Anonymous
06/30/2022 10:16
Subject: Loved the gym, now am starting to really hate everything about it
OP you don’t sound like a complainer! You are toughing this out with a less than ideal trainer!
I would definitely follow your old trainer or get a new one. Move on and don’t look back. Just don’t give up. Good luck!
I would definitely follow your old trainer or get a new one. Move on and don’t look back. Just don’t give up. Good luck!
Anonymous
06/29/2022 18:47
Subject: Loved the gym, now am starting to really hate everything about it
It sounds like you are knowledgeable and disciplined enough to simply join a gym (not a “program”) and work out as you see fit.
Anonymous
06/29/2022 18:43
Subject: Loved the gym, now am starting to really hate everything about it
Anonymous wrote:OP once more - I reread my post again and I do sound so negative! I guess I just hate change. I loved the strength program I've been doing since January - and this new calisthenics thing is really throwing me for a loop.
You might be right - I have thought about following my old trainer to the new place, but in honesty I don't know if I'm her ideal client either. She was so encouraging and wonderful, so motivating. She's a nationally ranked body builder with stretch marks and memories of being overweight.
I am glad to put this all in writing, as it's already making me feel better - you're right, the gym you go to is the best one. I'm a little worried I'm making excuses in my head to justify stopping all together.
Please don’t give up! Trainers love people on all levels. Especially you will have the most drastic before and afters! Wherever you land keep
at it you’re doing it for your health not the idea of being someone’s perfect ideal client. Health is why you are there- Remember that!
Anonymous
06/29/2022 15:12
Subject: Re:Loved the gym, now am starting to really hate everything about it
One to One Fitness. Great trainers.
Anonymous
06/29/2022 15:10
Subject: Re:Loved the gym, now am starting to really hate everything about it
I've been exercising in gyms for 30 years. No matter how much you love a program or a teacher you will eventually lose the super-enthusiastic love because it will become old-hat and you will need something new to spark that love-love super-enthusiastic feeling. This is why my preference is for a big box gym where I can pick and choose from a wide variety of classes and teachers and when I can't find anything I like in group exercise I focus on lifting in the weight room. If you are at a small club you may not be able to wait it out and might have to change gyms. If you are 50 you should also be doing some balance and flexibility. Find some yoga, pilates or dance cardio for a change.
Anonymous
06/29/2022 14:44
Subject: Loved the gym, now am starting to really hate everything about it
OP this actually sounds like a good fit for me. Would you mind sharing the name and location of this gym?
Anonymous
06/29/2022 13:35
Subject: Loved the gym, now am starting to really hate everything about it
I would definitely look for a new gym. You can shop around, take a class or get a free pass for the day, find one you like.
I recommend Onelife Fitness. They have lots of classes, and many locations. I've never felt out of place in a class, I'm overweight, but can keep up and I always feel challenged.
I recommend Onelife Fitness. They have lots of classes, and many locations. I've never felt out of place in a class, I'm overweight, but can keep up and I always feel challenged.
Anonymous
06/29/2022 13:29
Subject: Loved the gym, now am starting to really hate everything about it
Anonymous wrote:I belong to a strength and fitness gym that does group HIIT classes, and also runs a strength program where a trainer works with 3-5 people for an hour doing a variety of free-weight lifting (squats, bench, deadlifts are the 3 exercises we max every 12 weeks, and we build up to our max by doing a variety of lifts at increasing %s over time).
I joined the HIIT side just over a year ago, and used to it 5x week. In January, I joined the strength program, and probably only HIIT 3x/month now. I ride my bike to/from classes and justified it was ok to miss hiit b/c of that. :/
Anyway, I'm 50 and overweight. I'm not their model client as most overweight people come in there and hit weight loss goals in about 4-6 months, or they stop coming. I did their nutrition plan and lost 30 lbs, but it was strict and I fell off that wagon and have gained about 15 back. In any case, I know I don't take the nutrition side of fitness/weight loss seriously, but I'm fighting one battle at a time I guess. I am faithful to my workout program and have really increased my cardio and strength abilities. I really love my gym - like in 50 years I've hated everything about exercise, but it's been so different this time - I really love going because of the social aspect, the workouts, my improvements, my confidence, etc.
I say all this as a preface to this: Our strength trainer left the gym and her replacement is a 20 year old aspiring ninja warrior who loves calisthenics. His strength workouts use very little weights and mostly rely on body weight. I can see the benefit of his workouts, to have a strong body, if I was strong enough to lift myself, but I'm not. His workouts make me want to cry because unlike HIIT, the modifications are either not existent, he doesn't know them or they're so glaringly different, it's embarrassing. Plus, the classes just seem like a more intense version of HIIT. If I were regularly going to HIIT still, I'd actually be thinking, well this is redundant. I get the impression the new trainer is very unimpressed with my capabilities and either avoids encouraging because he doesn't know how to work with someone like me, or because he knows I'll never get this. (Gah, I'm totally hating myself right now - I am not the kind of person that feels the world is against me!)
But, who am I to criticize, right? After a year, I'm still overweight and not a great model of what their gym provides anyway. I don't take the nutrition side seriously, so is it all for naught? Plus I don't know enough about any workout plan to see why one is better or worse than another. Finally, when you're overweight, anything is better than nothing right? This is the negative self-talk I'm giving myself - probably just PMS emotions running rampant and feeling sorry for myself - but is this true? Are there benefits to this new program and I should just get used to it? Or should I go look for something like the prior program? I don't know exactly what I'm expecting here, but maybe a little pep talk saying "you got this"? Thanks for any advice.
I really side eye an instructor who cannot properly motivate/encourage you and cannot properly modify the routine…not the signs of a good instructor.
Maybe you’re not an “ideal” client/attendee but if he wants to have a fitness career, he needs to learn to work with people who are in all different kinds of shape— not just people already in top shape.
Anonymous
06/29/2022 13:29
Subject: Loved the gym, now am starting to really hate everything about it
OP once more - I reread my post again and I do sound so negative! I guess I just hate change. I loved the strength program I've been doing since January - and this new calisthenics thing is really throwing me for a loop.
You might be right - I have thought about following my old trainer to the new place, but in honesty I don't know if I'm her ideal client either. She was so encouraging and wonderful, so motivating. She's a nationally ranked body builder with stretch marks and memories of being overweight.
I am glad to put this all in writing, as it's already making me feel better - you're right, the gym you go to is the best one. I'm a little worried I'm making excuses in my head to justify stopping all together.
You might be right - I have thought about following my old trainer to the new place, but in honesty I don't know if I'm her ideal client either. She was so encouraging and wonderful, so motivating. She's a nationally ranked body builder with stretch marks and memories of being overweight.
I am glad to put this all in writing, as it's already making me feel better - you're right, the gym you go to is the best one. I'm a little worried I'm making excuses in my head to justify stopping all together.
Anonymous
06/29/2022 13:28
Subject: Re:Loved the gym, now am starting to really hate everything about it
This new instructor is just not a good fit for you. Sounds like you just need to change things up to get your joy in exercising back. Good luck!
Anonymous
06/29/2022 13:25
Subject: Re:Loved the gym, now am starting to really hate everything about it
Anonymous wrote:You sound extremely down on yourself, and I don't think this gym is right for you.
Some of the best advice I ever heard about gyms is that the best one is the one you will actually go to. I would HATE a program like the one you described. I would never go. My family belongs to a no-frills Y. The kids take some classes there, my husband and I work out, and once in a while, we catch a family swim time. This works for us.
To be honest, I do most of my workouts outside, on my own (running and walking). I don't lift as much as I should. But again ... the best workout is the one I actually do.
I think you should let go of this gym and reassess what works for you.
This is the other PP. I didn’t see the reply before I posted. I totally agree. The best gym/class is the one that you’ll actually do— and feel good about doing.
I’m in my 30s and in reasonably good shape and personally would HATE that type of class. Seriously. I commend you for trying because it would not be for me at all.
Anonymous
06/29/2022 13:24
Subject: Loved the gym, now am starting to really hate everything about it
Hi OP! Personally, I think that there are so many kinds of fitness classes and instructors out there, so if you’re not feeling happy, fulfilled, uplifted by this gym…then you should move on! Going to the gym shouldn’t be all about weight loss, anyway. I think it’s marvelous how committed you are to fitness but it should not make you feel bad about yourself.
Anonymous
06/29/2022 13:23
Subject: Re:Loved the gym, now am starting to really hate everything about it
You sound extremely down on yourself, and I don't think this gym is right for you.
Some of the best advice I ever heard about gyms is that the best one is the one you will actually go to. I would HATE a program like the one you described. I would never go. My family belongs to a no-frills Y. The kids take some classes there, my husband and I work out, and once in a while, we catch a family swim time. This works for us.
To be honest, I do most of my workouts outside, on my own (running and walking). I don't lift as much as I should. But again ... the best workout is the one I actually do.
I think you should let go of this gym and reassess what works for you.
Some of the best advice I ever heard about gyms is that the best one is the one you will actually go to. I would HATE a program like the one you described. I would never go. My family belongs to a no-frills Y. The kids take some classes there, my husband and I work out, and once in a while, we catch a family swim time. This works for us.
To be honest, I do most of my workouts outside, on my own (running and walking). I don't lift as much as I should. But again ... the best workout is the one I actually do.
I think you should let go of this gym and reassess what works for you.
Anonymous
06/29/2022 13:17
Subject: Loved the gym, now am starting to really hate everything about it
OP here - sorry for the diary entry. LOL that was really long!
Anonymous
06/29/2022 13:15
Subject: Loved the gym, now am starting to really hate everything about it
I belong to a strength and fitness gym that does group HIIT classes, and also runs a strength program where a trainer works with 3-5 people for an hour doing a variety of free-weight lifting (squats, bench, deadlifts are the 3 exercises we max every 12 weeks, and we build up to our max by doing a variety of lifts at increasing %s over time).
I joined the HIIT side just over a year ago, and used to it 5x week. In January, I joined the strength program, and probably only HIIT 3x/month now. I ride my bike to/from classes and justified it was ok to miss hiit b/c of that. :/
Anyway, I'm 50 and overweight. I'm not their model client as most overweight people come in there and hit weight loss goals in about 4-6 months, or they stop coming. I did their nutrition plan and lost 30 lbs, but it was strict and I fell off that wagon and have gained about 15 back. In any case, I know I don't take the nutrition side of fitness/weight loss seriously, but I'm fighting one battle at a time I guess. I am faithful to my workout program and have really increased my cardio and strength abilities. I really love my gym - like in 50 years I've hated everything about exercise, but it's been so different this time - I really love going because of the social aspect, the workouts, my improvements, my confidence, etc.
I say all this as a preface to this: Our strength trainer left the gym and her replacement is a 20 year old aspiring ninja warrior who loves calisthenics. His strength workouts use very little weights and mostly rely on body weight. I can see the benefit of his workouts, to have a strong body, if I was strong enough to lift myself, but I'm not. His workouts make me want to cry because unlike HIIT, the modifications are either not existent, he doesn't know them or they're so glaringly different, it's embarrassing. Plus, the classes just seem like a more intense version of HIIT. If I were regularly going to HIIT still, I'd actually be thinking, well this is redundant. I get the impression the new trainer is very unimpressed with my capabilities and either avoids encouraging because he doesn't know how to work with someone like me, or because he knows I'll never get this. (Gah, I'm totally hating myself right now - I am not the kind of person that feels the world is against me!)
But, who am I to criticize, right? After a year, I'm still overweight and not a great model of what their gym provides anyway. I don't take the nutrition side seriously, so is it all for naught? Plus I don't know enough about any workout plan to see why one is better or worse than another. Finally, when you're overweight, anything is better than nothing right? This is the negative self-talk I'm giving myself - probably just PMS emotions running rampant and feeling sorry for myself - but is this true? Are there benefits to this new program and I should just get used to it? Or should I go look for something like the prior program? I don't know exactly what I'm expecting here, but maybe a little pep talk saying "you got this"? Thanks for any advice.
I joined the HIIT side just over a year ago, and used to it 5x week. In January, I joined the strength program, and probably only HIIT 3x/month now. I ride my bike to/from classes and justified it was ok to miss hiit b/c of that. :/
Anyway, I'm 50 and overweight. I'm not their model client as most overweight people come in there and hit weight loss goals in about 4-6 months, or they stop coming. I did their nutrition plan and lost 30 lbs, but it was strict and I fell off that wagon and have gained about 15 back. In any case, I know I don't take the nutrition side of fitness/weight loss seriously, but I'm fighting one battle at a time I guess. I am faithful to my workout program and have really increased my cardio and strength abilities. I really love my gym - like in 50 years I've hated everything about exercise, but it's been so different this time - I really love going because of the social aspect, the workouts, my improvements, my confidence, etc.
I say all this as a preface to this: Our strength trainer left the gym and her replacement is a 20 year old aspiring ninja warrior who loves calisthenics. His strength workouts use very little weights and mostly rely on body weight. I can see the benefit of his workouts, to have a strong body, if I was strong enough to lift myself, but I'm not. His workouts make me want to cry because unlike HIIT, the modifications are either not existent, he doesn't know them or they're so glaringly different, it's embarrassing. Plus, the classes just seem like a more intense version of HIIT. If I were regularly going to HIIT still, I'd actually be thinking, well this is redundant. I get the impression the new trainer is very unimpressed with my capabilities and either avoids encouraging because he doesn't know how to work with someone like me, or because he knows I'll never get this. (Gah, I'm totally hating myself right now - I am not the kind of person that feels the world is against me!)
But, who am I to criticize, right? After a year, I'm still overweight and not a great model of what their gym provides anyway. I don't take the nutrition side seriously, so is it all for naught? Plus I don't know enough about any workout plan to see why one is better or worse than another. Finally, when you're overweight, anything is better than nothing right? This is the negative self-talk I'm giving myself - probably just PMS emotions running rampant and feeling sorry for myself - but is this true? Are there benefits to this new program and I should just get used to it? Or should I go look for something like the prior program? I don't know exactly what I'm expecting here, but maybe a little pep talk saying "you got this"? Thanks for any advice.