Anonymous wrote:I know plenty of heterosexual nice guys who are nearing 40 who want to get married and have a family. They were working their butts off to make money in their younger years because they did not come from wealthy backgrounds.

Unfortunately, all they are getting are gold-diggers women without family values. So they are also stuck.

This is BS.

Do these men live in a bubble?

There are women where they work, women where they live. They have family, friends and acquaintances who know great women.

I guess the first red flag would be that a man chose to stay single until his 49s just because he wanted to " make money in his younger years". It tells you how important money is to him. He is just attracting female versions of himself.

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Anonymous wrote:I did at around 32. Just as easy to fall in love with someone wealthy as someone poor!

How old are you now? Let us know when he trades you in for someone younger.

We’re good, thanks. But you’re right, many marriages end in divorce so I’m glad that I planned ahead (though I very much believe that we won’t have to deal with divorce; we both have family histories which make us unusually committed).

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Anonymous wrote:What happened to marrying someone you love and are absolutely crazy about? Marriage and kids are hard, and if you don’t have a foundation built on genuine love and trust, I don’t imagine a marriage will be healthy and happy.

But why not fall in love and be crazy about someone rich?

Listen to yourself. Are you 16?

Anonymous wrote:I did at around 32. Just as easy to fall in love with someone wealthy as someone poor!

How old are you now? Let us know when he trades you in for someone younger.

Anonymous wrote:What happened to marrying someone you love and are absolutely crazy about? Marriage and kids are hard, and if you don’t have a foundation built on genuine love and trust, I don’t imagine a marriage will be healthy and happy.

But why not fall in love and be crazy about someone rich?

What happened to marrying someone you love and are absolutely crazy about? Marriage and kids are hard, and if you don’t have a foundation built on genuine love and trust, I don’t imagine a marriage will be healthy and happy.

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Anonymous wrote:Anyone here marry a very well off man they met past the age of 28 who is also a truly nice guy. Or is the hope for this pretty much over if you didn't go to school together or something?

OP - guy here. just curious what your definition of well off is in term of income/assets?

Very well off is NW over $12-15.

Np.

I did at around 32. Just as easy to fall in love with someone wealthy as someone poor!

I know plenty of heterosexual nice guys who are nearing 40 who want to get married and have a family. They were working their butts off to make money in their younger years because they did not come from wealthy backgrounds.

Unfortunately, all they are getting are gold-diggers women without family values. So they are also stuck.

Anonymous wrote:I did not.

If you go for money, you will likely have to give up something else - age, looks, or personality. No free rides most the time.

Wow. That reply was going well until it got to the specifics, then was almost as shallow as the original post. "Age, looks or personality" as what you sacrifice for dollars? How about, "If you go for money, you likely will have to give up something else--possibly ethics, morals, time spent with the family."

What is with the repeated threads in recent months about meeting and marrying wealthy people? Do that many of the posters on this site crave wealth and use it as a yardstick for measuring dates? Do people just hope to stop working as soon as possible in their lives and live off what a spouse brings to the marriage? How transactional and mercenary. Yeah, I'm judging and I own the fact I'm judging. It just screams "I want to be 'kept.'" And no amount of excuses like "But! I only desire for our kids to want for nothing!" or "I fear being poor because I was raised poor" or other supposed "reasons" could stop this thinking from being mercenary.

Anonymous wrote:Anyone here marry a very well off man they met past the age of 28 who is also a truly nice guy. Or is the hope for this pretty much over if you didn't go to school together or something?

OP - guy here. just curious what your definition of well off is in term of income/assets?

I did not.

If you go for money, you will likely have to give up something else - age, looks, or personality. No free rides most the time.

I met DH at 28, he was 30. Married at 29. Neither of us graduated college, and we didn’t go to college together. He is wealthy, and nice.

Anyone here marry a very well off man they met past the age of 28 who is also a truly nice guy. Or is the hope for this pretty much over if you didn't go to school together or something?