Anonymous wrote:We are both working most of the time after our kids go to sleep. We try to watch TV together for 20-30 minutes before collapsing. Then we do it all again the next day...

That is no way to live. Your jobs just be shit.

Anonymous wrote:DH and I are childless but expect to have a family in the next 2-3 years. We typically spend at least 50% of our time in the evenings together - eat dinner together and watch TV, talk about whatever we’re watching. Then we’ll talk about our day or the current gossip of the time, play a board or video game together, etc. Or sometimes we’ll work on our separate hobbies but usually within one room of each other.

same. might watch a show but spend a lot of time talking together, about our kids or a bunch of other stuff.

Once a week he goes out with friends, and once a week I do. Other than that, we're together five evenings each week.

DH and I are childless but expect to have a family in the next 2-3 years. We typically spend at least 50% of our time in the evenings together - eat dinner together and watch TV, talk about whatever we’re watching. Then we’ll talk about our day or the current gossip of the time, play a board or video game together, etc. Or sometimes we’ll work on our separate hobbies but usually within one room of each other.

Yes. We prep dinner together, eat, clean up together. We watch tv together or have sex or chat. We may spend some time on parallel screen time, but even that we’re usually together and often comment to each other on what we’re watching or reading. We’re not glued at the hip. There are obviously moments apart on phone calls, the occasional solo chore, grooming, etc., but yes, most of the evening after work we’re spending time together.

We have dinner together and maybe share a snippet here and there about our twenty-something daughter or mundane house/errands stuff as we cross each other’s paths. We don’t spend anytime together listening to music or watching television or hobbies, but we aren’t unhappy. I am upstairs propped in bed on my ipad: showered, flossed. skin care done, glass of water and chapstick bedside. He watched tv downstairs or does our finances on computer. He comes upstairs, strips, drops into bed with zero preparation and falls asleep before the dog can even follow him upstairs.

Never did. Divorced after a long and unhappy 10 years.

Anonymous wrote:No, I spend most of my evenings with your mother.

Most of the people that post on this board have nothing else better to do then to ask silly questions.

Dad?!

No, I spend most of my evenings with your mother.

Most of the people that post on this board have nothing else better to do then to ask silly questions.

No. Some nights we watch a show together, but typically we’re doing our own thing. DH could be working at his desk while I’m reading a book, for example. We aren’t far from each other lol.

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Anonymous wrote:want to hear from DINKs or just wanting to hear from people with kids?

Either! Couples with a lot of “free” time, whether it’s no kids or older, self sufficient children.

OK! Just want to not chime in if you're looking for folks who are balancing another set of circumstances.

I'm a little more extraverted and also do various exercise activities out of the house in the evenings. I also am in the office 2 days a week. DH is WFH since March 2020 and not going back and has less routine out of the house activities. On most weekend nights once I'm home we're together, watching TV and pausing to chat about the topic on TV or whatever went on that day. Weekends, we do a shared hobby together Saturday morning. Usually Saturday afternoon he gets a little alone time as more of an introvert, while I work out, run errands, see friends maybe, or watch series that he's not into. Sunday generally hang out together for most of the day if we are home but I'm more inclined to have lunch plans with friends etc. We do the food shopping and cook sunday dinner together and usually watch a movie to ward off Monday. We also start the day together over coffee and Morning Joe usually. Well honestly, I'm hanging out with you guys with half an ear on Morning Joe. So in the context of overall free time I feel like we spend about 3/5 of it together.

Anonymous wrote:want to hear from DINKs or just wanting to hear from people with kids?

Either! Couples with a lot of “free” time, whether it’s no kids or older, self sufficient children.

We are both working most of the time after our kids go to sleep. We try to watch TV together for 20-30 minutes before collapsing. Then we do it all again the next day...

want to hear from DINKs or just wanting to hear from people with kids?

This question is really for couples who aren’t wrangling young children. Do you spend your evenings with your significant other? Or are you doing your own activities/hobbies?