Anonymous wrote:The answer to this depends a lot on where you are in terms of resistance training experience. If you are new to lifting, starting a barbell resistance training program focused on compound lifts (bench press, squats, deadlifts, overhead press) will likely get you pretty far toward what you’re looking for. There is a lot of misinformation around women lifting (e.g. that they will look like body builders if they lift big weights, that lifting tiny dumbells is anything other than a total waste of time). The reality is that you can’t “accidentally” look like a body builder. This thread has a lot of pictures of regular women that clearly illustrates that point (note it’s super long so worth paging through the first several pages).
https://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/977538/halp-heavy-lifting-made-me-supah-bulky
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Good rule of thumb....If you want to put on muscle but not get bulky, then train like you want to get a bulky. Most women won't even come close to actually training hard enough to actually get there.
Also, as others have mentioned, diet. To look "toned" you need to have a lot enough body fat percentage to see the muscle.