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Anonymous wrote:My child accurately described someone as Asian and her friends told her that was racist. She said that her best friend had brown skin. Ditto.

Now even at home w me she hesitates to use any descriptive term for skin color or race.

I once said this Indian lady was smelly and my kids said I was not allowed to say that and that was racist. I didn’t say all Indians were smelly.

I can see my kids are hesitant to describe anyone by the color of their skin. If they are talking about Johnny. They may describe him as the boy with brown hair when he they can say he is black.

I don’t think mentioning someone’s skin or ethnicity makes you sound racist.

That’s because you hesitant clown

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Anonymous wrote:Of course. What a crazy question. Are you white?

Of course. Do you not realize white people are universally not allowed to comment on any characteristics like this? We say something about someone’s hair: your racist. We say something about skin color when it isn’t favorable: racist. Sure, this is old thinking, but many of us that are parents now grew up being taught that acknowledging race exists is racist. We are trying to do better so I understand where OP comes from. Many of we’re literally taught that not being “colorblind “ means you are racist.

Forgive all the grammar mistakes, autocorrect. I swear I’m not stupid. 😂

Lol OP here. This is why I ask. When we were growing up we were just sort of taught to be accepting and not point things out. Now I’m a parent and my child is pointing things out left and right and I’m worried she might say something offensive when describing someone’s skin tone. We are not allowed to make any type of remarks in fear of being thought of as racist. So that is my perspective.

I wonder why she is pointing all these things out? Apple doesn’t fall far from the tree ?

Yes, it’s become ridiculous. I feel you cannot even describe a person based on his/her skin color. I mean if I’m trying to describe appearance of a black person without mentioning black, how does anyone suppose to know who I’m talking about? I feel it’s a key information to distinguish between people. Same as hair color or gender. People of color are free to refer to white and other colors as they please. it seems this cultural correctness is only for white people.

Anonymous wrote:My child accurately described someone as Asian and her friends told her that was racist. She said that her best friend had brown skin. Ditto.

Now even at home w me she hesitates to use any descriptive term for skin color or race.

I once said this Indian lady was smelly and my kids said I was not allowed to say that and that was racist. I didn’t say all Indians were smelly.

I can see my kids are hesitant to describe anyone by the color of their skin. If they are talking about Johnny. They may describe him as the boy with brown hair when he they can say he is black.

I don’t think mentioning someone’s skin or ethnicity makes you sound racist.

My child accurately described someone as Asian and her friends told her that was racist. She said that her best friend had brown skin. Ditto.

Now even at home w me she hesitates to use any descriptive term for skin color or race.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Of course. What a crazy question. Are you white?

Of course. Do you not realize white people are universally not allowed to comment on any characteristics like this? We say something about someone’s hair: your racist. We say something about skin color when it isn’t favorable: racist. Sure, this is old thinking, but many of us that are parents now grew up being taught that acknowledging race exists is racist. We are trying to do better so I understand where OP comes from. Many of we’re literally taught that not being “colorblind “ means you are racist.

Forgive all the grammar mistakes, autocorrect. I swear I’m not stupid. 😂

Lol OP here. This is why I ask. When we were growing up we were just sort of taught to be accepting and not point things out. Now I’m a parent and my child is pointing things out left and right and I’m worried she might say something offensive when describing someone’s skin tone. We are not allowed to make any type of remarks in fear of being thought of as racist. So that is my perspective.

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Anonymous wrote:Of course. What a crazy question. Are you white?

Of course. Do you not realize white people are universally not allowed to comment on any characteristics like this? We say something about someone’s hair: your racist. We say something about skin color when it isn’t favorable: racist. Sure, this is old thinking, but many of us that are parents now grew up being taught that acknowledging race exists is racist. We are trying to do better so I understand where OP comes from. Many of we’re literally taught that not being “colorblind “ means you are racist.

Forgive all the grammar mistakes, autocorrect. I swear I’m not stupid. 😂

Anonymous wrote:Of course. What a crazy question. Are you white?

Of course. Do you not realize white people are universally not allowed to comment on any characteristics like this? We say something about someone’s hair: your racist. We say something about skin color when it isn’t favorable: racist. Sure, this is old thinking, but many of us that are parents now grew up being taught that acknowledging race exists is racist. We are trying to do better so I understand where OP comes from. Many of we’re literally taught that not being “colorblind “ means you are racist.

Huh? Such an odd question. We are African American. One son is light brown and the other is dark brown. They know this and would describe themselves as such. Others will as well too. If you mean your white child is over there saying all dark skinned people are bad, then that is not ok but you should know this.

Anonymous wrote:Of course. What a crazy question. Are you white?

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Of course. What a crazy question. Are you white?

Stop forcing your political correctness on this little child.

Yes, it is normal. My child will describe people as having dark skin or light skin. If she starts making unfavorable comparisons regarding skin color (saying one color is better or prettier than another), or if she tried to infer other characteristics from skin color (people with light skin are like this), I intervene and talk through why those conclusions are wrong and also hurtful.

But if my kid comes home and says “My new teacher has light skin and I made two new friends who have dark skin,” I say nothing. It’s just descriptive and right now she’s interested in skin color. She also tells me everyone’s gender.

Sure, why not? There is nothing wrong with describing someone’s skin as dark, light, brown, black, pink, peach, etc.

Is it ok for a child to describe skin tones as they learn about different people? Do I teach her not to say it out loud? Just wondering. I understand as an adult, it's much more complex but as a child.