Anonymous
08/03/2022 13:42
Subject: Re:Confidence…
I think I was born with it. But then I am very strange when compared to others, so I would not say that my experience is typical.
And being born with confidence is not always a good thing. I am the least financially successful among my siblings even though I am the one with the fanciest degree. I don't really feel societal pressure. My pressure comes from me wanting good things for my children.
And being born with confidence is not always a good thing. I am the least financially successful among my siblings even though I am the one with the fanciest degree. I don't really feel societal pressure. My pressure comes from me wanting good things for my children.
Anonymous
08/02/2022 17:56
Subject: Re:Confidence…
You’re not born with it you learn it and earn it through experience both positive and negative. If you play little league baseball you will gain confidence if you hit a few singles and then you can start to swing more freely and hit doubles etc. But if someone is a young adult and has zero confidence then it becomes much harder because it is engrained in them. They may well need a professional life coach to help them out.
Anonymous
08/02/2022 10:10
Subject: Re:Confidence…
Anonymous wrote:I have always been confident and fearless, and I have always been able to make quick decisions. I was born that way. I raised my kids that way. No one respects a coward.
Raised a bully?
Anonymous
08/02/2022 08:39
Subject: Re:Confidence…
I have always been confident and fearless, and I have always been able to make quick decisions. I was born that way. I raised my kids that way. No one respects a coward.
Anonymous
07/30/2022 19:09
Subject: Confidence…
I was not at all socially confident as a kid or adolescent or young adult. I am intelligent and have strong feelings, but I wasn't at all socially confident and had serious imposter syndrome. Eventually, as I matured, I realized that most people are full of it and many are faking it just as much as I was, and I stopped caring so much what people thought.
Also, not having strong opinions about everything is sometimes good. Like, why do you need a personal belief about cooking with butter v. oil? Why not consider the pros and cons and other people's perspective decide that both have their place? People needing to pick a side on things that don't require it can be so annoying and there's nothing wrong with a little humility.
Also, not having strong opinions about everything is sometimes good. Like, why do you need a personal belief about cooking with butter v. oil? Why not consider the pros and cons and other people's perspective decide that both have their place? People needing to pick a side on things that don't require it can be so annoying and there's nothing wrong with a little humility.
Anonymous
07/30/2022 18:04
Subject: Confidence…
Anonymous wrote:If you have always been a confident person… trusted your judgment, socially confident and confident in your capabilities… did you always know or feel confident?
If you were Not confident as a young person or even as a young adult… how did you grow your confidence over the years to trust yourself, your judgement, your opinion, be assertive when with others….?
I know a young adult who is SO passive, meek, uncomfortable, unable to assert an opinion or stand for a personal belief (literally this person wavered back and forth during a conversation on the pros and cons of cooking with oil vs butter and in the end voted for both. It’s not in isolation. It occurs A Lot and I’m trying to figure out if the individual is trying to be accommodating or just lacks confidence o a spine or what?)
LOL I'm guessing as a young adult they haven't had much experience yet cooking with either oil or butter. When I was a young adult I boiled everything in a pot of water on the stove.
Anonymous
07/30/2022 17:37
Subject: Confidence…
I don't think this qualifies as an "adult children" thread really does it?
Anonymous
07/30/2022 16:13
Subject: Confidence…
Trust in yourself that you can handle a situation. In your case, sounds like this was very unimportant.
Why try to figure out others? If they are functioning. You aren't parenting.
Why try to figure out others? If they are functioning. You aren't parenting.
Anonymous
07/30/2022 10:24
Subject: Confidence…
If you have always been a confident person… trusted your judgment, socially confident and confident in your capabilities… did you always know or feel confident?
If you were Not confident as a young person or even as a young adult… how did you grow your confidence over the years to trust yourself, your judgement, your opinion, be assertive when with others….?
I know a young adult who is SO passive, meek, uncomfortable, unable to assert an opinion or stand for a personal belief (literally this person wavered back and forth during a conversation on the pros and cons of cooking with oil vs butter and in the end voted for both. It’s not in isolation. It occurs A Lot and I’m trying to figure out if the individual is trying to be accommodating or just lacks confidence o a spine or what?)
If you were Not confident as a young person or even as a young adult… how did you grow your confidence over the years to trust yourself, your judgement, your opinion, be assertive when with others….?
I know a young adult who is SO passive, meek, uncomfortable, unable to assert an opinion or stand for a personal belief (literally this person wavered back and forth during a conversation on the pros and cons of cooking with oil vs butter and in the end voted for both. It’s not in isolation. It occurs A Lot and I’m trying to figure out if the individual is trying to be accommodating or just lacks confidence o a spine or what?)