Anonymous wrote:What’s LBD?

Lesbian bed death

Married a little longer and kids somewhat older and sex maybe once a month if we’re lucky. I love our life and think we’re good partners and really love her, but finding time when we’re not tired or sick or working is a big obstacle. You’re not alone. I sometimes think about opening it up but honestly don’t have the time and don’t think I would be good at balancing the emotions of it all, so I think infrequent sex and masturbation are the best way to go. Sex is good when we have it.

What’s LBD?

We average a few times a year. Anniversary, bdays vacation. I wish it was more but between anxiety meds and finding myself not as physically attracted to my wife as much as I used to, we just don't. In all honesty, I'd like to open up the marriage (with specific rules) but I know even starting that Convo would ruin us. I love her and the life we've created dearly so I just deal with it. Not a huge breaking point for me.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In part, yes.

Were you able to communicate your needs? How did it go?

Yes. It was (and remains) a very complex situation filled with subjective perspectives. I think ultimately it boiled down to the fact that people change and grow - sometimes further apart, sometimes closer.

I'm sorry for your kids that you weren't able to work it out. I'm going through something similar but my partner and I have a lot going for us and I think and hope that we will be equally motivated to work on the other stuff.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In part, yes.

Were you able to communicate your needs? How did it go?

Yes. It was (and remains) a very complex situation filled with subjective perspectives. I think ultimately it boiled down to the fact that people change and grow - sometimes further apart, sometimes closer.

Anonymous wrote:In part, yes.

Were you able to communicate your needs? How did it go?

In part, yes.

Anonymous wrote:We did but it was like that before kids.

We are separated and divorcing.

Because of the lack of sex?

No. We are not sexually active regularly.

At first we worried about it but now we've settled into a rhythm of having sex about once a year while on vacation.

Married for longer than a decade. Two kids.

I try not to worry about it.

Since I started taking anxiety meds I haven't had much desire.

Anonymous wrote:We did but it was like that before kids.

We are separated and divorcing.

PP here - to clarify, I was referring to experiencing LBD.

We did but it was like that before kids.

We are separated and divorcing.

We are not. Been married almost 10 years. I’m happy with my spouse though.

yes, we are. I know I’m lucky

Are you still regularly sexually active? I know we’ve all heard of LBD, but wondering how many of you haven’t experienced it.