Anonymous
Post 12/07/2022 22:43     Subject: Sleep training 2year old
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:This is why you sleep train babies.


NP. That's not helpful at all. You don't even know OP's situation.

We sleep trained three separate times and couldn't get it to stick because our kid is 99th percentile willful (according to a daycare center Director who had seen maybe three or four babies like him over her 20+ years of experience) and a vomiter when he cries.

Good for you that sleep training worked for your kids, but recognize that some kids are just outliers (i.e. super sensitive or super stubbeorn) and it's not any failure to act on the part of the parents.


Thank you for this response, every kid is different. I have seen all kinds and I think no one should be judgemental. Some babies have health issues and they can not be left alone
Anonymous
Post 12/07/2022 15:49     Subject: Sleep training 2year old
Anonymous wrote:At that age, I just had to sit in my son's room until he fell asleep. I sat in a chair and would read my phone under a blanket. It usually took him 30 min before he would fall asleep and I could leave the room. This lasted over a year but now he is a good sleeper and doesn't have any anxieties around sleeping.

Same. Both of my kids were sleep trained, but at two, there was a major regression, where they started to understand that other things were happening after they went to bed, and getting them to sleep was more challenging. So for a while, bedtime ended with DH or me sitting on the couch in their room for an extra 30 minutes until kid was passed out. Don't get in bed with them though. Lay on the floor if you have to.
Anonymous
Post 12/07/2022 15:39     Subject: Sleep training 2year old
Anonymous wrote:This is why you sleep train babies.


NP. That's not helpful at all. You don't even know OP's situation.

We sleep trained three separate times and couldn't get it to stick because our kid is 99th percentile willful (according to a daycare center Director who had seen maybe three or four babies like him over her 20+ years of experience) and a vomiter when he cries.

Good for you that sleep training worked for your kids, but recognize that some kids are just outliers (i.e. super sensitive or super stubbeorn) and it's not any failure to act on the part of the parents.
Anonymous
Post 12/07/2022 14:53     Subject: Sleep training 2year old
This is why you sleep train babies.
Anonymous
Post 12/07/2022 14:31     Subject: Sleep training 2year old
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I did it with a 2.5 year old and ngl it was heartbreaking. I definitely regret it. My now 7 yo still has some anxieties I think resulted from the sleep training methods. I started with all the gentle stuff and obviously a solid routine. Hired a consultant and tried a hybrid of sleep lady shuffle mostly with other things like rewards charts and so many positive approaches but by the end the consultant was basically like "I have no more ideas. You can try the not as gentle approaches or you can give up".

Sunk cost fallacy and all that we ended up crying our way through it and she did eventually stay in her room and sleep like a dream (still does) but at what cost to her spirit and our bond?


Op here, thanks for the response. My son is very cuddly, hugging everyone, happy and joyful. He has 15 classmates and he is the most socializing one. My fear has always been that we will have to be very very tough on him and he might have anxiety or other issues from going through this.


Omg.
Anonymous
Post 12/07/2022 14:29     Subject: Sleep training 2year old
We used sleeper teachers
Anonymous
Post 12/07/2022 14:29     Subject: Sleep training 2year old
Anonymous wrote:I did it with a 2.5 year old and ngl it was heartbreaking. I definitely regret it. My now 7 yo still has some anxieties I think resulted from the sleep training methods. I started with all the gentle stuff and obviously a solid routine. Hired a consultant and tried a hybrid of sleep lady shuffle mostly with other things like rewards charts and so many positive approaches but by the end the consultant was basically like "I have no more ideas. You can try the not as gentle approaches or you can give up".

Sunk cost fallacy and all that we ended up crying our way through it and she did eventually stay in her room and sleep like a dream (still does) but at what cost to her spirit and our bond?
that’s because 2 is late to be doing this. I however sleep trained at 5 mos and my kid slept great from then on. She’s 10 now with no anxiety or social issues. I still read to her at bedtime and we snuggle and are loving, she will also happily go spend 2-3 days at a friends house.
Anonymous
Post 12/07/2022 14:27     Subject: Sleep training 2year old
At that age, I just had to sit in my son's room until he fell asleep. I sat in a chair and would read my phone under a blanket. It usually took him 30 min before he would fall asleep and I could leave the room. This lasted over a year but now he is a good sleeper and doesn't have any anxieties around sleeping.
Anonymous
Post 12/07/2022 14:23     Subject: Re:Sleep training 2year old
Anonymous wrote:OP I didn't respond since you were looking for in person but since no one has responded I will recommend the Peaceful Sleeper. She can come in person but she doesnt' live in this area so that is very expensive. But she does sleep training where you can have them there on zoom while you do it and they watch the monitor with you and help you figure out when to go in, what to do. We did the group version of this and found it VERY helpful and worth every cent. https://thepeacefulsleeper.com/

We did it with her consultant Ashley. And they are very flexible, willing to find an approach that works for you and your family however gentle you want it to be. Her instagram can give you a sense of her approach.


OP here, thanks for the response. I will check them out
Anonymous
Post 12/07/2022 14:22     Subject: Sleep training 2year old
Anonymous wrote:I did it with a 2.5 year old and ngl it was heartbreaking. I definitely regret it. My now 7 yo still has some anxieties I think resulted from the sleep training methods. I started with all the gentle stuff and obviously a solid routine. Hired a consultant and tried a hybrid of sleep lady shuffle mostly with other things like rewards charts and so many positive approaches but by the end the consultant was basically like "I have no more ideas. You can try the not as gentle approaches or you can give up".

Sunk cost fallacy and all that we ended up crying our way through it and she did eventually stay in her room and sleep like a dream (still does) but at what cost to her spirit and our bond?


Op here, thanks for the response. My son is very cuddly, hugging everyone, happy and joyful. He has 15 classmates and he is the most socializing one. My fear has always been that we will have to be very very tough on him and he might have anxiety or other issues from going through this.
Anonymous
Post 12/07/2022 14:18     Subject: Re:Sleep training 2year old
Anonymous wrote:Be consistent. Do a bedtime routine if you don’t already. Teeth, books, sing a song, get into bed. Say goodnight, leave the room. If he starts crying you can go back in but don’t pick him up or bring him out, tell him it’s bedtime and leave again. Repeat as necessary. If he’s capable of coming out of the room just keep walking back without engaging in conversation.

Thanks for responding, He can talk and walk and he will come out . He has a bed time routine and timing but mom or dad have to pretend to sleep with him to put him to sleep. There is no way he will just lay in bed. He goes to a preschool/daycare and at nap time he will follow the rules but at home he knows everyone else is awake and would not sleep without someone sleeping with him in the room. We make sure there is no disturbance even if parents are awake or we have guests around. I have been sleeping with him since he has asthma and has had very rough last year due to health issues. I know that it is going to be tough to train him but I want to do it sooner than later
Anonymous
Post 12/07/2022 14:18     Subject: Sleep training 2year old
I did it with a 2.5 year old and ngl it was heartbreaking. I definitely regret it. My now 7 yo still has some anxieties I think resulted from the sleep training methods. I started with all the gentle stuff and obviously a solid routine. Hired a consultant and tried a hybrid of sleep lady shuffle mostly with other things like rewards charts and so many positive approaches but by the end the consultant was basically like "I have no more ideas. You can try the not as gentle approaches or you can give up".

Sunk cost fallacy and all that we ended up crying our way through it and she did eventually stay in her room and sleep like a dream (still does) but at what cost to her spirit and our bond?
Anonymous
Post 12/07/2022 14:08     Subject: Re:Sleep training 2year old
OP I didn't respond since you were looking for in person but since no one has responded I will recommend the Peaceful Sleeper. She can come in person but she doesnt' live in this area so that is very expensive. But she does sleep training where you can have them there on zoom while you do it and they watch the monitor with you and help you figure out when to go in, what to do. We did the group version of this and found it VERY helpful and worth every cent. https://thepeacefulsleeper.com/

We did it with her consultant Ashley. And they are very flexible, willing to find an approach that works for you and your family however gentle you want it to be. Her instagram can give you a sense of her approach.
Anonymous
Post 12/07/2022 06:26     Subject: Re:Sleep training 2year old
Be consistent. Do a bedtime routine if you don’t already. Teeth, books, sing a song, get into bed. Say goodnight, leave the room. If he starts crying you can go back in but don’t pick him up or bring him out, tell him it’s bedtime and leave again. Repeat as necessary. If he’s capable of coming out of the room just keep walking back without engaging in conversation.
Anonymous
Post 12/07/2022 05:39     Subject: Sleep training 2year old
Hello,
My son is 2 years old, We have been trying to sleep train him for a long time now. I know it is a little too late but I am looking for suggestions on professional help for sleep training. I live in Ashburn and am looking for someone to come home or anything in person. Open to suggestions for help online as well.
Thank you