My condolences on the apparent death of your husband.

Anonymous wrote:You'll get back to your pre-kid weekend in 10 years, well 8.5 years now.

Don’t lie to OP!

DH and I were just talking about this. DS is 6 and obviously more independent than a 1.5yo. So it’s better than it was several years ago, but we miss the lazy weekends we had before him.

I agree with trading off weekend mornings with spouse, if possible. We don’t do it every weekend, but let each other know when we’d like a morning to sleep in.

It also gets better after the toddler years. I have 3 kids, and while we have sports on Saturdays now for part of the year, there are weekends when I can still have a somewhat leisurely morning. 4 and 6 yo wake up and play together, 2yo sleeps later most days, so I can relax with my coffee.

Anonymous wrote:I get it. Weekends were rough when my kids were little (and I was a SAHM). Holiday weekends in particular. Now they’re older and independent and I work M-F, and I love weekends again. Things evolve, OP. Both in your life and your kid’s. You’ll get to a better place again.

This is true. But I hear you OP. Even though you think you know what you are getting into when you start a family, you don't really "know"
What you are getting into. Write back when the kid is a teen and you have to pick them up from the movies at 10:30pm. That sucks too.

You'll get there, OP. You're in the darkest days of life with really young kids. Even super high maintenance LOs begin to be able to play independently, without tight supervision, at 3-4 years old. Some kids can do it even younger.

Keep reminding yourself this is just a phase and that it won't last. And if you can, set up an alternating schedule with your partner so you get a weekend morning to yourself. When your child is eligible, send them to preschool. (Where we are, that's typically age 3.) Half-day preschool during the week is a great way for your kid to learn extremely important skills they will need to succeed in school and will provide you with the break you need.

Op can you partner take a lead at least one of the weekday mornings? Totally understand how this would be especially frustrating as a sahm. As a mom who works outside the home I can still totally understand and I think at least for me, it’s different from my daily routine so I enjoy the slow mornings with my kids. And my husband and I switch off who gets to sleep in a little bit so we each get one day a weekend. One thing that I also like to do on weekend mornings is sometimes get out of the house to a bagel place in the morning or something - out of routine and so I don’t have to get the kitchen dirty. Anyway totally normal how you’re feeling!

I get it. Weekends were rough when my kids were little (and I was a SAHM). Holiday weekends in particular. Now they’re older and independent and I work M-F, and I love weekends again. Things evolve, OP. Both in your life and your kid’s. You’ll get to a better place again.

Anonymous wrote:You'll get back to your pre-kid weekend in 10 years, well 8.5 years now.

And then it will be frustrating that they sleep half the day away and nothing can be done.

10:45 am typing from a dark hotel roomright now.

Is a spouse/co-parent not in the picture?

You'll get back to your pre-kid weekend in 10 years, well 8.5 years now.

This is called parenting, OP. What did you expect?

Anonymous wrote:Can you alternate with your partner?

This. Work-out a schedule with your spouse where you’re on your own one weekend morning until say 11:30am. Spouse can have the other.

Can you alternate with your partner?

Have a 1.5 year old. Pre kid MDW would be sleeping in till 9, brunch, lazing around in a park, bbq and movie with DH. Now I’m prepping breakfast at 7am, cleaning up dishes, reading books to kid all morning, trying to help him not kill himself, schelping to playground at 1030am and getting attacked the moment I sit down. I love caring for him Monday to Friday because it’s the weekday and it’s my “work”, but I really miss lazy do nothing weekends. I get time off once he naps and goes to bed but I never get a quiet morning anymore.