Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What portion of the student body at your DC’s college are non drinkers? And, how are they faring socially?

Avoid schools with big frat culture

at the same time, learn to handle one or two drinks

Nah, just get comfortable holding a red solo cup and don't comment on its contents. No one cares if you don't. Go be social. Leave before things get sloppy.

We always talk to our HS Senior about making safe choices when they go out, calling us, using Uber, etc. Well they recently announced to us that we can stop b/c they don't drink and are always the designated driver for their friends. Don't get me wrong, DH and I are not disappointed, and if this is ultimately their lifestyle choice we support it 100%, but we are concerned DC is going to go to college and decide to drink with 0 experience - which could be dangerous.

Just because your kid is a non-drinker now doesn’t mean they won’t become one in college. And it won’t happen simply because others around them drink. It’ll be because they will be becoming adults and making their own decisions. If they decide not to drink, they’re not going to be ostracized socially. They can find other outlets for fun if they don’t want to go to parties. You worry too much and don’t have enough faith in your kid.

When our second kid was about to head off to college our oldest kid, a year or two outside of college, expressed concern to us that their sibling (a nerdy kid who never did anything in high school) might find themselves in an awkward position in college around kids smoking weed. The older kid offered to show their sibling how to smoke weed to lessen the awkwardness. We thought this was a good idea - better to start with someone you know and trust. It worked out pretty well.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What portion of the student body at your DC’s college are non drinkers? And, how are they faring socially?

Avoid schools with big frat culture

at the same time, learn to handle one or two drinks

Mom, I don't drink due to fear of becoming an alcoholic like you.

Many kids that parents here think are not drinkers will drink plenty of alcohol in college.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What portion of the student body at your DC’s college are non drinkers? And, how are they faring socially?

Avoid schools with big frat culture

at the same time, learn to handle one or two drinks

PP do you know that many people don't drink for cultural, religious, or health reason? Not everyone lives with alcohol dependence.

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Anonymous wrote:How would anyone know that?

Drinking is not the main thing that will keep or not keep a kid from being happy and engaged in college.

Disagree--especially with respect to small, cold weather, rural schools.

My non-drinker is having a great time at their small, cold weather school.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What portion of the student body at your DC’s college are non drinkers? And, how are they faring socially?

Avoid schools with big frat culture

at the same time, learn to handle one or two drinks

Why? There us nothing good about alcohol. It ages you and damages your brain, liver etc

Many non-drinkers at my DC’s party school. They are committed potheads.

Anonymous wrote:How would anyone know that?

Drinking is not the main thing that will keep or not keep a kid from being happy and engaged in college.

Disagree--especially with respect to small, cold weather, rural schools.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What portion of the student body at your DC’s college are non drinkers? And, how are they faring socially?

Avoid schools with big frat culture

at the same time, learn to handle one or two drinks

Anonymous wrote:What portion of the student body at your DC’s college are non drinkers? And, how are they faring socially?

Avoid schools with big frat culture

I am sure there are non drinkers at every school. For some kids, not being a partier makes them feel like an outsider. Sometimes, non partier kids find a great social network and make wonderful friends. Depends on the kid and the school, I think.

My friend’s kid is a freshman at BC and is a non partier. He complains about the party and drinking culture there. He has not really made social connections and hangs out with friends from high school. However, this could say as much about him as anything about the school.

How would anyone know that?

Drinking is not the main thing that will keep or not keep a kid from being happy and engaged in college.

What portion of the student body at your DC’s college are non drinkers? And, how are they faring socially?