Not your circus, not your monkeys.

Anonymous wrote:Y'all realize that such kids wouldn't be coddled in other cultures right? Children in other cultures have much wider palates.

Citations, please.

Or are you only talking places where white rice, white bread (both leavened and unleavened), noodles, and the like are served as part of a regular meal without the carb police coming to freak out?

Y'all realize that such kids wouldn't be coddled in other cultures right? Children in other cultures have much wider palates.

I cannot imagine being this judgmental and worked up about somebody else's parenting, especially when it sounds like they are pushed to their limit and dealing with a lot of issues. Are you okay, OP?

Sounds like you need to stay away from her for awhile until you aren’t so repulsed.

As long as she doesn't live with you, this is not your issue. If you see her twice a year or even once a month, just look elsewhere so you're not grossed out seeing her eat her hot dog.

My 5 yo is in a hot dog phase. She has grassfed organic beef dogs with shredded cheese on with brioche buns. On top she pico de gallo. Seems like a compete meal until she moves into the next thing.

There are picky kids, and then there are kids who will, in fact, starve themselves rather than eat the "wrong" foods. If you've never had a severely underweight kid, I don't think you can understand that anxiety -- it's primal. It can take years of therapy to deal with. You sound both super-judgmental and like you don't actually understand what's going on.

We have friends who have two kids who are perfectly normal eaters and one who would only eat an extremely limited diet (basically, only white, bland foods, so he lived on potatoes and white bread and not much else). And they tried all kinds of things, but he would, in fact, starve rather than eat. He was under the care of a medical team and it took many years to (very gradually) expand his palate. I'm sure lots of people judged them, but they didn't know the facts.

OP, I didn’t have a child with food concerns, but if you really think that a child who will *only* eat hot dogs and is underweight can somehow be out willed, you might want to spend some time educating yourself.

Aside from that, your judgments like “gross” and “repulsed” shows that you just need to back off and let this family dealt with what they’re dealing with, as you lack empathy and any obvious skills that can help this family.

Let me guess: "Kids don't starve themselves! If they just served her healthy food at every meal they would eventually break her and she would eat!"

A kid who only eats one food needs medical followup (and maybe she's getting it) but I'm on team parents because at least they are keeping this child alive.

I think we can all agree that only eating hot dogs isn't healthy. But if she isn't asking you for advice, I wouldn't comment. There's likely more going on than you know. Hopefully they are working with their pediatrician.

Anonymous wrote:Like, only hot dogs. My sister and BIL literally are ok with it. The kid controls them and they gave up long ago. I’m so repulsed by how they let her literally eat hot dogs for every meal as it’s so bad for her health. Part of the problem is that she’s severely underweight so at this point they think the hot dogs will at least provide calories. It’s just gross to watch. I wish I could change things for her but the family won’t listen. They’re to exhausted to put in the work to fix the issue.

You sound nasty and judgmental.

MYOB

I have a child who has some obvious anxiety/control issues, and so eating is an issue. It is SO hard! There may be five things that they eat. But hotdogs would never be one of them! Every now and then at a ball game or cook out fine, but daily? So many carcinogens, I can’t think of a worst thing to eat.

Like, only hot dogs. My sister and BIL literally are ok with it. The kid controls them and they gave up long ago. I’m so repulsed by how they let her literally eat hot dogs for every meal as it’s so bad for her health. Part of the problem is that she’s severely underweight so at this point they think the hot dogs will at least provide calories. It’s just gross to watch. I wish I could change things for her but the family won’t listen. They’re to exhausted to put in the work to fix the issue.