Anonymous
11/13/2022 14:29
Subject: Holiday reminder to respect a family's no gift policy
Anonymous wrote:If you value people who treat you well, start treating people well. A simple: “we are so happy that you want to send us gifts at the holidays. We have found that we appreciate charitable donations so much more. Please make a donation to a group you support and let us know a little more about them. This is very kind and thoughtful of you.”
Lol. “Let me be controlling. It’s so kind and thoughtful of you!”
Anonymous
11/13/2022 14:22
Subject: Holiday reminder to respect a family's no gift policy
Anonymous wrote:This is a spin off from the de-cluttering thread. I value people who treat me well and have been there for me and they are the gifts. They are also the people who truly respect a 'no gift" policy. The gift is spending time with hem laughing, enjoying a good meal and creating positive memories.
Then there are the relatives who aren't particularly nice people who insist, despite requests, on giving us stuff. It's usually stuff you cannot easily donate at those bins and it is work to find someone on freecycle who wants it or a donation place that wants it. Then there is the added horror of knowing it was likely made by exploited children or poor adults in China, some of whom may be beaten into submission. I refuse to add to the environment problem by throwing it out. They throw a fit and try to create drama when you decline the gift and say, "thanks, but we don't accept gifts." When it is sent by mail it adds a whole other layer with all the waste that comes with shipping it.
Please, for the sake of all of us who care about the environment and who care about exploited workers in other countries and who don't want endless clutter, if we say "no gifts" please just respect that. You can be a gift by being kind, understanding and loving. If you have family who love gift exchanges have at it. Just please from now on if somebody says "no gifts" respect it.
Do you eat seafood? A lot of seafood is harvested and processed by slavery. Just FYI.
Anonymous
11/13/2022 14:11
Subject: Holiday reminder to respect a family's no gift policy
If you value people who treat you well, start treating people well. A simple: “we are so happy that you want to send us gifts at the holidays. We have found that we appreciate charitable donations so much more. Please make a donation to a group you support and let us know a little more about them. This is very kind and thoughtful of you.”
Anonymous
11/13/2022 14:08
Subject: Holiday reminder to respect a family's no gift policy
Gift giving is part of Christmas and "the holidays" more generally. You don't get to rewrite out traditions to suit yourself.
Anonymous
11/13/2022 14:06
Subject: Re:Holiday reminder to respect a family's no gift policy
Team OP in principle. We donate / throw out so many unwanted gifts from people who use gift giving as an excuse for their shopping addiction.
That said, OP it is rude to refuse a gift. Your better strategy is to request practical things, consumables, or things that can be readily donated. Convince everyone you're a collector of wine or scarves, for example, and then give them away.
That said, OP it is rude to refuse a gift. Your better strategy is to request practical things, consumables, or things that can be readily donated. Convince everyone you're a collector of wine or scarves, for example, and then give them away.
Anonymous
11/13/2022 14:05
Subject: Re:Holiday reminder to respect a family's no gift policy
People are exploited so that smart phones can be made. Do you have one? Do you eat cashews? Horrific exploitation is how we can go to any grocery store and buy cashews.
Anonymous
11/13/2022 14:04
Subject: Holiday reminder to respect a family's no gift policy
Anonymous wrote:This is a spin off from the de-cluttering thread. I value people who treat me well and have been there for me and they are the gifts. They are also the people who truly respect a 'no gift" policy. The gift is spending time with hem laughing, enjoying a good meal and creating positive memories.
Then there are the relatives who aren't particularly nice people who insist, despite requests, on giving us stuff. It's usually stuff you cannot easily donate at those bins and it is work to find someone on freecycle who wants it or a donation place that wants it. Then there is the added horror of knowing it was likely made by exploited children or poor adults in China, some of whom may be beaten into submission. I refuse to add to the environment problem by throwing it out. They throw a fit and try to create drama when you decline the gift and say, "thanks, but we don't accept gifts." When it is sent by mail it adds a whole other layer with all the waste that comes with shipping it.
Please, for the sake of all of us who care about the environment and who care about exploited workers in other countries and who don't want endless clutter, if we say "no gifts" please just respect that. You can be a gift by being kind, understanding and loving. If you have family who love gift exchanges have at it. Just please from now on if somebody says "no gifts" respect it.
What kind of gifts are you receiving that are not accepted by a donation place like Goodwill or your local hospital thrift store? Can you give an example?
I donate to Goodwill pretty regularly and they have never rejected anything I have donated.
Anonymous
11/13/2022 14:03
Subject: Holiday reminder to respect a family's no gift policy
You have declined a gift to the giver’s face? Wow.
Just request tickets to things or handmade items or meals out together. Then if they ignore your requests, say thank you and drop it at goodwill.
Just request tickets to things or handmade items or meals out together. Then if they ignore your requests, say thank you and drop it at goodwill.
Anonymous
11/13/2022 14:02
Subject: Re:Holiday reminder to respect a family's no gift policy
I much prefer no gifts and will always ask for that to be the policy but seriously OP you need to get a grip.
Anonymous
11/13/2022 14:01
Subject: Holiday reminder to respect a family's no gift policy
Gift giving is for the giver, not the receiver. Accept the gift graciously and donate it the following week if you must.
Anonymous
11/13/2022 14:00
Subject: Holiday reminder to respect a family's no gift policy
Unclench. Limit your own shopping and stop telling people what to do.
Anonymous
11/13/2022 13:53
Subject: Holiday reminder to respect a family's no gift policy
Anonymous wrote:No.
Agree. No.
Anonymous
11/13/2022 13:51
Subject: Holiday reminder to respect a family's no gift policy
No.
Anonymous
11/13/2022 13:44
Subject: Holiday reminder to respect a family's no gift policy
Are you buying gifts? Your policy is rude. Let them buy gifts and you buy nothing.
Anonymous
11/13/2022 13:41
Subject: Holiday reminder to respect a family's no gift policy
This is a spin off from the de-cluttering thread. I value people who treat me well and have been there for me and they are the gifts. They are also the people who truly respect a 'no gift" policy. The gift is spending time with hem laughing, enjoying a good meal and creating positive memories.
Then there are the relatives who aren't particularly nice people who insist, despite requests, on giving us stuff. It's usually stuff you cannot easily donate at those bins and it is work to find someone on freecycle who wants it or a donation place that wants it. Then there is the added horror of knowing it was likely made by exploited children or poor adults in China, some of whom may be beaten into submission. I refuse to add to the environment problem by throwing it out. They throw a fit and try to create drama when you decline the gift and say, "thanks, but we don't accept gifts." When it is sent by mail it adds a whole other layer with all the waste that comes with shipping it.
Please, for the sake of all of us who care about the environment and who care about exploited workers in other countries and who don't want endless clutter, if we say "no gifts" please just respect that. You can be a gift by being kind, understanding and loving. If you have family who love gift exchanges have at it. Just please from now on if somebody says "no gifts" respect it.
Then there are the relatives who aren't particularly nice people who insist, despite requests, on giving us stuff. It's usually stuff you cannot easily donate at those bins and it is work to find someone on freecycle who wants it or a donation place that wants it. Then there is the added horror of knowing it was likely made by exploited children or poor adults in China, some of whom may be beaten into submission. I refuse to add to the environment problem by throwing it out. They throw a fit and try to create drama when you decline the gift and say, "thanks, but we don't accept gifts." When it is sent by mail it adds a whole other layer with all the waste that comes with shipping it.
Please, for the sake of all of us who care about the environment and who care about exploited workers in other countries and who don't want endless clutter, if we say "no gifts" please just respect that. You can be a gift by being kind, understanding and loving. If you have family who love gift exchanges have at it. Just please from now on if somebody says "no gifts" respect it.