Anonymous wrote:I just went into our basement freezer (that I rarely if ever go in to) and there is a bottle of alcohol 3/4 empty. Dh was traveling for work 9 days ago and we had a power outage and I happened to go in that freezer to check if things were still good so I know it wasn't there then.

We are 36yo, together since 18yo, have two young kids.

When we were 23yo we had a talk about drinking hard alcohol. He could always have beers or wine totally fine, but a couple shots or hard drinks and he turned into a mess. He was never violent or abusive in any form, it was more safety concerns- he would not remember going home (walking or cab- he never drove). He lost his phone once, left his key in our front door overnight once. This was all when we were being early 20 somethings out with friends at bars or on trips. It never crossed my mind that it was an actual drinking problem- I've just always thought he can't handle hard alcohol and he was in agreement.

To my knowledge, he has not had hard alcohol since then. Even at weddings and events he has always stuck to beer.

To my knowledge, I thought we have an occasional glass of wine with dinner on the weekend or drinks (he always has beer) when we go out socially.

We both WFH and go to bed at the same time so I'm just genuinely confused when this is happening- is he drinking during the work day? Sneaking it into some other drink? He drinks a coffee in the morning and then typically a la Croix from the can and water from clear glasses throughout the day. We spend 99% of evenings together watching tv, meal prepping, playing cards, doing yard work and he never has any sort of drink in his hands during that time. I've never noticed him tipsy or drunk.

I did ask him maybe a week ago if he got new body wash because he smelled different (more minty) and he said yes. I can't remember exactly what day that was or what he was doing because it was just an innocent question. It's peppermint flavored alcohol that I found.

Really confused and blindsided with this one. Kids are 5y and 2y and I'm supposed to be going away for the first time since having kids next weekend. Now I feel absolutely sick. Kids are gone today and we WFH so I'm going to bring it up this afternoon.

Anonymous wrote:Hey, I found this bottle of alcohol in the freezer, what's up with that?

Don't make it into more of a deal than it has to be.

Anonymous wrote:So he's been drinking 3/4 of a bottle of peppermint schnapps over the last year, and you've noticed no signs of impairment or inability to conduct himself?

Anonymous wrote:Ask him how long it's been in the freezer. If it's been there 3 years I certainly wouldn't fret over it.

Anonymous wrote:So he's been drinking 3/4 of a bottle of peppermint schnapps over the last year, and you've noticed no signs of impairment or inability to conduct himself?