

Anonymous wrote:At the rec level, they should be doing what they can to make sure the teams are roughly level in terms of skill, so that when the teams play each other, it is fun for all the teams.

What usually happens is that the stronger teams try to stay together. Some leagues are better at preventing this than others. Usually though, the coaches have some sort of "draft" and if the friend's coach doesn't think your DC is good, they won't draft them.

OP here- you are right. But it’s not just the coaches, its the parents too who don’t want to share their teams registration code. It’s just sad to see your kid looking forward to playing a sport with his friends only to find out he can’t because the team is too good and he is a beginner..

Anonymous wrote:At the rec level, they should be doing what they can to make sure the teams are roughly level in terms of skill, so that when the teams play each other, it is fun for all the teams.

What usually happens is that the stronger teams try to stay together. Some leagues are better at preventing this than others. Usually though, the coaches have some sort of "draft" and if the friend's coach doesn't think your DC is good, they won't draft them.

Our town's rec lacrosse team has an two A teams, a B team and a C team starting in 5th grade...

At the rec level, they should be doing what they can to make sure the teams are roughly level in terms of skill, so that when the teams play each other, it is fun for all the teams.

What usually happens is that the stronger teams try to stay together. Some leagues are better at preventing this than others. Usually though, the coaches have some sort of "draft" and if the friend's coach doesn't think your DC is good, they won't draft them.

Anonymous wrote:My DS’s rec soccer team is really good, but they add players if there is space on the team. Maybe the friend’s team’s roster is full with the kids from previous seasons.

Nope roster is not full, registration just opened.

If there is space on the team, then it is usually first come first serve after the returning players fill the slots. Sometimes there are no slots because the team is full and everyone returns to play.

Anonymous wrote:My DC wanted to try a new sport that his friend has been playing for 2 years. Apparently he can’t get on his friends rec team because he is new to the sport and the friend’s team is supposed to be really good. This was supposed to be a rec team… what is going on with rec sports? Is my DC the only one?

No, same thing is happening to us. DC plays a travel sport that is really consuming of our time and money, but we like DC to play some rec sports, too. Even though he's super athletic, he doesn't get to play with his bestfriends on the rec lacrosse team because they all play club lacrosse most of the year, plus rec lacrosse in the spring, and he doesn't have the stick skills to make the top team with them. It's a bummer!

My DS’s rec soccer team is really good, but they add players if there is space on the team. Maybe the friend’s team’s roster is full with the kids from previous seasons.

My DC wanted to try a new sport that his friend has been playing for 2 years. Apparently he can’t get on his friends rec team because he is new to the sport and the friend’s team is supposed to be really good. This was supposed to be a rec team… what is going on with rec sports? Is my DC the only one?