The cake will be ready. Don't worry. If not grocery stores always have cupcakes and other cakes ready. It doesn't have to be a sheet cake.

How will he support the kids when you’re gone?

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Anonymous wrote:Thank you all, ugh, my husband hasn't worked in years and was supposed to take care of this but looks like I will be taking off work early today to get things ready. I generally work long hours and was depending on him for this. I don't generally depend on him or ask him for anything, but this is our son and he said he was handling everything. Sigh. I asked at the local grocery store I went to last night but it's a small store and they said they don't do cakes themselves. I'm going to call Costco now.

And yet you’ve stayed with him. Sigh.

Sigh again, yes, unfortunately I have because his self-employed business crashed during Covid lockdown and shortly after that I got a terminal medical diagnosis. He is waiting for my life insurance money and my 401K. I know this deep in my heart and can hardly stand him. However, do I want to subject my children to going through a trauma like divorce while knowing I may pass away before it's even concluded or shortly after? I have agonized over this decision and the answer is no. I also can't afford divorce as we are barely making it on my under $90K salary and I need to stay employed for medical insurance not just for me but for my kids too...and him I guess, and to keep paying the mortgage. I can't pay him child support nor alimony on my salary as it would bankrupt us, and I would never be able to afford childcare for my kids while I'm working in the office. At least he provides that. I do realize I will be pretty much working until I die to keep the family afloat and I'm okay with it now. I just want to minimalize the hurt to my kids and give my youngest a good birthday tomorrow. I'm not going to put them through a high conflict divorce (because, believe me it would be).

I did order the cake at Costco but I'm stressed that it won't be ready in time. I just filled out a paper and dropped it in the order box. I would have felt better about it if I could have actually spoken to someone there about it. I will go to Giant if it doesn't work out. I'm not very close to Wegmans unfortunately.

Anonymous wrote:Thank you all, ugh, my husband hasn't worked in years and was supposed to take care of this but looks like I will be taking off work early today to get things ready. I generally work long hours and was depending on him for this. I don't generally depend on him or ask him for anything, but this is our son and he said he was handling everything. Sigh. I asked at the local grocery store I went to last night but it's a small store and they said they don't do cakes themselves. I'm going to call Costco now.

And yet you’ve stayed with him. Sigh.

Anonymous wrote:OP here with an update, I called Costco and they said I couldn't order a cake over the phone, I need to come in and order in person, then it will be ready in 24 hours. Looks like that is what I will be doing on my lunch break.

Wegmans usually has some in stock, if there’s one near you.

Giant sheet cake is pretty good.

Anonymous wrote:OP here with an update, I called Costco and they said I couldn't order a cake over the phone, I need to come in and order in person, then it will be ready in 24 hours. Looks like that is what I will be doing on my lunch break.

I live in Bowie and go to Giant, pick out a cake on display and they will write the happy birthday message I request and I walk out minutes later. Same with Wegmam’s in Crofton.

OP here with an update, I called Costco and they said I couldn't order a cake over the phone, I need to come in and order in person, then it will be ready in 24 hours. Looks like that is what I will be doing on my lunch break.

Costco will also do a plain icing and not add any decoration if you want if you request. I get the plain white icing cake from them and then I can decorate using my own theme and toppers.

Thank you all, ugh, my husband hasn't worked in years and was supposed to take care of this but looks like I will be taking off work early today to get things ready. I generally work long hours and was depending on him for this. I don't generally depend on him or ask him for anything, but this is our son and he said he was handling everything. Sigh. I asked at the local grocery store I went to last night but it's a small store and they said they don't do cakes themselves. I'm going to call Costco now.

Wegmans are delicious.

Costco still has them. You can call the bakery and request that one be set aside for you if you're worried about inventory, and there might be time to get a message added and pick up in the morning (not sure what the lead time is on that point).

Why didn't you order one last night? Many grocery stores only need 24 hours notice.

Call around to Giants

Does Costco still have them? I'm in PG Co./NE DC. My DH dropped the ball on getting the cake for birthday party tomorrow for my DS. I went to a local grocery store last night, but they didn't have any. Just looking for a generic sheet cake, not ordering a specific design...