Growing up, our big celebration on Christmas Eve (Polish tradition). After dinner, we always ran to my Aunts room to watch for Santa. He brought presents to all the cousins that night and it was AWESOME. We loved it! Santa gifts on the Eve, Santa gifts on the day of. It was heaven for us.

Anonymous wrote:It’s a made up story; so people make up the details in different ways. I don’t see how you are losing anything if your kid believes this for a couple of years. The whole story is pretty ridiculous, so there are plenty of details the kids pick apart when they start to realize that - this is not likely to be the inconsistent detail that reveals the truth. Obviously you have deeper issues with your mom and her overstepping what you see as your role; I would focus on resolving that instead of the particular details surrounding the Santa myth.

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Anonymous wrote:No, it’s not normal, and I would shut that down fast. She had her turn to be Santa. Tell her on no uncertain terms that Santa is you and DH, end of list.

No you are insane. Really there are worse things in life.

+1 The controlling shrews are really out today!

Why wouldn’t Santa leave presents at her house if that’s where you are spending Christmas? What a weird thing to be upset about.

How did the presents get to her house if not via Santa? Are you going to demand she drop her presents off at your place so you can do Santa with her presents?

And, Santa had a sleigh.

You’re overthinking things. If you’ve decided to go with Santa, then it’s no odder to believe and explain that Santa can go to multiple houses than it is to explain whatever version of the fantasy you’ve chosen to go with.

It isn’t normal, but it also isn’t a particularly big deal. If it doesn’t bother your spouse, let it go. If it bothers your spouse, let them handle it.

It’s a made up story; so people make up the details in different ways. I don’t see how you are losing anything if your kid believes this for a couple of years. The whole story is pretty ridiculous, so there are plenty of details the kids pick apart when they start to realize that - this is not likely to be the inconsistent detail that reveals the truth. Obviously you have deeper issues with your mom and her overstepping what you see as your role; I would focus on resolving that instead of the particular details surrounding the Santa myth.

My mom and dad used to tell my kids the same. It really doesn't have to be a big deal.; Santa's everywhere.

Anonymous wrote:This is what you took time away from your family to post? This is what is occupying your brain? I’m embarrassed for you.

Does that mean you are also embarrassed for yourself for reading a strangers question and responding?

This is what you took time away from your family to post? This is what is occupying your brain? I’m embarrassed for you.

Anonymous wrote:No, it’s not normal, and I would shut that down fast. She had her turn to be Santa. Tell her on no uncertain terms that Santa is you and DH, end of list.

No you are insane. Really there are worse things in life.

You are f’ing ridiculous.

No, it’s not normal, and I would shut that down fast. She had her turn to be Santa. Tell her on no uncertain terms that Santa is you and DH, end of list.

Do you think this is normal and is this what your mom/mil says to your kids?

Yesterday I overheard my mil tell my kid that Santa was going to stop by at her house and drop off presents for the kid too. We are going over there for Christmas today. In the moment I didn’t say anything but it just rubbed me wrong for some reason and left me with a funny feeling… when I thought about it I think it’s because I feel like Santa is a parents thing and grandparents are free to give kids presents from them, but they really aren’t playing Santa anymore. Furthermore it could lead to complications with kid like kid asking how Santa knew they were going to grandmas house or I don’t know… even just Santa bringing them so much stuff through different relatives.

I feel like my mil is overstepping here and trying to revive the Santa role for herself.

Am I overthinking or is this weird? I kind of want to go tell her, or have Dh tell her, no you are free to give kids Christmas gifts but no playing Santa please.