Anonymous
10/21/2022 07:24
Subject: 6 weeks pregnant
Only tell those you’d be comfortable sharing a loss with. For me, I told my best friend immediately. Didn’t tell parents until 16 weeks. Told everyone else after 20-wk anatomy scan.
Anonymous
10/21/2022 07:18
Subject: 6 weeks pregnant
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I would only tell the people you would lean on for support if something were to go wrong.
+1.
Congrats OP!
Mom with history of miscarriages here.
With my DD (successful pregnancy) I told my best friend, mom and sister as soon as I tested positive. I told other close family (in-laws, etc. not random cousins) after the 7 or 8-week dating ultrasound, where they found a heartbeat. It was not guaranteed at that point but my other miscarriages were earlier than that so I felt a bit safer. I told the rest of the world at 14 weeks (after the NIPT screening came back negative).
With my other pregnancies I regretted telling before at least seeing a heartbeat -- even family members.
It's a very personal choice.
You can see a heartbeat, multiple times before you don't. NIPT was clear too.
Anonymous
10/21/2022 06:38
Subject: 6 weeks pregnant
Anonymous wrote:I would only tell the people you would lean on for support if something were to go wrong.
+1.
Congrats OP!
Mom with history of miscarriages here.
With my DD (successful pregnancy) I told my best friend, mom and sister as soon as I tested positive. I told other close family (in-laws, etc. not random cousins) after the 7 or 8-week dating ultrasound, where they found a heartbeat. It was not guaranteed at that point but my other miscarriages were earlier than that so I felt a bit safer. I told the rest of the world at 14 weeks (after the NIPT screening came back negative).
With my other pregnancies I regretted telling before at least seeing a heartbeat -- even family members.
It's a very personal choice.
Anonymous
10/20/2022 23:46
Subject: Re:6 weeks pregnant
After having a 14 week loss and was going to announce it, I have no interest in telling anyone pretty much ever if I ever stop losing pregnancies (on loss #4)
Anonymous
10/20/2022 21:23
Subject: 6 weeks pregnant
I had multiple miscarriages in a row. Support turns to pity quickly. I tell my closest supports immediately, but we wouldn’t tell anyone else until much later.
Anonymous
10/20/2022 20:51
Subject: 6 weeks pregnant
I would wait. But you do you.
Anonymous
10/20/2022 20:50
Subject: 6 weeks pregnant
Anonymous wrote:I would only tell the people you would lean on for support if something were to go wrong.
Correct. I was eager to tell people for my first two (successful) pregnancies before I turned 30, but I kept my last one quiet at 40, because the risk of miscarriage was much higher. And indeed I miscarried. Only friends close to me knew. Never told my mother, she'd have freaked out.
Anonymous
10/20/2022 20:41
Subject: 6 weeks pregnant
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:when do we tell people? its 6 weeks too early?
OP congrats! So exciting I am 6 weeks as well. I am being very cautious I had a very late-term loss (unexpected) so now I am keeping it, mum, until the baby shows. So far my sister's mom, MIL, hubby, and three close female colleagues know (they are like mom figures to me and supported me during my loss)
I wish you a smooth pregnancy.
Sending you peace and courage PP. when I was in your spot, for the same reason, I kept it a secret until 20 weeks and then only shared as I saw people. Lost only found out when I announced baby had arrived safely, healthy, and alive. It really helped to attend a pregnancy after loss support group.
Anonymous
10/20/2022 19:38
Subject: 6 weeks pregnant
I'm more private, so I have told people in tranches. Best friend knew almost as soon as we did. Other close friends at about 8 weeks plus my mom. 10-12 weeks for other friends and family. Colleagues found out when I could no longer hide it (14 weeks).
Anonymous
10/20/2022 16:44
Subject: Re:6 weeks pregnant
I don’t understand the need to keep it a secret , if you don’t want to.
If I suffer a miscarriage I need people to know and support me, no way I could handle that in secret
I told my mom and sister and close friends early on, they are the people I would lean on for support.
If I suffer a miscarriage I need people to know and support me, no way I could handle that in secret
I told my mom and sister and close friends early on, they are the people I would lean on for support.
Anonymous
10/20/2022 16:37
Subject: 6 weeks pregnant
Anonymous wrote:when do we tell people? its 6 weeks too early?
OP congrats! So exciting I am 6 weeks as well. I am being very cautious I had a very late-term loss (unexpected) so now I am keeping it, mum, until the baby shows. So far my sister's mom, MIL, hubby, and three close female colleagues know (they are like mom figures to me and supported me during my loss)
I wish you a smooth pregnancy.
Anonymous
10/20/2022 15:03
Subject: 6 weeks pregnant
Congrats! There are different schools of thought on this. I would wait until later because I'm superstitious and don't want people in my business, but I understand people who want to have a big group of people to lean on if it goes south or destigmatize miscarriage.
Anonymous
10/20/2022 15:02
Subject: 6 weeks pregnant
I would only tell the people you would lean on for support if something were to go wrong.
Anonymous
10/19/2022 22:39
Subject: 6 weeks pregnant
Congrats! I started telling people close to me as soon as I got my positive. Was just aware of the chances of a loss at that point. Why a lot of people wait till after the first trimester
Anonymous
10/19/2022 22:36
Subject: 6 weeks pregnant
when do we tell people? its 6 weeks too early?