Anonymous
Post 07/10/2022 18:14     Subject: When both parents have jobs where sudden days off aren’t feasible.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Au pair


Skeptical Pp here. This is decent option. In Addition to daycare.


OP here. Thank you but we aren’t interested in daycare. And I’m assuming au pairs get sick as often as nannies.
Anonymous
Post 07/10/2022 18:12     Subject: When both parents have jobs where sudden days off aren’t feasible.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I am assuming nanny care plus a back up is our best bet, correct? My schedule is usually 8 to 3 while DH is working out of town 28 weeks a year (home every weekend). My MIL is also retired and lives a few streets away and it excited to care for the baby.

Who was your backup if nanny got sick? I don’t want to make my MIL our back up if she has plans.


Do you leave at 8 and home at 3?


OP here. Yes.
Anonymous
Post 07/10/2022 18:12     Subject: When both parents have jobs where sudden days off aren’t feasible.
Anonymous wrote:Eventually you will take a job that allows sudden day offs. Plan on it. So when kid has flu or COVID, MIL is the one being exposed?

Especially with a DH who is traveling half the YEAR?!


Not possible in so many professions, PP. Do you really want your surgery postponed or your flight canceled or your trial date put off because someone in preschool got a cold? It’s why back up care if offered.
Anonymous
Post 07/10/2022 18:09     Subject: When both parents have jobs where sudden days off aren’t feasible.
Anonymous wrote:Au pair


Skeptical Pp here. This is decent option. In Addition to daycare.
Anonymous
Post 07/10/2022 18:06     Subject: When both parents have jobs where sudden days off aren’t feasible.
Au pair
Anonymous
Post 07/10/2022 18:06     Subject: When both parents have jobs where sudden days off aren’t feasible.
Eventually you will take a job that allows sudden day offs. Plan on it. So when kid has flu or COVID, MIL is the one being exposed?

Especially with a DH who is traveling half the YEAR?!
Anonymous
Post 07/10/2022 18:03     Subject: When both parents have jobs where sudden days off aren’t feasible.
Anonymous wrote:I am assuming nanny care plus a back up is our best bet, correct? My schedule is usually 8 to 3 while DH is working out of town 28 weeks a year (home every weekend). My MIL is also retired and lives a few streets away and it excited to care for the baby.

Who was your backup if nanny got sick? I don’t want to make my MIL our back up if she has plans.


Do you leave at 8 and home at 3?
Anonymous
Post 07/10/2022 14:48     Subject: Re:When both parents have jobs where sudden days off aren’t feasible.
Anonymous wrote:I am the nanny for two kids whose parents are both surgeons. I haven’t called in sick for close to four years but if I did the grandmother and housekeeper could take over.

I don’t think many people could afford that however.


+1. Another nanny here and the full time housekeeper is our backup.
Anonymous
Post 07/10/2022 14:47     Subject: When both parents have jobs where sudden days off aren’t feasible.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I am assuming nanny care plus a back up is our best bet, correct? My schedule is usually 8 to 3 while DH is working out of town 28 weeks a year (home every weekend). My MIL is also retired and lives a few streets away and it excited to care for the baby.

Who was your backup if nanny got sick? I don’t want to make my MIL our back up if she has plans.


Your MIL is the best backup plan there is, assuming you trust her. My MIL does this stuff all the time for my sister in law. I guess it depends on your relationship though. If she has immovable plans, you could try bright horizons backup care. Lots of employers offer this, so I’d check your benefits.


I totally trust my MIL. I think together with the Bright Horizons care, it could work.

Thank you, all!
Anonymous
Post 07/10/2022 14:45     Subject: Re:When both parents have jobs where sudden days off aren’t feasible.
Anonymous wrote:I am the nanny for two kids whose parents are both surgeons. I haven’t called in sick for close to four years but if I did the grandmother and housekeeper could take over.

I don’t think many people could afford that however.


OP here. I wish but no, we don’t have a full time housekeeper. Maybe someday!
Anonymous
Post 07/10/2022 14:45     Subject: When both parents have jobs where sudden days off aren’t feasible.
Anonymous wrote:I am assuming nanny care plus a back up is our best bet, correct? My schedule is usually 8 to 3 while DH is working out of town 28 weeks a year (home every weekend). My MIL is also retired and lives a few streets away and it excited to care for the baby.

Who was your backup if nanny got sick? I don’t want to make my MIL our back up if she has plans.


Your MIL is the best backup plan there is, assuming you trust her. My MIL does this stuff all the time for my sister in law. I guess it depends on your relationship though. If she has immovable plans, you could try bright horizons backup care. Lots of employers offer this, so I’d check your benefits.
Anonymous
Post 07/10/2022 14:45     Subject: When both parents have jobs where sudden days off aren’t feasible.
Anonymous wrote:Check if either one of you has a back up care plan through work.


OP here. Yes, I do. A Bright Horizons contract. Are they good?
Anonymous
Post 07/10/2022 14:44     Subject: Re:When both parents have jobs where sudden days off aren’t feasible.
I am the nanny for two kids whose parents are both surgeons. I haven’t called in sick for close to four years but if I did the grandmother and housekeeper could take over.

I don’t think many people could afford that however.
Anonymous
Post 07/10/2022 14:42     Subject: When both parents have jobs where sudden days off aren’t feasible.
Check if either one of you has a back up care plan through work.
Anonymous
Post 07/10/2022 14:40     Subject: When both parents have jobs where sudden days off aren’t feasible.
I am assuming nanny care plus a back up is our best bet, correct? My schedule is usually 8 to 3 while DH is working out of town 28 weeks a year (home every weekend). My MIL is also retired and lives a few streets away and it excited to care for the baby.

Who was your backup if nanny got sick? I don’t want to make my MIL our back up if she has plans.