Minimum respite care at Grand Oaks is a month and other places are likely similar.

I think your only option is to find someone qualified to stay with her in your house. Using a home nursing service for 2-3 days is going to be more than $1000.

What would be perfect would be a trusted live in aid of someone you know, or a friend knows, whose client has just passed so they are entirely available while they look for another full-time job.

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I can spend $1,000 for 2-3 days.

Wasn't the title for 3-4 days of eldercare? Regardless, I don't think that this is an option for that amount, either at facility or as in-home care.

Could you do something like a hotel room or air B&B right near the college dorm, and then people can switch out to stay with your mother for safety? Then everyone can participate, just not all at the same time.

In Virginia we were quoted $32-$37 an hour for home care. And be aware that for short stints they pull together whoever they have available. So there’s no real way to vet the home care people unless it becomes more of a regular thing. I don’t have any data on respite care.

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Anonymous wrote:Brooke Grove in Sandy Spring

Avoid them like plague. We had lots of issues with them and many unexplained bruises, staff not attentive, and many other things.

Yikes. I’ve never been - I just know they offer respite.

OP here. I can spend $1,000 for 2-3 days.

Anonymous wrote:Brooke Grove in Sandy Spring

Avoid them like plague. We had lots of issues with them and many unexplained bruises, staff not attentive, and many other things.

How much do you have budgeted for this, OP?

I know the Sunrise in our area offers this, but I don't recall what the minimum required stay is. I would recommend a facility if she is at all social and even if she isn't, it's better for her well being. People are social beings. It's nice to be around peers rather than just hired caregivers. Better for the brain to have to use social skills and be on best behavior too. Yes, there is the risk of the infection, but it's worth it IMO.

Anonymous wrote:I'm not sure that a facility is the right answer, but 24/7 home care might be. How much can you spend, OP?

This. Facilities pose an increased risk of “hospital acquired” infections and sudden deterioration as compared to a familiar environment.

Powhatan Nursing Home in McLean has come very well recommended by several people. It feels a little old, but the care is what was recommended.

My parents both have dementia. I think you’d be better off getting 24-7 home care for a few days. Having her change locations could be traumatic plus those places can be pretty neglectful. Of course, so can home caregivers.

The Sunrise facilities offer respite care but the process of getting a facility set up with the correct medications, schedule, etc. doesn't seem worth it for 3-4 days. At one of their facilities, it took a month or two to get the wrinkles ironed out with my parent and I think that is pretty par for the course, so I second at-home care with a thoughtful person as a more practical alternative.

Brooke Grove in Sandy Spring

I'm not sure that a facility is the right answer, but 24/7 home care might be. How much can you spend, OP?

My oldesf kid will be moving into her first college dorm in August. My hisband, our younger child and I would like to be there for her. We care for my mom at our house. I am an only child, no relatives in the area (immigrant family). Do you know of facilties that take care of elderly for three to four days? My mom has dementia, but is very well behaved. She would only need meals to be prepared, remind her to take meds, help walking to and from bathroom, help with deciding clothing. No bathing duties. We live in NOVA.