Anonymous
Post 09/18/2022 18:50     Subject: Re:If your parent or grandparent is in the 90s
Yes the queens death has hit me hard and I know it has everything to do with my grandparents in their 90s who are of them same generation and have represented the head of our family for so long.
Anonymous
Post 09/17/2022 23:44     Subject: Re:If your parent or grandparent is in the 90s
My grandma is 93. She has her wits but not her health, so she's deeply bored living in her own home with her (miserable) husband. She can't go out without help and he doesn't like to accept help so they never leave the house. It's sad.
Anonymous
Post 09/17/2022 23:40     Subject: If your parent or grandparent is in the 90s
My grandma is 98. I will be lost without her but she has also said for the last few years that she is ready when God wants her. She is still in great shape, lives alone and maintains a two story house and dog. She’s amazing.
Anonymous
Post 09/17/2022 23:19     Subject: If your parent or grandparent is in the 90s
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I don't worry. 90 years is a long run. If you're 90, you're probably not really enjoying life, not physically comfortable, always worrying about things - from pissing your pants, to your teeth falling out in public, to dropping the newborn someone hands you, to waking up from a nap and not recognizing anyone around you, etc.

Plus, if you're 90+, the majority of your friends have died, your spouse has probably died or is about to, you're just trying to avoid breaking a hip. What kind of a life is that?


My 92 year old grandmother still drives, lives alone, cooks, does her own shopping, does some of her own gardening, has all her teeth, and has plenty of friends. What you wrote isn't true.


That's great for your granny. But one slip and fall and she'll break a hip and wind up in rehab for weeks, and won't be able to do all those things (except keep her teeth and friends).
Anonymous
Post 09/17/2022 23:17     Subject: If your parent or grandparent is in the 90s
Anonymous wrote:I don't worry. 90 years is a long run. If you're 90, you're probably not really enjoying life, not physically comfortable, always worrying about things - from pissing your pants, to your teeth falling out in public, to dropping the newborn someone hands you, to waking up from a nap and not recognizing anyone around you, etc.

Plus, if you're 90+, the majority of your friends have died, your spouse has probably died or is about to, you're just trying to avoid breaking a hip. What kind of a life is that?


My 92 year old grandmother still drives, lives alone, cooks, does her own shopping, does some of her own gardening, has all her teeth, and has plenty of friends. What you wrote isn't true.
Anonymous
Post 09/16/2022 07:42     Subject: If your parent or grandparent is in the 90s
Anonymous wrote:It’s all downhill after 25. 90 is way too long to go.


What a depressing life view. I don’t agree at all.
Anonymous
Post 09/16/2022 07:31     Subject: If your parent or grandparent is in the 90s
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Of course someone in their 90’s is close to death. If you want to see her, now is the time.


This. My mom is 80 and my dad died last year at 86. I know her time is limited. But I wouldn't say it's something I "worry" about. Death is inevitable for all of us, especially at 90. I have stepped up visit frequency, aiming to see her about once a quarter (she's in CA, living with my sister).



Thanks!
Booking my trip to see her this Christmas !
Might be spending $2500 on the trip, but it’s worth it!
Anonymous
Post 09/15/2022 20:46     Subject: If your parent or grandparent is in the 90s
Anonymous wrote:Of course someone in their 90’s is close to death. If you want to see her, now is the time.


This. My mom is 80 and my dad died last year at 86. I know her time is limited. But I wouldn't say it's something I "worry" about. Death is inevitable for all of us, especially at 90. I have stepped up visit frequency, aiming to see her about once a quarter (she's in CA, living with my sister).
Anonymous
Post 09/15/2022 19:48     Subject: If your parent or grandparent is in the 90s
It’s all downhill after 25. 90 is way too long to go.
Anonymous
Post 09/15/2022 19:45     Subject: Re:If your parent or grandparent is in the 90s
I hope to die at 75.
Anonymous
Post 09/15/2022 19:30     Subject: If your parent or grandparent is in the 90s
A beloved family lived to be over 100, and was only in ill health for the last year or so, which was an amazing gift. But for years and years we also had the feeling that every visit could be the last. When she died, we were sad but also felt that we had mostly done what we could to be in touch and visit regularly. (I know this is harder if you live far away.) I think it's natural to expect that she doesn't have long, but it could also be years, so pace yourself.
Anonymous
Post 09/15/2022 19:17     Subject: If your parent or grandparent is in the 90s
I don't worry. 90 years is a long run. If you're 90, you're probably not really enjoying life, not physically comfortable, always worrying about things - from pissing your pants, to your teeth falling out in public, to dropping the newborn someone hands you, to waking up from a nap and not recognizing anyone around you, etc.

Plus, if you're 90+, the majority of your friends have died, your spouse has probably died or is about to, you're just trying to avoid breaking a hip. What kind of a life is that?
Anonymous
Post 09/15/2022 19:11     Subject: If your parent or grandparent is in the 90s
Of course someone in their 90’s is close to death. If you want to see her, now is the time.
Anonymous
Post 09/15/2022 19:08     Subject: If your parent or grandparent is in the 90s
I worry more about being dependent on other people for basic care because of health issues.
Personally I feel long life is overrated.
Anonymous
Post 09/15/2022 17:31     Subject: If your parent or grandparent is in the 90s
Do you worry that they won’t be with us much longer?

My grandma is in her 90s and after the Queen died, I started worrying a lot more knowing the time will come soon.

I’m sad, but I try taking to her everyday and everything.

I ve t go visit her because she live in Argentina. Hopefully I can see her one more before the time comes.