Anonymous
Post 01/12/2023 13:37     Subject: families of color events question
OP here. Thank you for all the replies. We are at a new school and I am learning how things flow, so it is helpful to learn what others say and think. My gut reaction seems to be correct re: attending. I guess we'll see next week!

Also: not a troll and definitely not the person who started an angry thread on this topic!

Anonymous
Post 01/11/2023 21:54     Subject: families of color events question
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:If the family is interracial, does the white parent also attend?


I sincerely hope this is a genuine inquiry, and you're not the same bizarrely entitled lunatic (white mother with black husband) who spent weeks on this board stirring up nonsense late last year. Presuming it is the former versus the latter, the purpose of the event makes all the difference in answering this question. The main occasion when I consider it best for the non-POC parent not to attend would be when the event targets PARENTS of color. There are instances when parents of color with children of color, convene to discuss issues, for example. That is when the white parent should not be included, since that event is not intended for them. Obviously, sane adults living in 2023 are aware that challenges commonly occur specific to parents/children of color in independent schools, and discussions seeking understanding and solutions are not suitable for non-POC inclusion.


Then don’t blur the line between student events and parent events. Basic communication skills go a long way.


So it IS you?! Are you secretly posting, or does your spouse know about this unhealthy obsession that even holiday joy hasn't cured you of? You're back kicking off the new year with this same ridiculousness. That's actually very sad.
Therapy works; seek it.
Anonymous
Post 01/11/2023 21:10     Subject: families of color events question
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Of course you are welcome. Why would you even ask?

Absolutely. +1


It’s actually not so simple.

Like 17:02 mentions, if the event is for Black parents at X school the event is meant to be a safe space for Black parents. If the event is for families of students of color or Black students, it’s meant to be inclusive of all the different flavors.

Try to substitute orientation.

Imagine a group of Gay parents want to organize and have safe space about issues they face being Gay parents at X school. If you are straight and have a gay child, this group may not be for you. Now if the group meeting was to be supportive of gay students at X school, then gay or straight parents would attend with their students (if parents were invited to this event).
Anonymous
Post 01/11/2023 20:16     Subject: families of color events question
Anonymous wrote:Of course you are welcome. Why would you even ask?

Absolutely. +1
Anonymous
Post 01/11/2023 18:58     Subject: families of color events question
Of course you are welcome. Why would you even ask?
Anonymous
Post 01/11/2023 18:51     Subject: families of color events question
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:If the family is interracial, does the white parent also attend?


I sincerely hope this is a genuine inquiry, and you're not the same bizarrely entitled lunatic (white mother with black husband) who spent weeks on this board stirring up nonsense late last year. Presuming it is the former versus the latter, the purpose of the event makes all the difference in answering this question. The main occasion when I consider it best for the non-POC parent not to attend would be when the event targets PARENTS of color. There are instances when parents of color with children of color, convene to discuss issues, for example. That is when the white parent should not be included, since that event is not intended for them. Obviously, sane adults living in 2023 are aware that challenges commonly occur specific to parents/children of color in independent schools, and discussions seeking understanding and solutions are not suitable for non-POC inclusion.


Then don’t blur the line between student events and parent events. Basic communication skills go a long way.
Anonymous
Post 01/11/2023 18:43     Subject: families of color events question
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:If the family is interracial, does the white parent also attend?


I sincerely hope this is a genuine inquiry, and you're not the same bizarrely entitled lunatic (white mother with black husband) who spent weeks on this board stirring up nonsense late last year. Presuming it is the former versus the latter, the purpose of the event makes all the difference in answering this question. The main occasion when I consider it best for the non-POC parent not to attend would be when the event targets PARENTS of color. There are instances when parents of color with children of color, convene to discuss issues, for example. That is when the white parent should not be included, since that event is not intended for them. Obviously, sane adults living in 2023 are aware that challenges commonly occur specific to parents/children of color in independent schools, and discussions seeking understanding and solutions are not suitable for non-POC inclusion.


Lol…I also wondered if it was the same poster from last year.
Anonymous
Post 01/11/2023 17:46     Subject: families of color events question
OP is probably a troll. A person in.an interracial relationship or parent of a child of a different race would not ask this question.

But if you are not a troll, OP, you need to know that, in general, the families of color you are most likely to encounter at a DMV private are headed by parents who went to school and work in environments similar to the one at your child's school. They are used to being in the minority; will welcome your presence, and treat you how they wish to be treated by the white parents.
Anonymous
Post 01/11/2023 17:30     Subject: families of color events question
If the event is for "parents of.." and I'm a "parent of..", then I show up.
Anonymous
Post 01/11/2023 17:02     Subject: families of color events question
Anonymous wrote:If the family is interracial, does the white parent also attend?


I sincerely hope this is a genuine inquiry, and you're not the same bizarrely entitled lunatic (white mother with black husband) who spent weeks on this board stirring up nonsense late last year. Presuming it is the former versus the latter, the purpose of the event makes all the difference in answering this question. The main occasion when I consider it best for the non-POC parent not to attend would be when the event targets PARENTS of color. There are instances when parents of color with children of color, convene to discuss issues, for example. That is when the white parent should not be included, since that event is not intended for them. Obviously, sane adults living in 2023 are aware that challenges commonly occur specific to parents/children of color in independent schools, and discussions seeking understanding and solutions are not suitable for non-POC inclusion.
Anonymous
Post 01/11/2023 17:01     Subject: families of color events question
Anonymous wrote:If the family is interracial, does the white parent also attend?


Ours was for students of color, so we always attended (white parents who adopted). No one ever mentioned anything, although we were also careful to stay in our lane.
Anonymous
Post 01/11/2023 16:39     Subject: Re:families of color events question
Our K-8 called the group “Parents of Students of Color” so it didn’t matter what the parents looked like and it was clear that the focus of these events were the student experience at the school.
Anonymous
Post 01/11/2023 12:53     Subject: Re:families of color events question
Can you describe this event?
Anonymous
Post 01/11/2023 12:49     Subject: families of color events question
I think there's no reason to separate the white person FROM their family at a school event. I wouldn't blink twice at a white person attending.
Anonymous
Post 01/11/2023 12:45     Subject: families of color events question
If the family is interracial, does the white parent also attend?