Anonymous
Post 05/30/2022 12:14     Subject: No Sleepover Rule?
Anonymous wrote:I hate sleepovers - ruins the next day. We allow it for birthday parties but discourage for just a regular weekend. We’ve hosted a few for birthdays but always made clear parents could also pick up in evening. A lot of international families preferred that and I wanted them to know that was okay. In subsequent years, they started letting their kids stay over. I think it’s safer with a bigger group at a party for younger kids than just one guest. Teens are another story and issue.
Agree with this poster. We found most parents are taking this approach. There are the outliers of course, the no sleepovers ever crowd versus the my child wants a sleepover every weekend crowd. We lean more towards the special occasion only crowd and our child has had no issues making and keeping friends.
Anonymous
Post 05/30/2022 12:04     Subject: Re:No Sleepover Rule?
Anonymous wrote:You pick up cranky kids and they are cranky the rest of the day! It’s such a strange cultural thing here.


It sounds like your kids need some practice dealing with changes if you think that would be true.

Anonymous
Post 05/30/2022 12:03     Subject: No Sleepover Rule?
Anonymous wrote:No. To be honest, the families I know with "no sleepover" rules are very religious an paranoid someone will sexually abuse their child. Ironic.[/quote

Ironic, or makes sense because many religious communities have addressed sexual abuse in their midst, and parents have learned to be vigilant? Whereas secular institutions like public schools often still ignore the possibility and don't safeguard children?

Anonymous
Post 05/30/2022 12:00     Subject: No Sleepover Rule?
I hate sleepovers - ruins the next day. We allow it for birthday parties but discourage for just a regular weekend. We’ve hosted a few for birthdays but always made clear parents could also pick up in evening. A lot of international families preferred that and I wanted them to know that was okay. In subsequent years, they started letting their kids stay over. I think it’s safer with a bigger group at a party for younger kids than just one guest. Teens are another story and issue.
Anonymous
Post 05/30/2022 09:26     Subject: Re:No Sleepover Rule?
Sleepovers are an American thing. Not all cultures do this. It’s ok not to. My friends who weren’t allowed to have sleepovers are ok with it not having them for their kids as parents. Most of them have a no sleepover rule for their own children now. Considering they are responsible, good adults, I’d say it turns out okay if you decide to not have them! The judgement about others being weird… I think it’s about one’s own insecurities. Maybe they feel they’re weird themselves who knows? No need to judge either est esp since This is 💯 a cultural thing.
Anonymous
Post 05/30/2022 08:41     Subject: No Sleepover Rule?
When I was a kid, there were a lot of first generation Americans at my school. Some of those girls weren’t allowed to attend sleepovers. Their parents would pick them up around 10 or 11. It stood out a little bit, but it didn’t make people not want to be friends with them. They were from Thailand and Central America, if I remember correctly. Honestly, some sketchy stuff can happen if your kid sleeps over somebody else’s house. One of my friends older brothers kind of molested a girl in my class when she was sleeping over. She was eleven, he was fourteen, and she woke up and he was in bed with her trying to kiss her, touch her, etc. It’s not a totally crazy rule..
Anonymous
Post 05/30/2022 08:33     Subject: No Sleepover Rule?
We have that. Will relax it when they are older teen.
Anonymous
Post 05/30/2022 08:30     Subject: No Sleepover Rule?
No. To be honest, the families I know with "no sleepover" rules are very religious an paranoid someone will sexually abuse their child. Ironic.
Anonymous
Post 05/30/2022 08:28     Subject: No Sleepover Rule?
No
Anonymous
Post 05/30/2022 08:24     Subject: No Sleepover Rule?
We only instituted one later, like in middle school, for one son because we saw and heard the behavior of his friends and him when they slept over here. Much too wild and it went on all night long. It didn’t seem to hurt his social life.

If my younger ones act like that as teens, sleepovers will all stop. At least at my house. If you are talking about no because I’m worried about other parents, no. We don’t have that. We stopped for a while in the spring of 2020 with covid and don’t allow them if anyone has something important the next day.
Anonymous
Post 05/30/2022 08:22     Subject: No Sleepover Rule?
My kids have a sleepover every week. Sometimes with one kid, sometimes with a few. Kids here from other countries often aren’t allowed to participate.
Anonymous
Post 05/30/2022 08:03     Subject: No Sleepover Rule?
My kids haven't asked to attend sleepovers since elementary school. I didn't know they were still a thing.
Anonymous
Post 05/30/2022 08:00     Subject: Re:No Sleepover Rule?
We have a no sleepover rule unless we know the family very well. We’ve only ever let our kids spend the night at a very very very good friends house and only very sparingly. Our kids aren’t the only ones of their friends who are not allowed to have sleepovers. I don’t know if this will change as they get older but right now they are totally fine and have lots of friends. They don’t *love* that we do this, but they are ok with it. To be honest, sleepovers are SO overrated. You pick up cranky kids and they are cranky the rest of the day! It’s such a strange cultural thing here.
Anonymous
Post 05/30/2022 07:56     Subject: No Sleepover Rule?
Definitely hurt the one weird family we knew who had it. Their kid often felt left out.
Anonymous
Post 05/30/2022 07:53     Subject: No Sleepover Rule?
Any families have a no-sleepover rule? Did you find it hurt your child’s social life? Are you glad you had it?

No judgment please. Just curious about how teen/tween life pans out.