Why is it ok for people to say “you should stop losing weight” and not ok to say “you should really lose some weight”?

I don’t get it. I am on the thinner side 5’4” 120-125 lbs and I have an overweight friend who when I lose 5 lbs says that I am skin and bones. Why is that ok, but not ok for me to say she is fat (which she obviously is)?

So you want to go from a BMI of 22.7 (totally normal weight) to a BMI of 19.2, knowing that you'd be just 5 lbs away from being technically underweight. And you don't want others to give you a hard time.

Yeah, you might want to get some help for your body image problems.

Anonymous wrote:A small lunch and large dinner is likely starvation from a caloric intake perspective. People are making comments bc you look like you’re starving, which you probably are. What’re you doing now that you’re up 20 lbs?

I’m nursing, but now down to only once or twice a day. I don’t usually lose the last 10 pounds until I wean. So I’ve just returned to two meals a day. I don’t think it’s starvation, as I eat full-fat cheese and protein and bread.

Stop talking about it.

Maybe person by person let's teach people not ro comment on other people's bodies, I hate this too op. Like if I want your opinion, I'll ask. Anyone besides very very close relationships (spouse, best friend) who comments on how I look needs to find better means of conversation.

A small lunch and large dinner is likely starvation from a caloric intake perspective. People are making comments bc you look like you’re starving, which you probably are. What’re you doing now that you’re up 20 lbs?

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Anonymous wrote:If they're saying "you don't need to lose anymore" then that means YOU are bringing attention to the issue by commenting on food or diets or working out. So stop.

I don’t work out and I get to 112 lbs eating regular food. I think people just notice weight loss more on regular-weight women.

This makes no sense. How are you carrying 20 extra lbs if you lose weight by just existing, not moving, and eating normally? If that were really the case, you wouldn’t have 20 lbs to lose. You’re definitely restricting and talking about it.

I eat two meals a day, a small lunch and a large dinner. I eat regular food, just not snacks. That gets me to the low 110s and stay around there.

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Anonymous wrote:If they're saying "you don't need to lose anymore" then that means YOU are bringing attention to the issue by commenting on food or diets or working out. So stop.

I don’t work out and I get to 112 lbs eating regular food. I think people just notice weight loss more on regular-weight women.

This makes no sense. How are you carrying 20 extra lbs if you lose weight by just existing, not moving, and eating normally? If that were really the case, you wouldn’t have 20 lbs to lose. You’re definitely restricting and talking about it.

Anonymous wrote:If they're saying "you don't need to lose anymore" then that means YOU are bringing attention to the issue by commenting on food or diets or working out. So stop.

I don’t work out and I get to 112 lbs eating regular food. I think people just notice weight loss more on regular-weight women.

If they're saying "you don't need to lose anymore" then that means YOU are bringing attention to the issue by commenting on food or diets or working out. So stop.

They're making those comments because of how they feel about their own weight OP. Just ignore it. Learn how to change the subject. "I'm good, not worried about my weight. So how are things going on your end?"

Just do it slowly. 1 lb a week and the change is so gradual that no one really notices

How hard could that be, wear Baggy clothes, especially in winter

Oh quit being a drama queen. If you want to be borderline underweight go for it. Nobody cares.

I’m 5’4” and 132 lbs. I’m trying to drop 20 pounds to return to my pre-baby weight. I‘be done this twice already (three sweet pregnancies!), and every time people get weird about it: “you don’t need to lose anymore!” “You’re so tiny!” “Eat a little more!” I’m kind of over it and would like to avoid the entire focus on my body by well-meaning friends. What’s the best way to hide weight loss or redirect attention away from it?