No one is criticizing the thought or choice of gesture...
the problem is singling out certain people by name. You just don't do that. If you want to do something special for those people, do it privately.

I really hope you can understand this, OP. I'm a foreigner too, but this is basic manners.

If you want to thank specific teachers, write a nice note to them.

If you want to do something nice for all the teachers, talk to the PTO.

Anonymous wrote:OP- make sure your school's PTO isn't already planning something for that day. And donuts or donut holes are fine, it doesn't matter.

This. Our PTO has a hospitality committee that handles snacks for the teacher's lounge and staff luncheons. Maybe coordinate with them? I think this is a nice gesture, but if you want to receive personal recognition for doing it you should send a personal gift to each person.

OP- make sure your school's PTO isn't already planning something for that day. And donuts or donut holes are fine, it doesn't matter.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, people are overreacting. If it's a gift for everyone, you could do it anonymously or just say "Thanks to everyone for their hard word. The X Family" Or you can just send leave gifts for a few specific teachers.

Yes, very much overreacting. It’s a kind and thoughtful act coming from a good heart. Ignore the mean comments and do what you want. Most people will be appreciative of the free food, and some will be touched by the kindness of your compliments to the teachers that you named. Very few will be as nasty as the witches you encounter so frequently on this forum.

I am feeling a little self conscious to do it now! And questioning the food choice. Are donut holes better than full donuts for quick snacks between classes? I didn’t want to do bagels because of the cream cheese needing refrigeration.

Anonymous wrote:OP, people are overreacting. If it's a gift for everyone, you could do it anonymously or just say "Thanks to everyone for their hard word. The X Family" Or you can just send leave gifts for a few specific teachers.

Yes, very much overreacting. It’s a kind and thoughtful act coming from a good heart. Ignore the mean comments and do what you want. Most people will be appreciative of the free food, and some will be touched by the kindness of your compliments to the teachers that you named. Very few will be as nasty as the witches you encounter so frequently on this forum.

Anonymous wrote:OP, people are overreacting. If it's a gift for everyone, you could do it anonymously or just say "Thanks to everyone for their hard word. The X Family" Or you can just send leave gifts for a few specific teachers.

*hard work.

OP, people are overreacting. If it's a gift for everyone, you could do it anonymously or just say "Thanks to everyone for their hard word. The X Family" Or you can just send leave gifts for a few specific teachers.

Anonymous wrote:The card you propose would be disgusting of you. The rest would be nice. I'd do bagels, butter and cream cheese with coffee, but to each their own nutrition.

A faux pas of the gravest kind and “disgusting,” really?? Now I’m embarrassed. I’m a child of immigrants and our town didn’t do teacher gifts, so I don’t understand this.

The card you propose would be disgusting of you. The rest would be nice. I'd do bagels, butter and cream cheese with coffee, but to each their own nutrition.

Anonymous wrote:There are 60 teachers and staff. How many donuts to send?

90 donuts

Anonymous wrote:Social faux-pas of the gravest sort, OP.
Communal gifts should never single out anyone in particular.

You are free to thank individual staff members with a small gift card, email, etc. When my son graduated from middle school, I CC-ed the Principal on the thank you emails I sent to individual teachers who had gone above and beyond to cater to his special needs.

So just reach out to school secretary and leave the boxes anonymously? Hmm can I say they are from a thankful kindergarten parent without mentioning names? I plan to do a gift to individual teacher around the holidays or chip in for a class gift. This would be a morning pick me up kind of thing. I used to be a teacher in a different school and it meant a lot when appreciation gifts like this came in. It’s very different from the administration treating us to donuts.

Social faux-pas of the gravest sort, OP.
Communal gifts should never single out anyone in particular.

You are free to thank individual staff members with a small gift card, email, etc. When my son graduated from middle school, I CC-ed the Principal on the thank you emails I sent to individual teachers who had gone above and beyond to cater to his special needs.

There are 60 teachers and staff. How many donuts to send?

I’m thinking of sending donuts and coffee or maybe a big basket of individual snack bags at my son’s school. Would it be too showy to include a card that says thank you to everyone for all you do but especially to Larlo’s teachers Mrs. X, helper Ms. Y and a couple of their people (Librarian and PE teacher)? Or do I need to send this stuff in anonymously? I do really like that his teachers have helped him feel so comfortable at school because we are new and I want to recognize them.