Anonymous
12/04/2022 14:25
Subject: Re:Does your 55+ husband
Mine is 62
And he not only cares about me but he cares for me.
Almost to the point where I have to tell him to stop.
When I got sick recently, he actually woke me up every 4 hours to make sure I was still alive.
I found him sleeping on the floor in my bedroom. I have a daybed with a trundle and brand new mattress. ????? I told him to cut that out so he slept on the sofa after that.
He cleans up my vomit and my accidents. I was very sick.
He even carried me to the bathroom when I was too weak to walk.
If that ain't love I don't know what is.
And he not only cares about me but he cares for me.
Almost to the point where I have to tell him to stop.
When I got sick recently, he actually woke me up every 4 hours to make sure I was still alive.
I found him sleeping on the floor in my bedroom. I have a daybed with a trundle and brand new mattress. ????? I told him to cut that out so he slept on the sofa after that.
He cleans up my vomit and my accidents. I was very sick.
He even carried me to the bathroom when I was too weak to walk.
If that ain't love I don't know what is.
Anonymous
12/04/2022 14:25
Subject: Re:Does your 55+ husband
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Yes
Yes
Yes
Yes
Yes
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So, he does support you or he does sabotage you on the last one. If it's in the same trajectory, you are a lucky lady!
Sorry. He supports me on the last one.
I am very, very lucky.
Anonymous
12/04/2022 14:24
Subject: Does your 55+ husband
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Care about your health? Yes
Willing to plan out lifestyle changes to improve your health or his? Not mine but yes to his.
Research health concerns you have presented with and ask questions, come up with a plan forward? No, but I'm the planner researcher in our relationship
If you need a biopsy, is he concerned? Yes, probably too much, anxiety but he hides it wellish.
Ask you how you are feeling? No. He also thinks I should recover faster than I should. For example, he didn't understand why I could not shovel snow in the middle of a miscarriage, he thought it was like a period.
Does he support or sabotage your progress ( eating, exercise) He sabotages it, we kinda joke about it because he is Italian and there are many funny movies where Italian men try to feed their wifes pasta so other men won't want to date them.
I didn't mean to laugh while reading the snow shovel thing, and I'm sorry. I'm hoping you handed it to him, literally and metaphorically.
Sadly I tried, almost passed out and then we both were like WTF. I really didn't know, we were so uneducated about miscarriages.
Yeah, but still...
Anonymous
12/04/2022 14:23
Subject: Does your 55+ husband
Anonymous wrote:OP, seek the support of others. Other friends. Other connections. Your DH does not have to provide all the support you feel you need.
Again, not a statement- it is a question, psychotherapist.
Anonymous
12/04/2022 14:10
Subject: Does your 55+ husband
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Care about your health? Yes
Willing to plan out lifestyle changes to improve your health or his? Not mine but yes to his.
Research health concerns you have presented with and ask questions, come up with a plan forward? No, but I'm the planner researcher in our relationship
If you need a biopsy, is he concerned? Yes, probably too much, anxiety but he hides it wellish.
Ask you how you are feeling? No. He also thinks I should recover faster than I should. For example, he didn't understand why I could not shovel snow in the middle of a miscarriage, he thought it was like a period.
Does he support or sabotage your progress ( eating, exercise) He sabotages it, we kinda joke about it because he is Italian and there are many funny movies where Italian men try to feed their wifes pasta so other men won't want to date them.
I didn't mean to laugh while reading the snow shovel thing, and I'm sorry. I'm hoping you handed it to him, literally and metaphorically.
Sadly I tried, almost passed out and then we both were like WTF. I really didn't know, we were so uneducated about miscarriages.
Anonymous
12/04/2022 14:07
Subject: Does your 55+ husband
OP, seek the support of others. Other friends. Other connections. Your DH does not have to provide all the support you feel you need.
Anonymous
12/04/2022 14:07
Subject: Re:Does your 55+ husband
Anonymous wrote:Yes
Yes
Yes
Yes
Yes
No
So, he does support you or he does sabotage you on the last one. If it's in the same trajectory, you are a lucky lady!
Anonymous
12/04/2022 14:07
Subject: Does your 55+ husband
YES,
My husband may be many things tech nerd, anti-social sometimes, pushy, intolerant of stupidity but caring about my health yep definitely. He is literally selling a house he loves because there are not good enough doctors for my ailments.
We have been married for over 35 years one thing I have always known he cares more about me than him self.
My husband may be many things tech nerd, anti-social sometimes, pushy, intolerant of stupidity but caring about my health yep definitely. He is literally selling a house he loves because there are not good enough doctors for my ailments.
We have been married for over 35 years one thing I have always known he cares more about me than him self.
Anonymous
12/04/2022 14:06
Subject: Does your 55+ husband
Anonymous wrote:Care about your health? Yes
Willing to plan out lifestyle changes to improve your health or his? Not mine but yes to his.
Research health concerns you have presented with and ask questions, come up with a plan forward? No, but I'm the planner researcher in our relationship
If you need a biopsy, is he concerned? Yes, probably too much, anxiety but he hides it wellish.
Ask you how you are feeling? No. He also thinks I should recover faster than I should. For example, he didn't understand why I could not shovel snow in the middle of a miscarriage, he thought it was like a period.
Does he support or sabotage your progress ( eating, exercise) He sabotages it, we kinda joke about it because he is Italian and there are many funny movies where Italian men try to feed their wifes pasta so other men won't want to date them.
I didn't mean to laugh while reading the snow shovel thing, and I'm sorry. I'm hoping you handed it to him, literally and metaphorically.
Anonymous
12/04/2022 14:04
Subject: Re:Does your 55+ husband
Yes
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No
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Anonymous
12/04/2022 14:03
Subject: Does your 55+ husband
Care about your health? Yes
Willing to plan out lifestyle changes to improve your health or his? Not mine but yes to his.
Research health concerns you have presented with and ask questions, come up with a plan forward? No, but I'm the planner researcher in our relationship
If you need a biopsy, is he concerned? Yes, probably too much, anxiety but he hides it wellish.
Ask you how you are feeling? No. He also thinks I should recover faster than I should. For example, he didn't understand why I could not shovel snow in the middle of a miscarriage, he thought it was like a period.
Does he support or sabotage your progress ( eating, exercise) He sabotages it, we kinda joke about it because he is Italian and there are many funny movies where Italian men try to feed their wifes pasta so other men won't want to date them.
Willing to plan out lifestyle changes to improve your health or his? Not mine but yes to his.
Research health concerns you have presented with and ask questions, come up with a plan forward? No, but I'm the planner researcher in our relationship
If you need a biopsy, is he concerned? Yes, probably too much, anxiety but he hides it wellish.
Ask you how you are feeling? No. He also thinks I should recover faster than I should. For example, he didn't understand why I could not shovel snow in the middle of a miscarriage, he thought it was like a period.
Does he support or sabotage your progress ( eating, exercise) He sabotages it, we kinda joke about it because he is Italian and there are many funny movies where Italian men try to feed their wifes pasta so other men won't want to date them.
Anonymous
12/04/2022 13:51
Subject: Does your 55+ husband
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Care about your health?
Willing to plan out lifestyle changes to improve your health or his?
Research health concerns you have presented with and ask questions, come up with a plan forward?
If you need a biopsy, is he concerned?
Ask you how you are feeling?
Does he support or sabotage your progress ( eating, exercise)
Are saying that your husband isn't supportive?
I am asking a question, not making a statement.
Anonymous
12/04/2022 13:24
Subject: Does your 55+ husband
Anonymous wrote:Care about your health?
Willing to plan out lifestyle changes to improve your health or his?
Research health concerns you have presented with and ask questions, come up with a plan forward?
If you need a biopsy, is he concerned?
Ask you how you are feeling?
Does he support or sabotage your progress ( eating, exercise)
Are saying that your husband isn't supportive?
Anonymous
12/04/2022 13:17
Subject: Does your 55+ husband
Yes, I am very concerned about DW’s health. I make sure she is fully up to date with check ups, follow ups and preventive cares. The older you get, the more vigilant you have to be.
Anonymous
12/04/2022 13:07
Subject: Does your 55+ husband
Care about your health?
Willing to plan out lifestyle changes to improve your health or his?
Research health concerns you have presented with and ask questions, come up with a plan forward?
If you need a biopsy, is he concerned?
Ask you how you are feeling?
Does he support or sabotage your progress ( eating, exercise)
Willing to plan out lifestyle changes to improve your health or his?
Research health concerns you have presented with and ask questions, come up with a plan forward?
If you need a biopsy, is he concerned?
Ask you how you are feeling?
Does he support or sabotage your progress ( eating, exercise)