Anonymous wrote:Are people making this switch? If not, they should. Saying “stay at home mom” has always been only slightly better than “housewife” or “homemaker”. It’s such a disrespectful title that fails to acknowledge the massive role of primary caregivers in our little human section of the universe.

Anyway, I think we should just switch to “work from home”. Whether a woman is sitting in her “office/den/pantry” and ensuring that the section headings are properly aligned and consistently formatted for an insurance company’s lawsuit OR she’s playing with the her in the backyard, either way she’s working from home. Just working on different things.

This also means, in my view, that WFH has the potential to be incrementally anti-patriarchy if it can provide a practical and non-awkward way to blur these lines a bit so women’s choices aren’t so politicized.

What??? Lol no. Playing with my kids in the backyard is not WORK. it is what I do on the weekends, you know my days away from my job...

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Anonymous wrote:Lol, OP. Who cares what anyone else thinks. In real life, I say I take care of my kids. No one cares outside of this fantasy world I call DCUMs. This forum isn't real life.

+1

+1

I have a full time paid professional job and serve as the primary caregiver to three kids, including two with special needs. (I do have a husband but the childcare definitely primarily falls on me, due to his regular travel and other factors.)

Sorry OP, being a SAHM does not equal WFH.

You want to stick it to the patriarchy and make your choices less politicized? Get off your butt, earn enough money to support your family and get yourself a stay at home husband, if you "want the best" fir your child. See, no need to get creative with words if everyone has a choice and you can realistically offer that choice to your spouse. Otherwise, you just want to stick someone with care and feeding of you and feel good about it.

Anonymous wrote:That’s funny - I was thinking of doing the opposite. I work for a corporation remotely. I am at home literally all day, so am I a SAHM too? I definitely “stay at home” both for my corporate work and the childcare/housework we do.

+1. I work from home, but I’m still a mom. So yes, technically I’m a SAHM. Especially now that my office plans to give up its downtown space and go 100% remote.

It’s not a job. You don’t earn a paycheck and don’t have a boss. But you could get a job if you wanted to! Just go back to work.

That’s funny - I was thinking of doing the opposite. I work for a corporation remotely. I am at home literally all day, so am I a SAHM too? I definitely “stay at home” both for my corporate work and the childcare/housework we do.

Ya’ll are so desperate for relevancy.

Anonymous wrote:Lol, OP. Who cares what anyone else thinks. In real life, I say I take care of my kids. No one cares outside of this fantasy world I call DCUMs. This forum isn't real life.

+1

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Anonymous wrote:yeah no sorry.

maybe if the kids are babies and toddlers.

elementary school age kids and higher who are in school nice months out of the year? nope. that's a good six hours or so a day when the kids are out of the sahm's hair.

My kids take the bus to and from school. They do activities at school and then take the late bus home. I do very little for them during typical business hours. Therefore I work for money at another job while they are at school.

Most likely, you have two jobs. The joke is on you 😆

Nope. Raising your own children may be a responsibility, but its not a job and you don't "WFH." You tried it, though.

Anonymous wrote:yeah no sorry.

maybe if the kids are babies and toddlers.

elementary school age kids and higher who are in school nice months out of the year? nope. that's a good six hours or so a day when the kids are out of the sahm's hair.

My kids take the bus to and from school. They do activities at school and then take the late bus home. I do very little for them during typical business hours. Therefore I work for money at another job while they are at school.

+1

Anonymous wrote:yeah no sorry.

maybe if the kids are babies and toddlers.

elementary school age kids and higher who are in school nice months out of the year? nope. that's a good six hours or so a day when the kids are out of the sahm's hair.

My kids take the bus to and from school. They do activities at school and then take the late bus home. I do very little for them during typical business hours. Therefore I work for money at another job while they are at school.

Most likely, you have two jobs. The joke is on you 😆

Lol, OP. Who cares what anyone else thinks. In real life, I say I take care of my kids. No one cares outside of this fantasy world I call DCUMs. This forum isn't real life.

yeah no sorry.

maybe if the kids are babies and toddlers.

elementary school age kids and higher who are in school nice months out of the year? nope. that's a good six hours or so a day when the kids are out of the sahm's hair.

My kids take the bus to and from school. They do activities at school and then take the late bus home. I do very little for them during typical business hours. Therefore I work for money at another job while they are at school.

Are people making this switch? If not, they should. Saying “stay at home mom” has always been only slightly better than “housewife” or “homemaker”. It’s such a disrespectful title that fails to acknowledge the massive role of primary caregivers in our little human section of the universe.

Anyway, I think we should just switch to “work from home”. Whether a woman is sitting in her “office/den/pantry” and ensuring that the section headings are properly aligned and consistently formatted for an insurance company’s lawsuit OR she’s playing with the her in the backyard, either way she’s working from home. Just working on different things.

This also means, in my view, that WFH has the potential to be incrementally anti-patriarchy if it can provide a practical and non-awkward way to blur these lines a bit so women’s choices aren’t so politicized.