Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:My parents pay $9,000 a month in Arlington. Va and the facility isn't that great. You're only paying 2 grand a month. Be thankful.
Be thankful for $2000/month? She should be paying 0 per month. There are perfectly decent places that take Medicaid. The application process is labor intensive and adult children can help the parent by assisting in the application. Visit the parent often and take them to medical appointments. These are the things I do to support my parent, but I’m not coughing up a cent of my own family’s money when the government can pay.
Anonymous wrote:My parents pay $9,000 a month in Arlington. Va and the facility isn't that great. You're only paying 2 grand a month. Be thankful.
Anonymous wrote:If she has run out of her own money, your DH should transfer her to a Medicaid nursing home and have Medicaid pay for it. The one my parent is in is decent and staff deliver meds, 3 meals, a snack, bathe, laundry, and social activities. The facility is a little dated (think Hilton Garden Inn) but the service and care is pretty good. I would not contribute a dime to care because I have my own kids and retirement to worry about.
Anonymous wrote:Even the nice places aren't that nice, and it's likely they are short staffed and not taking good care of her. It's frustrating considering how much you are paying, but I would let go of the idea that it's "luxury." It's probably just expensive.