Personally my sister and I would just share a bed so the family could take the other room but I do understand as an adult that gets less comfortable. But I can’t believe they would make their mom sleep on the couch as an alternative instead of them sharing a bed (since it’s important to your aunt). That would never ever be something my sister and I would consider

Anonymous wrote:I agree. Your family stays at a hotel and spends lots of time with aunt and cousins.

This. Make the reservation and present it as a done deal. Your aunt is doing her best to be a gracious host, but she shouldn't be out of her own bedroom. The hotel can also provide a crib for your baby, unless you're bringing a Pack 'n Play or something.

Ridiculous to expect grown women to share a bed. Get a hotel or have your kids sleep on floor or air mattresses.

Anonymous wrote:You take the one room and bring air mattresses for the kids. You can share one room. I would not share with my sibling. She’s difficult.

There is no sibling. There are two other cousins going to their mom’s house.

You take the one room and bring air mattresses for the kids. You can share one room. I would not share with my sibling. She’s difficult.

It's her house so she decides who sleeps where, but personally I'd go for the hotel. It's just too many people and if the girls aren't willing to share, they might not get along that great.

The two sisters sound like they are far apart in age and may not be close. Plus, one may snore loudly.

Four people in one room? No thanks. I’d also be getting a hotel room or two.

I'd do the hotel and explain it with kid-related sleep excuses.

OPs cousins are not living with her aunt full time. They are also coming in to stay in a spare at their mom’s home

Stay in the hotel. I can only imagine the dynamic among two grown women living with their mother. I wouldn’t want to be a witness to that all day and evening without my own place to stay.

I would not be comfortable sharing a queen with anyone. DH and I sleep on a king and it is just enough room for us not to disturb each other during the night.

I agree. Your family stays at a hotel and spends lots of time with aunt and cousins.

You will not like my take, which is aunt has offered you to stay and told you the room it would be. Accept it or get hotel. It’s not for you to tell the one offering that they are offering wrong. When kids little, may have them bunk differently when visitors come, but not when older.

My family and I are headed out west for a Thanksgiving hosted at my aunt’s home.


She has two adult daughters and two spare rooms. She also invited my husband and I and two kids to stay with her. We were happy to stay and looked forward to it. However, she told us about a week ago she would give us the master room
Because her daughters won’t share a bed. My aunt said she will sleep on living room couch. Of course we will now plan to get a hotel. She is upset that we want a hotel now.

Everyone is saying her daughters should share one of the queen beds, so my family can take the other spare room. While I am not going to weigh in, I can personally see my sister and I doing that if our cousin’s family was coming to stay with our parents.

My two kids are little, one being a baby. My cousins are both single and one late 20s and other 30s.

My husband and I are adamant my aunt will not sleep on a couch at her own home.


Thoughts on this situation?