As long as they are working and learning, its fine. An unpaid internship is as good as as a paid retail job to teach work ethics.

And?

It’s not binary. I supported my kids and they graduated with no loans. They did sports and internships. But they also worked. The internships were paid. They worked retail and other paid summer jobs. They fully support themselves as young adults. It was the same for me and DH. I worked every summer and did on campus jobs during college, despite not being on financial aid.

I am successful because I have a strong work ethic, in addition to privilege. I have tried to instill the same in my kids.

or asking them to take loans.

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Anonymous wrote:I think people overvalue making kids having jobs and supporting themselves and paying for college. Most successful people i see are ones who were supported by families and who had no loans and no menial jobs but internships, research projects, sports and volunteer work.

If you don't have a family to pay for all of that, then what are your choices? You can either get aid or find a way to pay for it yourself.

I'm not sure what your point is.

I'm talking about families with means insisting on kids paying off college themselves with side jobs.

Anonymous wrote:The rich can be lazy without many ill effects

Not comparing lazy vs hardworking as both were working. Just comparing type of work.

Anonymous wrote:I think people overvalue making kids having jobs and supporting themselves and paying for college. Most successful people i see are ones who were supported by families and who had no loans and no menial jobs but internships, research projects, sports and volunteer work.

If you don't have a family to pay for all of that, then what are your choices? You can either get aid or find a way to pay for it yourself.

I'm not sure what your point is.

The rich can be lazy without many ill effects

^ this

Anonymous wrote:I think people overvalue making kids having jobs and supporting themselves and paying for college. Most successful people i see are ones who were supported by families and who had no loans and no menial jobs but internships, research projects, sports and volunteer work.

That’s because they usually started off very well to do, so it’s no wonder they were able to continue that trajectory.

Anonymous wrote:I think people overvalue making kids having jobs and supporting themselves and paying for college. Most successful people i see are ones who were supported by families and who had no loans and no menial jobs but internships, research projects, sports and volunteer work.

To be fair students doing internships, research, sports and volunteering ARE working too.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think people overvalue making kids having jobs and supporting themselves and paying for college. Most successful people i see are ones who were supported by families and who had no loans and no menial jobs but internships, research projects, sports and volunteer work.

You mean people making good money?

Money too but i meant having professional opportunities.

... or if they had financial aid and merit scholarships to pay off college.

Anonymous wrote:I think people overvalue making kids having jobs and supporting themselves and paying for college. Most successful people i see are ones who were supported by families and who had no loans and no menial jobs but internships, research projects, sports and volunteer work.

You mean people making good money?

I think people overvalue making kids having jobs and supporting themselves and paying for college. Most successful people i see are ones who were supported by families and who had no loans and no menial jobs but internships, research projects, sports and volunteer work.