Anonymous
07/30/2022 12:55
Subject: Great relationship with bio mom
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Because she's not being supported by her family. I'd be thrilled if my DD25 were getting married. Your SD isn't a child.Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I'm sad for your SD.
Why?
Would you? No matter what? I didn’t provide any context as to why the parents in her life think this is a bad idea. We have shared our concerns about the life she is building for herself and pointed out the discrepancies between what she says she wants and what she’s marrying. Her mom and dad expressed it to her once and that was the last time it was mentioned. The parents are allowed to have their own thoughts about the likely success of this marriage. It doesn’t mean that it is constantly shared with her. Being supportive of her is different than agreeing with her.
When you say her “mom and dad” do you mean her real mom or do you mean you? You are overstepping.
Omfg. She said bio mom and everyone jumped all over her. Now she’s saying mom and you’re criticizing her.
Op, this forum is hard on stepmoms. Lots of bitter ex wives who like to criticize them and tell them they are dirt. Move on.
Anonymous
07/30/2022 12:53
Subject: Great relationship with bio mom
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Because she's not being supported by her family. I'd be thrilled if my DD25 were getting married. Your SD isn't a child.Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I'm sad for your SD.
Why?
Would you? No matter what? I didn’t provide any context as to why the parents in her life think this is a bad idea. We have shared our concerns about the life she is building for herself and pointed out the discrepancies between what she says she wants and what she’s marrying. Her mom and dad expressed it to her once and that was the last time it was mentioned. The parents are allowed to have their own thoughts about the likely success of this marriage. It doesn’t mean that it is constantly shared with her. Being supportive of her is different than agreeing with her.
When you say her “mom and dad” do you mean her real mom or do you mean you? You are overstepping.
I mean the 2 people (mom and dad) that were a part of the original conception and birth of the child who is getting married. How am I overstepping?
Ok, so the real parents have spoken. And the daughter is 25. An adult. Your job is to follow the lead of the real parents. End of story.
And I am. When did I ever say I was not?
Anonymous
07/30/2022 12:31
Subject: Great relationship with bio mom
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Because she's not being supported by her family. I'd be thrilled if my DD25 were getting married. Your SD isn't a child.Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I'm sad for your SD.
Why?
Would you? No matter what? I didn’t provide any context as to why the parents in her life think this is a bad idea. We have shared our concerns about the life she is building for herself and pointed out the discrepancies between what she says she wants and what she’s marrying. Her mom and dad expressed it to her once and that was the last time it was mentioned. The parents are allowed to have their own thoughts about the likely success of this marriage. It doesn’t mean that it is constantly shared with her. Being supportive of her is different than agreeing with her.
When you say her “mom and dad” do you mean her real mom or do you mean you? You are overstepping.
I mean the 2 people (mom and dad) that were a part of the original conception and birth of the child who is getting married. How am I overstepping?
Ok, so the real parents have spoken. And the daughter is 25. An adult. Your job is to follow the lead of the real parents. End of story.
Anonymous
07/30/2022 11:09
Subject: Great relationship with bio mom
Anonymous wrote:Because she's not being supported by her family. I'd be thrilled if my DD25 were getting married. Your SD isn't a child.Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I'm sad for your SD.
Why?
You’d be thrilled even if your daughter was marrying an obviously inappropriate person?
Anonymous
07/30/2022 09:39
Subject: Great relationship with bio mom
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Because she's not being supported by her family. I'd be thrilled if my DD25 were getting married. Your SD isn't a child.Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I'm sad for your SD.
Why?
Would you? No matter what? I didn’t provide any context as to why the parents in her life think this is a bad idea. We have shared our concerns about the life she is building for herself and pointed out the discrepancies between what she says she wants and what she’s marrying. Her mom and dad expressed it to her once and that was the last time it was mentioned. The parents are allowed to have their own thoughts about the likely success of this marriage. It doesn’t mean that it is constantly shared with her. Being supportive of her is different than agreeing with her.
When you say her “mom and dad” do you mean her real mom or do you mean you? You are overstepping.
I mean the 2 people (mom and dad) that were a part of the original conception and birth of the child who is getting married. How am I overstepping?
Anonymous
07/30/2022 09:24
Subject: Great relationship with bio mom
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Because she's not being supported by her family. I'd be thrilled if my DD25 were getting married. Your SD isn't a child.Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I'm sad for your SD.
Why?
Would you? No matter what? I didn’t provide any context as to why the parents in her life think this is a bad idea. We have shared our concerns about the life she is building for herself and pointed out the discrepancies between what she says she wants and what she’s marrying. Her mom and dad expressed it to her once and that was the last time it was mentioned. The parents are allowed to have their own thoughts about the likely success of this marriage. It doesn’t mean that it is constantly shared with her. Being supportive of her is different than agreeing with her.
When you say her “mom and dad” do you mean her real mom or do you mean you? You are overstepping.
Anonymous
07/30/2022 09:18
Subject: Great relationship with bio mom
Anonymous wrote:Because she's not being supported by her family. I'd be thrilled if my DD25 were getting married. Your SD isn't a child.Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I'm sad for your SD.
Why?
Would you? No matter what? I didn’t provide any context as to why the parents in her life think this is a bad idea. We have shared our concerns about the life she is building for herself and pointed out the discrepancies between what she says she wants and what she’s marrying. Her mom and dad expressed it to her once and that was the last time it was mentioned. The parents are allowed to have their own thoughts about the likely success of this marriage. It doesn’t mean that it is constantly shared with her. Being supportive of her is different than agreeing with her.
Anonymous
07/30/2022 09:07
Subject: Great relationship with bio mom
Anonymous wrote:“Bio mom?” She’s her MOM, period, not her bio mom. The woman didn’t put her up for adoption.
Valid point. I apologize.
Anonymous
07/30/2022 09:06
Subject: Great relationship with bio mom
“Bio mom?” She’s her MOM, period, not her bio mom. The woman didn’t put her up for adoption.
Anonymous
07/30/2022 09:03
Subject: Great relationship with bio mom
Because she's not being supported by her family. I'd be thrilled if my DD25 were getting married. Your SD isn't a child.Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I'm sad for your SD.
Why?
Anonymous
07/30/2022 09:00
Subject: Great relationship with bio mom
Anonymous wrote:Yikes! I guess bio mom doesn’t have a great relationship with her DD.
It’s not bad. Why would you infer that they don’t have a good relationship?
Anonymous
07/30/2022 09:00
Subject: Great relationship with bio mom
Anonymous wrote:I'm sad for your SD.
Why?
Anonymous
07/30/2022 08:45
Subject: Great relationship with bio mom
I'm sad for your SD.
Anonymous
07/30/2022 08:44
Subject: Great relationship with bio mom
Yikes! I guess bio mom doesn’t have a great relationship with her DD.
Anonymous
07/30/2022 08:36
Subject: Great relationship with bio mom
My SD is getting married in Dec. All of the parents in her life think this is a bad idea. But she’s 25 so we all keep our thoughts among ourselves. Bio mom texted me this morning “want to help me find a MOB dress for the sh!tshow”. So we’re off to go shopping together.