Anonymous
Post 11/21/2022 10:15     Subject: Baby with no flu shot at this winter gathering
Op here. The thanksgiving dinner is hosted at grandparent house. It is grandparents telling us not to come if any of us have symptoms. They did not say exactly why, but they imply it is for the sake of 8 months old baby during the conversation. And, my brother has texted and checked on us how we are doing so far. Just a lot of pressures on me to act like a great aunt. We have voluntarily skipped family dinner at grandparent house a few times when the baby was younger. None of us has seen the baby yet except on video chat.
Anonymous
Post 11/21/2022 10:10     Subject: Baby with no flu shot at this winter gathering
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Honestly the flu shot is a red herring. The thing that's bothering you is that you can't take your kids to thanksgiving if they have any kind of cold symptoms which sucks because school ages kids have colds basically all the time but is also a pretty reasonable ask for a big optional indoor gathering like thanksgiving. Stop focusing on the flu shot or lack thereof.

- I and my babies are vaccinated for flu but I don't think telling people not to share their colds is unreasonable


I don't think OP is being too unreasonable. It's kind of unusual that the SIL is banning people from thankgiving out of fear of flu instead of staying home herself.

And if SIL is so fearful of flu, why didn't she get a flu shot for herself and baby? (to be fair, infant flu shots are a two shot deal and the baby has to be at least 6 months with a month between shot 1 and 2, so)


I don't think SIL is banning symptomatic kids for fear of the flu; I think she's banning them for fear of all the various diseases she and her kid don't want to get. The flu shot wouldn't make any difference to the plethora for colds, HFM, RSV, Covid, assorted other viruses going around so it's not really relevant to sick people at thanksgiving dinner ban. Also, maybe OP will correct me if I'm wrong, but I read the post as implying SIL is hosting the thanksgiving dinner, so she's just putting (imo no unreasonable) conditions on her guests. Would OP prefer to have not been invited at all?


Rereading OP, I see grandparents are hosting, so yeah, not SIL's call. Grandparents set the conditions on the guests and if they say not kids with sniffles that's their right. If SIL is trying to pressure OP separately, OP should ignore and SIL can stay home if she doesn't like it. The flu shot disagreement is still largely irrelevant.
Anonymous
Post 11/21/2022 10:07     Subject: Baby with no flu shot at this winter gathering
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Honestly the flu shot is a red herring. The thing that's bothering you is that you can't take your kids to thanksgiving if they have any kind of cold symptoms which sucks because school ages kids have colds basically all the time but is also a pretty reasonable ask for a big optional indoor gathering like thanksgiving. Stop focusing on the flu shot or lack thereof.

- I and my babies are vaccinated for flu but I don't think telling people not to share their colds is unreasonable


I don't think OP is being too unreasonable. It's kind of unusual that the SIL is banning people from thankgiving out of fear of flu instead of staying home herself.

And if SIL is so fearful of flu, why didn't she get a flu shot for herself and baby? (to be fair, infant flu shots are a two shot deal and the baby has to be at least 6 months with a month between shot 1 and 2, so)


I don't think SIL is banning symptomatic kids for fear of the flu; I think she's banning them for fear of all the various diseases she and her kid don't want to get. The flu shot wouldn't make any difference to the plethora for colds, HFM, RSV, Covid, assorted other viruses going around so it's not really relevant to sick people at thanksgiving dinner ban. Also, maybe OP will correct me if I'm wrong, but I read the post as implying SIL is hosting the thanksgiving dinner, so she's just putting (imo no unreasonable) conditions on her guests. Would OP prefer to have not been invited at all?
Anonymous
Post 11/21/2022 10:05     Subject: Baby with no flu shot at this winter gathering
Anonymous wrote:We are all going to grandparent house for thanksgiving. We are fully vaccinated for Covid and flu shot as a family of 5. I don’t understand why my baby nephew is not vaccinated for flu shot this winter ( full of rsv, flu etc) and the mom (SIL) did not get flu shot while pregnant. I am told that if any of my kids ( school aged kids) have any sniffles or signs of illness, please do not come to the thanksgiving dinner. Well, my kids have not seen any of them for long long time. I am praying that none of them shows any symptoms on the day of thanksgiving. I have told them that they should get baby flu shot at least but they say they don’t need to because SIL is SAHM taking care if baby full time and they don’t just flu shot.

Good luck to us!

Who is telling you to stay home if your kids have the sniffles? Your parents/inlaws or the SIL? If it’s the parents, well their house, their rules. If it’s the SIL and your parents/inlaws are ok with normal childhood winter colds, then ignore the SIL. She can stay home if she doesn’t want to use normal precautions.

Also, if this trip is so important, I would keep my kids home on Monday/Tuesday. There is no learning going on this week.
Anonymous
Post 11/21/2022 10:05     Subject: Baby with no flu shot at this winter gathering
Op here. My 3 kids have symptoms all the time, and that does not mean they are sick every single time. 2 kids have diagnosed environmental allergy, so their cold like symptoms do not necessarily mean anything to us as parents. They still go to school if they are active and symptoms are mild. It is case by case and our judgement call. I sent them to school if no fever and mild symptoms.
Anonymous
Post 11/21/2022 09:54     Subject: Baby with no flu shot at this winter gathering
Anonymous wrote:Honestly the flu shot is a red herring. The thing that's bothering you is that you can't take your kids to thanksgiving if they have any kind of cold symptoms which sucks because school ages kids have colds basically all the time but is also a pretty reasonable ask for a big optional indoor gathering like thanksgiving. Stop focusing on the flu shot or lack thereof.

- I and my babies are vaccinated for flu but I don't think telling people not to share their colds is unreasonable


I don't think OP is being too unreasonable. It's kind of unusual that the SIL is banning people from thankgiving out of fear of flu instead of staying home herself.

And if SIL is so fearful of flu, why didn't she get a flu shot for herself and baby? (to be fair, infant flu shots are a two shot deal and the baby has to be at least 6 months with a month between shot 1 and 2, so)
Anonymous
Post 11/21/2022 09:54     Subject: Baby with no flu shot at this winter gathering
There are reasons flu shot is only recommended and not required by the CDC.

If you don't like it, don't go. There are plenty of school age kids not taking flu shots in your children's schools.
Anonymous
Post 11/21/2022 09:52     Subject: Baby with no flu shot at this winter gathering
Regardless of who is or is not vaccinated, it is incumbent on you not to go anywhere if you or your kids have symptoms of anything. Period.
Anonymous
Post 11/21/2022 09:50     Subject: Re:Baby with no flu shot at this winter gathering
Guys this is a troll. Come on.
Anonymous
Post 11/21/2022 09:50     Subject: Baby with no flu shot at this winter gathering
Honestly the flu shot is a red herring. The thing that's bothering you is that you can't take your kids to thanksgiving if they have any kind of cold symptoms which sucks because school ages kids have colds basically all the time but is also a pretty reasonable ask for a big optional indoor gathering like thanksgiving. Stop focusing on the flu shot or lack thereof.

- I and my babies are vaccinated for flu but I don't think telling people not to share their colds is unreasonable
Anonymous
Post 11/21/2022 09:49     Subject: Baby with no flu shot at this winter gathering
Anonymous wrote:You Do You. They Do Them.

This whole "I'm vaccinated and they aren't and now we'll all die" vs. "I'm not getting vaccinated against anything and that's my right" constant bickering is one example of why this country basically sucks now.

Why TF can't people just move on with decisions and accept others, including their family members?

Good luck to the people in this world who don't like sanctimonious pricks!


Because while decisions are made independently, human lives are all intertwined.
Anonymous
Post 11/21/2022 09:49     Subject: Re:Baby with no flu shot at this winter gathering
How old is the baby? Are they too young to be vaccinated against flu?
Anonymous
Post 11/21/2022 09:46     Subject: Baby with no flu shot at this winter gathering
Not my family, not my bill to die on. I would give zero effs if we can’t go because of decisions someone else in their family made. And to be fair, if your kids are sick this holiday season, don’t bring them to a gathering.
Anonymous
Post 11/21/2022 09:43     Subject: Baby with no flu shot at this winter gathering
You Do You. They Do Them.

This whole "I'm vaccinated and they aren't and now we'll all die" vs. "I'm not getting vaccinated against anything and that's my right" constant bickering is one example of why this country basically sucks now.

Why TF can't people just move on with decisions and accept others, including their family members?

Good luck to the people in this world who don't like sanctimonious pricks!
Anonymous
Post 11/21/2022 09:39     Subject: Baby with no flu shot at this winter gathering
We are all going to grandparent house for thanksgiving. We are fully vaccinated for Covid and flu shot as a family of 5. I don’t understand why my baby nephew is not vaccinated for flu shot this winter ( full of rsv, flu etc) and the mom (SIL) did not get flu shot while pregnant. I am told that if any of my kids ( school aged kids) have any sniffles or signs of illness, please do not come to the thanksgiving dinner. Well, my kids have not seen any of them for long long time. I am praying that none of them shows any symptoms on the day of thanksgiving. I have told them that they should get baby flu shot at least but they say they don’t need to because SIL is SAHM taking care if baby full time and they don’t just flu shot.

Good luck to us!