Anonymous
08/18/2022 19:37
Subject: Anyone Been Disinherited?
I'm currently disinherited. 3M estate estate could be split evenly among 3 children. My parents are always weaponizing their will so I could be reinstated at any time of i please them. Don't really care because as long as I care, they will use it against me.
Anonymous
08/18/2022 19:07
Subject: Anyone Been Disinherited?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I believe my step parent has worked to have me (and possibly other children) disinherited. I can't say why on this board.
Has anyone ever experienced this? What happened and why?
I'm sad and angry - I've always been loving and accepting of my step parent and extended family. I don't know what hostility has caused this but it seems that after many decades of close family ties, someone's mind has changed.
And yes, I realize no one is entitled to someone else's money. I just can't imagine doing something like this.....
Where is your biological parent in all of this?
Probably dead or dying.
Anonymous
08/18/2022 19:05
Subject: Anyone Been Disinherited?
Anonymous wrote:It's hard to say without knowing the size of the estate. If, for example, the total estate is $500K and they have now been married for 20 years it would be reasonable for the spouse to receive the entire estate to support themselves. Once you get into larger amounts it might make sense to have some of the money go to you and the other children. The estate may not be that large by the way, quite possible being a married couple many of their accounts are joint so they would not be part of the estate.
If you were married to someone from age 55-75, why would you think you should inherit anything from your spouse? you had your entire life to build a nest egg and at age 55 it would make sense for each of you to keep your money separate. If anything happened to my DH, I can't imagine having anyone other than my kids be my beneficiaries.
Anonymous
08/18/2022 18:40
Subject: Anyone Been Disinherited?
My parents disinherited me, because I withdrew from the family. I built my own happy family and refuse to let their BS poison my life any longer.
Anonymous
08/18/2022 18:21
Subject: Re:Anyone Been Disinherited?
I am sorry OP. Step situations are stressful financially for this very reason. Is your blood relative competent?
Anonymous
08/18/2022 18:00
Subject: Anyone Been Disinherited?
I think I am. They threaten it all the time so I just assume I am.
Anonymous
08/18/2022 17:25
Subject: Anyone Been Disinherited?
My grandfather, who had 4 children, tried very hard to disinheret my parents. It was silly, he got mad at my mom for a comment she made at some point. The other kids stepped in and helped grandpa to understand how silly he was being. It all worked out, but there were 3 months during which if he had passed, my parents would have gotten zilch from an 8 figure total.
Can you, or a sibling, talk to the parent/step parent and work something out?
Can you, or a sibling, talk to the parent/step parent and work something out?
Anonymous
08/18/2022 17:14
Subject: Re:Anyone Been Disinherited?
Haven’t been, but I can see how it can happen. You’d be amazed at how slow, consistent pushing and prodding can make someone think it’s their own idea
Anonymous
08/18/2022 17:08
Subject: Anyone Been Disinherited?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Divorced long ago.Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I believe my step parent has worked to have me (and possibly other children) disinherited. I can't say why on this board.
Has anyone ever experienced this? What happened and why?
I'm sad and angry - I've always been loving and accepting of my step parent and extended family. I don't know what hostility has caused this but it seems that after many decades of close family ties, someone's mind has changed.
And yes, I realize no one is entitled to someone else's money. I just can't imagine doing something like this.....
Where is your biological parent in all of this?
No, I mean the parent your step parent is married to.
Alive, but geezing.
Anonymous
08/18/2022 17:02
Subject: Anyone Been Disinherited?
Anonymous wrote:Divorced long ago.Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I believe my step parent has worked to have me (and possibly other children) disinherited. I can't say why on this board.
Has anyone ever experienced this? What happened and why?
I'm sad and angry - I've always been loving and accepting of my step parent and extended family. I don't know what hostility has caused this but it seems that after many decades of close family ties, someone's mind has changed.
And yes, I realize no one is entitled to someone else's money. I just can't imagine doing something like this.....
Where is your biological parent in all of this?
No, I mean the parent your step parent is married to.
Anonymous
08/18/2022 16:54
Subject: Anyone Been Disinherited?
Divorced long ago.Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I believe my step parent has worked to have me (and possibly other children) disinherited. I can't say why on this board.
Has anyone ever experienced this? What happened and why?
I'm sad and angry - I've always been loving and accepting of my step parent and extended family. I don't know what hostility has caused this but it seems that after many decades of close family ties, someone's mind has changed.
And yes, I realize no one is entitled to someone else's money. I just can't imagine doing something like this.....
Where is your biological parent in all of this?
Anonymous
08/18/2022 16:54
Subject: Anyone Been Disinherited?
It's large. Probably very large.
Anonymous
08/18/2022 16:54
Subject: Anyone Been Disinherited?
Anonymous wrote:I believe my step parent has worked to have me (and possibly other children) disinherited. I can't say why on this board.
Has anyone ever experienced this? What happened and why?
I'm sad and angry - I've always been loving and accepting of my step parent and extended family. I don't know what hostility has caused this but it seems that after many decades of close family ties, someone's mind has changed.
And yes, I realize no one is entitled to someone else's money. I just can't imagine doing something like this.....
Where is your biological parent in all of this?
Anonymous
08/18/2022 16:52
Subject: Anyone Been Disinherited?
It's hard to say without knowing the size of the estate. If, for example, the total estate is $500K and they have now been married for 20 years it would be reasonable for the spouse to receive the entire estate to support themselves. Once you get into larger amounts it might make sense to have some of the money go to you and the other children. The estate may not be that large by the way, quite possible being a married couple many of their accounts are joint so they would not be part of the estate.
Anonymous
08/18/2022 16:49
Subject: Anyone Been Disinherited?
I believe my step parent has worked to have me (and possibly other children) disinherited. I can't say why on this board.
Has anyone ever experienced this? What happened and why?
I'm sad and angry - I've always been loving and accepting of my step parent and extended family. I don't know what hostility has caused this but it seems that after many decades of close family ties, someone's mind has changed.
And yes, I realize no one is entitled to someone else's money. I just can't imagine doing something like this.....
Has anyone ever experienced this? What happened and why?
I'm sad and angry - I've always been loving and accepting of my step parent and extended family. I don't know what hostility has caused this but it seems that after many decades of close family ties, someone's mind has changed.
And yes, I realize no one is entitled to someone else's money. I just can't imagine doing something like this.....