Anonymous wrote:I find it puzzling why parents aren't kinder and concerned when it comes to their kids, leaving young kids on another floor at night is a bit inhumane.

We have our primary bedroom on the main floor, kids upstairs. Works just fine with a baby monitor (when they were little).

Our previous home had basically the whole 2nd floor as a primary suite and two bedrooms on the main floor (one of which my kids shared). We lived with that configuration from my kids' birth through early elementary before moving during the pandemic. If one of the kids was sick or having a rough night, a parent might spend the night in the guest bedroom. I think it's nice now to have rooms on the same floor, but we were also fine with the other arrangement. You work with what you have.

I find it puzzling why parents aren't kinder and concerned when it comes to their kids, leaving young kids on another floor at night is a bit inhumane.

We have 2 up and 2 down. Primary is on 1st floor. Which will be great for aging in place and also for when my back gave out and i couldn't use stairs. Kids move from bursery to up the stairs around 3.5. No issues. They have their own rooms and a shared bathroom up there. Certain toys (legos etc) are not allowed downstairs. Works well for us.

This has been our set-up for 17 years. We’re in a row house in DC—parents on the 3rd floor, kids on the second floor. Friends have the same set-up. When we moved here, our oldest was 4. Second came a year later and stayed upstairs with us until 9 months. Then moved down to her own room. They’re in hs and college now. No regrets or issues whatsoever.

We have 2 grown kids who spent their whole lives in downstairs BR with the master BR upstairs.
They did share a room for a long time and I had a baby monitor set up til they were past the age of needing us in the middle of the night (one had nightmares until mid ES)

I worried a little about the teen years but my kids were not the sneaking around kind. (I'm sure they did things I would not approve of, but they did let us know when they were out of the house.)

We did talk about fire, practiced different ways to get out and had a meeting spot outside.

Its really convenient for parents and reassuring for young children to be on the same floor. I don't get the idea of having guest room upstairs where kids are.

Anonymous wrote:Has anyone ever lived in a house where your kids’ bedrooms were on a different floor than your own/the master bedroom?

Kids are 5 and 2 and have only been considering houses with at least 3 of the bedrooms (including the master) on the same floor. We love this one house but the trade off is the bedroom layout.

Anyone BTDT?

We didn't want that so bought a home with guest downstairs and master bed plus secondary bedrooms upstairs. For our second home, they were >10 so it wasn't a consideration then. When we sold our first house, there were several bids from people with young children and it went above asking.

Anonymous wrote:I live in a house with the master on the floor above my kids’ rooms. It’s not a problem for us. I’m not sure I even understand why people have a problem with it.

Same. We had two up to elementary age kids on the floor below the master. I was worried at first - had security system (dings when door opens) and chains (higher than kids could reach) installed on exterior doors to ease my mind. But, it really wasn't a big deal. At that age kids weren't trying to go outside by themselves or anything and could easily walk up to our room if they wanted to get us for something.

I'd be more concerned with teenagers and the possibility they might try to sneak out or sneak in (if they had curfews, etc.)

Yes. ExDH and I basically had the whole attic as a bedroom. The kids were on the regular bedroom level one level below us. Never a problem.

The house I grew up in had the master and 2 bedrooms upstairs and another 2 bedrooms downstairs. So one of my sisters was downstairs by herself. I don't remember it being an issue (but I was little when we moved in so I don't know if there were discussions about it.)

That is exactly the scenario that I would want to avoid though. I think a main floor master with the kids above wouldn't be an issue for me, but I would worry about noise downstairs keeping the kids awake, or (when they're older) them being able to sneak out without me hearing it.

I live in a house with the master on the floor above my kids’ rooms. It’s not a problem for us. I’m not sure I even understand why people have a problem with it.

We avoided all houses like that. So resale will be a problem if nothing else.

Has anyone ever lived in a house where your kids’ bedrooms were on a different floor than your own/the master bedroom?

Kids are 5 and 2 and have only been considering houses with at least 3 of the bedrooms (including the master) on the same floor. We love this one house but the trade off is the bedroom layout.

Anyone BTDT?